to be a bit cross with a woman feeding from a jar in the baby room

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The baby room in Boots is a bit of a squeeze anywy. It's a small room and they've crammed in two seats for feeding, two changing tables and a toilet cubicle. Just about enough floor space left for 2 buggies and accompanying parents.

Yesterday I went in with hungry DD, and a couple were BFing their twins on the chairs (well, mum was feeding, while dad occupied the other), so I didn't begrudge them both chairs. I leant against the changing table and latched DD on.

Then in came another woman with a 4/5 year old. Turns out this was the aunt 'saving a space'. 2 mins later in came the mum with the baby. Twin couple had now finished, and I said new woman should sit, as I was nearly done and DD would unlatch if I moved. So down she sits, and gets out a jar of baby food, which she proceeds to spoon feed to her child, cold.

So have I misunderstood the point here? I thought baby rooms were to give BFing mums a bit of privacy or FFing mums the facilities to heat the milk. If you're just feeding cold food from a jar, that can be done anywhere, and definitely in far more pleasant surroundings than a cramped baby room with a faint whiff of pooey nappies. I think I'm just miffed that she took up room with her extended family as well, when it was obviously very busy in that room.

You can have a YANBU from me too. You are feeding there for privacy reasons, she could gave fed her baby in its buggy anywhere. The chair bloke was a divvy too, and should have stood up.

iF THIS IS ALL YOU HAVE TO FEEL CROSS ABOUT/ANNOYED THEN CONSIDER YOURSELF VERY LUCKY AND MOVE ON - YOU COULD HAVE GONE TO THE CAFE/PARK INSTEAD OF STANDING IN THE ROOM YOU HAVE DESCRIBED!!!

YABU. Her child has just as much right to be fed as yours, what is being fed is irrelevant really.

2oldtobeamum- how is that relevant?
This is about who should use baby feeding rooms..the answer seems to be that anyone that needs to feed their baby can use a feeding room.

I wouldn't have fed dd in those horrible boring rooms anyway - bf or jar (and it being cold is fine btw). I always bf dd in a corner of a cafe while enjoying a drink and being able to watch the world go by. But that was my choice - parents are far too judgemental of each other. Give her a break.

I actually would be more cross about the father in there. I dunno, I breastfed everywhere but am under the impression many new breastfeeding mums use those rooms as they want privacy.
Last thing you want is some strange chap sitting right next to you when you are learning to breastfeed..

Sunshine78- shouting (which is what block caps is) is rude. It does not give your opini

Why shouldnt the father be there? If he was out on his own with his FF baby (or jars) doesnt he have as much right to feed in there as a mother in the same situation would?

...opinion any extra weight.

And a bit of courtesy to a woman 19 days post-partum is just normal, isnt it?

Just wanted to add - as a mum expecting twins, If I went into a feeding room (can't think of a worse place other than a loo) ad there was a chair for dh, he would sit in it. He is a real gent though and I know he would offer his chair immediately if another mum walked in. However, I imagine in the early days of dts being born we will be shattered and therefore his manners may slip slightly and he may stay seated.

downpipe sorry tongue in cheek humour, the milk comes out of a packet.

I'd have been a bit too, OP

You mentioned the 'cold' bit because she didn't need the warming facilities, didn't you?

Ah well, it is AIBU after all

Ahh your dd is only 19 days old - congratulation
In that case as you are only 19 days post natal you can be as unreasonable as you like! enjoy your dd

Ha ha! Only on MN can you get an OP like this one!!!

YABU taking a child in a room like that. They stink. And full of judgy people.

jeeeeezus,no matter what you do someone judges,did it occur to you that she may have needed to give baby milk after solids,im weaning dd and she only hs a tiny bit and then some milk,and they need a nappy change,you are a prent not royalty you need to learn to share facilities like all of us.

You didn't begrudge the dad sitting down when he wasn't feeding the child! Why would you mind the aunt sitting down? Especially as you were offered the seat and didn't want it!

I ff and would hate to think if i did need to use this facility that bf mums would think i shouldnt,I agree about the privacy as i have bf in the past but if you are out and dont want a coffee or its cold then sometimes these rooms would be your only option and you cant really change their bum outside in a busy town,a lot fo the families i work with are on very low incomes and shouldnt be made to stump up for a drink in order to feed their babies.
Its another case of live and let live not happening.

YABU

I don't understand why it wasn't rude for the dad to be sat down but was rude for the aunt to be present.

Feeding rooms are for feeding

NB the dad should have stood up an insisted you had seat and asked if you wanted him to leave.

I'm with you on this OP, it is the kind of thing that would pee me right off.

It appears my fears are confirmed, and I was right to hardly ever use feeding rooms with my young breastfed twins.

I generally used a park bench, instead.

Asked if she wanted him to leave indeed?! Yes, I'm sure the twin's mother would have liked having to look after both twins on her lap, while trying to breastfeed one of them, while dad hung around uselessly outside the room.