Page 5 | to not understand why some parents have adult only living rooms

carriedababi · 2011-07-27T17:10:26+00:00

seems a bit mean to the childrento say this living room is adults only, i can understand wanting your own space a bit in the bedroom, but to have an adults only living room... well surely you live together as one family don't you.

Tiredmumno1 · 28/07/2011 00:25

We try to keep ours child free

We have a big reception room downstairs, the kids like to play there, we have the upstairs living room and just try to encourage them to play in there playroom, which is on the same floor, and they have their big bedroom on the top floor, at least we have our own bathroom to escape to, that is out of bounds We try to keep ours child free

We have a big reception room downstairs, the kids like to play there, we have the upstairs living room and just try to encourage them to play in there playroom, which is on the same floor, and they have their big bedroom on the top floor, at least we have our own bathroom to escape to, that is out of bounds

Tiredmumno1 · 28/07/2011 00:26

Whoops sorry, phone having a mad moment again ry, phone having a mad moment again

TheSecondComing · 28/07/2011 00:37

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plonker · 28/07/2011 00:45

My dream house has an adult-only living room.

It has a huge second living room with big ole comfy couches, lots of bright colourful scatter cushions, a lovely big rug and a TV with a dvd/wii/any other hearts-desire console.

Huge toy boxes (that magically collect strewn toys, naturally) have their own, perfect fit around the room.

We would all 'live' in this room on a daily basis.

Next door (sound-proofed, naturally) would be a state of the art living room, full of finery that I would never have to worry about being touched because this would be the adult-only room.

Children would be electrocuted gently carried back to the other living room if they tried to enter.

NunTheWiser · 28/07/2011 01:10

We have a family room and open plan kitchen / diner which the whole family and UnWiseDog inhabit. The telly and computer are in there too. Each child has their own room for all their random crap toys and books.
DH has his "man cave" and I have a blissfully crap free library / sitting room. We have a house with enough room to each have our own little sanctuary. My idea of bliss is to have a space that doesn't need random bits of plastic picked up off the floor or juice spills wiped up every day. It's not about keeping the kids out, just their detritus.
TBH, they're not bothered about coming into my space because there is no telly. There are far more frequent incursions into DH's space (pool table and pinball machine) because it's far more entertaining. My library is a wonderful, quiet space for reading in peace - one of my great joys in life. DD1 is a great reader and enjoys reading in there too.

joric · 28/07/2011 08:10

I hope the OP won't be too upset when her DC tell her to get out and stay out of their bedroom as teenagers........

joric · 28/07/2011 08:12

Nunthewiser.. :o @ man-cave

Megatron · 28/07/2011 08:24

My house is completely open plan so i couldn't keep the blighters out if i wanted to, which i don't really. Some folks like a bit of peace and space and others revel in the chaos i guess and either is fine with me. Though i must admit to having the odd pang of jealousy at my friends house with playroom and three reception rooms!

alistron1 · 28/07/2011 08:43

We have 2 reception rooms. One has the dining table, open fire, big sofa, arm chair TV and that's the family room. The other is my book nook. It has NO tv, all my books, nice comfy sofa and music stuff. The kids are allowed in there, but it's a bit dull for them

FannyPriceless · 28/07/2011 08:48

I want nun's house.

encyclogirl · 28/07/2011 08:55

We have a two reception room house and have a sort of adult only room, the kids have taken over one room so we've kind of decamped to the other.

Sometimes they drive us out of that one too and we end up sitting at the kitchen table.

Insomnia11 · 28/07/2011 10:26

I'd like to turn the living/dining room back into two rooms, have one as the general living room as it is now, and the other as a study, with computer/laptop/Wii etc another TV, desk and a sofa. So kids can study in there, either of us can work from home or watch another TV programme/film in there while others want to watch something else...etc. I'd just rather keep bedrooms as bedrooms when the kids get to the stage of wanting electronics in there and have it all in communal areas.

MooMooFarm · 28/07/2011 11:17

I used to have a BF who's very posh (and slightly mad) had a 'best' room where no children were allowed, and also a 'christmas' room - which was always decorated for Christmas, complete with tree, and was out of bounds up until Christmas Eve each year - and then again from 12th night - honestly!

MooMooFarm · 28/07/2011 11:19

Oops meant 'very posh mum'

queenmaeve · 28/07/2011 12:08

at a christmas room! Now why didnt I think of that

sunnydee · 28/07/2011 13:26

God I so want a library. With a view over my own parkland and a roaring fire and a squashy sofa.

dolceebanana · 28/07/2011 14:28

We currently have a sitting room and playroom. The DCs (all 5 and under), tend to take some things into sitting room to play with but mostly use plarooms and their own bedrooms. Just the way things have evolved but I do like to keep things fairly orderly.

We are starting to design a new house, and yes, a library cum snug type room is on the wishlist sunny.

Christmas room - don't the decorations, if indeed left up all year, get terribly dusty?

mathanxiety · 28/07/2011 18:25

The farmhouse where my mum grew up in Ireland had a formal parlour where important events were held, such as wakes (with the body in the coffin present in the room) and nothing else. It was an incredibly old house, with walls that were several feet thick, an old hob in the kitchen -- you could stand in the fireplace and look up into the sooty chimney. Generations of dead people had spent their last few hours in the house in that parlour. I crept in a few times. It had old, heavy furniture and heavy curtains and it had an air of complete and utter stillness. If I came upon a house that had a room where children were not supposed to go I would wonder if that was where the family kept the bodies...

ChristinedePizan · 28/07/2011 20:55

I have an office which is out of bounds (sort of). And a living room that I dream will be out of bounds. I have an open plan kitchen/dining room with sofas and (soon to be) tv/play room (three rooms) which I think is perfectly big enough for one child to trash. He doesn't need the whole house. And I wfm so I need a room where he doesn't tip all my papers on the floor as my filing system is rather chaotic complicated

ChristinedePizan · 28/07/2011 20:56

math - that was like my mum's house. They had the parlour which I don't think anyone ever used unless there were visitors. I just like the idea of slumping on a sofa in the evening without Lightning McQueen stabbing me in the back or finding a banana skin down the side of the sofa ...