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AIBU?

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to be a bit cross with a woman feeding from a jar in the baby room

109 replies

LisasCat · 21/07/2011 11:47

The baby room in Boots is a bit of a squeeze anywy. It's a small room and they've crammed in two seats for feeding, two changing tables and a toilet cubicle. Just about enough floor space left for 2 buggies and accompanying parents.

Yesterday I went in with hungry DD, and a couple were BFing their twins on the chairs (well, mum was feeding, while dad occupied the other), so I didn't begrudge them both chairs. I leant against the changing table and latched DD on.

Then in came another woman with a 4/5 year old. Turns out this was the aunt 'saving a space'. 2 mins later in came the mum with the baby. Twin couple had now finished, and I said new woman should sit, as I was nearly done and DD would unlatch if I moved. So down she sits, and gets out a jar of baby food, which she proceeds to spoon feed to her child, cold.

So have I misunderstood the point here? I thought baby rooms were to give BFing mums a bit of privacy or FFing mums the facilities to heat the milk. If you're just feeding cold food from a jar, that can be done anywhere, and definitely in far more pleasant surroundings than a cramped baby room with a faint whiff of pooey nappies. I think I'm just miffed that she took up room with her extended family as well, when it was obviously very busy in that room.

OP posts:
TheBigJessie · 21/07/2011 16:17

Amendment: twins' mother.

I know how to use apostrophes, honest.

TheBigJessie · 21/07/2011 16:28

PS: I may be totally unreasonable here and have totally misread TQoD's post and meaning. If this is the sake, I apologise. Nevertheless, I am so annoyed, I want to swear.

As you were.

DandyLioness · 21/07/2011 16:31

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TandB · 21/07/2011 16:31

It's a baby room. She had a baby. With whom she was doing baby stuff.

YABU.

TheBigJessie · 21/07/2011 16:35

Yep, I did. Because I was (it turns out rightly) concerned, that we would take up too much room. I used to think I'd been paranoid, but it turns out I wasn't.

alowVera · 21/07/2011 16:52

Thebigjessie, IMO better than next to a nappy big. I used to bf dd walking around town pushing buggy with other hand. (granted not twins) I used to get offered seats all the time, but dd would not feed if I sat down.

Reply to OP a baby room is a baby room however you feed the baby.

TheBigJessie · 21/07/2011 17:00

All true. There's just something about the entitled attitude of "what was a man doing in there" that irritates me.

I mean, at the time, I didn't want my crowd (me, babies, and my lovely handsome male assistant husband)to upset any hypothetical woman who was feeling vulnerable and needed privacy. But that was my choice. It's quite different to people wanting a husband to leave, whether or not it may mean the baby room is a no-go zone for the mother, too.

Catslikehats · 21/07/2011 17:20

thebigjessie presumably the dad would then take the non feeding twin outside with him.

I think if a mum is about to BF a very small baby it is just polite to ask if she minds you being there.

When I have been about to BF in feeding rooms men have always asked if I mind them being there. I have always said I don't, but I think it is courteous particularly as most BF mums have presumably gone there to get some privacy.

TheBigJessie · 21/07/2011 18:18

Sure, it's polite for a man to offer to leave. However, given this man did not, maybe his wife didn't want him leaving? Maybe they were about to swap the babies over, and he would then change one baby's bottom, or she wanted to try tandem feeding, or they were swapping the babies repeatedly, or she just plain wanted him and the other baby both there, without having to yell or phone him back inside when she needed him.

Toughasoldboots · 21/07/2011 19:19

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BitOfFun · 21/07/2011 19:21

Exactly. I didn't assume he should leave at all (I imagine a person on hand is pretty useful with twins. But he shouldn't have monopolised the chair.

TheBigJessie · 21/07/2011 19:31

Oh, I have no argument to make for him about the chair, at all.

saladsandwich · 21/07/2011 20:17

YABU - she has as much entitlement to use that room as you do, maybe she likes privacy when feeding from jars because of all the folk that judge them?

p.s i was expecting this thread to be about a woman eating baby food from the title lol x

Sunshine78 · 22/07/2011 08:49

Bit of fun - lighten up!! I am just getting sick of people wasting time arguing over stupid irrelevant things when there is people out there with reall problems!

IF I WANT TO SHOUT I WILL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GETS MY OPINION HEARED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CHILL OUT EVERYONE AND BE GRATEFULL YOUR TROUBLES ARE SO MINOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HoneyPablo · 22/07/2011 08:56

Sunshine 78 are you new to this forum? Have the schools broken up already in deepest Norfolk?

VelveteenRabbit · 22/07/2011 09:00

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TandB · 22/07/2011 09:04

Yes, shouting and insane numbers of exclamation marks certainly gets your opinion heard.

It then gets your opinion disregarded as coming from someone a bit shouty and weird.

MissyBrookes · 22/07/2011 11:32

To be honest.... it doesn't sound like this woman inconvenienced ANYONE by being there. You SAID you were happy standing, and there wasn't a que of mums with screaming newborns waiting outside for them to move. So you are being ridiculous to get annoyed with this.

nethunsreject · 22/07/2011 11:37

yabu

lowra · 22/07/2011 11:37

YABU.

Sunshine78 · 22/07/2011 12:45

lighten up everybody its the holidays!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yep in deepest darkest back of beyound Norfolk our poor children have been kicked out of school and into the care of their mad parents!!!!!!!!!

I know its about talking about anything I just get amused at how as grownups we get "cross" about something so small and so many people have to put in their little bit!

MissyBrookes · 22/07/2011 13:00

So many people have put in their little bit because she asked us to? Otherwise she wouldn't have posted. If no one replied to threads on here then it would completely defeat the purpouse of this place.

Sunshine78 · 22/07/2011 13:14

its gone on for 24hours back and forth have some people no life other than to post on here - give it to me mumsnet I can take it Wink

I think some of you are taking me alot more seriously than I take myself - oh another thing for you to comment about Sad

I'll just enjoy my Brew and Biscuit while you all discuss what a horrible/imature person I am - not that any of you actualy know me so please dont mind if I dont pay much attention Smile

TandB · 22/07/2011 13:17

"so many people have to put in their little bit!"

You know how a forum actually works, right?

Sunshine78 · 22/07/2011 13:19

no I'm stupid could you please explain it to me in words of one sylabol please