To ask my dd teacher to keep her away from a boy with suspected ADHD because she is easily distracted

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My dd has not yet started school. She will start in September. I have been told by the preschool teachers that my dd is very easily distracted and we have concerns that she may have a language disorder, like her eldest brother has. It is really important that she concentrates on what is being said to her or she will be totally disengaged with the class activities.

There is a little boy in her preschool who I would bet money has a behavioural issue. I mean this factually rather than as a 'put down'. I have a neice with ADHD and his actions are very similar to hers.

I am very concerned my dd has a language disorder like her brother. This is a big concern for me. This compounds my view that I really want her to be sat away from the little boy as he has a tendancy to get her in a head lock and pull her to the ground or to grab her by her clothing and swing her round. My dd doesn't like it. I spoke to the preschool and they said that the boy doesn't mean to be horrible, he is just over enthusiastic. In other words, just put up with it.

It will probably be taken negatively by the teachers in Reception - she hasn't even started proper school yet! However, she has had a year in preschool with him.

The preschool is part of the school and there are strong connections between the 2 years - they even swap TAs every now and then to ensure a smooth transition. This won't be news regarding my opinion on the boy, but I think it may well be taken badly because I'm already dictating what I want for my dd before she has even started.

I've only read the title of your thread, but to my mind, that is enough grounds to state YABU. The teacher is there to educate and integrate, not segregate.

All 3 of my children have SEN (ADHD in fact) and none of them cause disruption in the classroom. ADHD means that they can't concentrate on what is going on in the class, not that they are jumping on tables, chucking chairs around and mounting a concerted campaign to stop every other child in the class from achieving their genius potential.
Have you considered that having a speech and language delay (or indeed any other form of SEN) could mean that your DD might present with some behavioural problems or the odd meltdown in the class? How would you feel if some random mum in the class tried to tell the teacher to keep your DD away from her little darling so as not to compromise her learning?

I have only read a couple of pages, but I'm afraid you're being vvv unreasonable.
Unfortunately, there are always going to be kids that are difficult/have ADHD/learning difficulties. Even if you moved schools/classes there are always going to be difficult kids.
You can't wrap her in cotton wool - but teach her to stick up for herself, and tell teacher if anything bad of a violent nature happens.

I too am chuckling at the irony in your words OP!

You do realise that another parent could show the same prejudice towards your daughter and her possible SAL as you are displaying towards this boy that isnt even diagnosed, apart from by you