Call me old fashioned if you like but AIBU

[MrsKravitz]

In thinking that its inappropriate of someone to give your child alcohol when they stay over.

Child is 16 and mate's Dad bought them beers which they drank until 1 am.

[OracleInaCoracle]

There's a big difference in allowing a young adult to drink at 16 and a child at 13/14.

[reelingintheyears]

The thing is you can't choose their friends and there's always been an element of pressure in teenage friendships.

They have to find their own way and your idea of nice company won't be the same as your DS unfortunatley.

He probably will get rat arsed sometimes because they all do/we all did.

Maybe you didn't,i don't know that.

But it really is a sort of rite of passage.

He's 16 and can legally leave home should he want to (and i'm sure he doesn't).

Maybe he didn't think he should have to ask you first.

It won't be that long untill he does and that's a day.

[reelingintheyears]

lissielou's got echolalia again then

[AMumInScotland]

Properly speaking I do agree that the other parent should have asked. But since your son is 16, the dad probably thought he was old enough to be asked directly "Do you normally get allowed beer?" rather than saying "Shall I phone your mum and ask if you can have a beer?". Or else he knows from previous conversations either with your son or with his own that he's drunk beer before, with your knowledge and consent.

Your son could no doubt answer with a clear unembarrased "Oh yes mum's fine about me having a beer"

He therefore took that as implied consent rather than coming to you for explicit consent.


FWIW DS (17) has been to parties at various friends houses and had some wine there - no parent has ever phoned me to ask if it was ok. DS knows that we are fine with him having some (in moderation), and would have said so if asked.

[OracleInaCoracle]

Reeling, and no internet thanks to those wankers at virgin, so I am becursed

[OracleInaCoracle]

Reeling, and no internet thanks to those wankers at virgin, so I am becursed

[usualsuspect]

I agree if my ds had been asked at 16 if it was ok for him to have a beer ,he would have said yes

I would be ok with it though

[reelingintheyears]

usualsuspect...i very much suspect that mine were the one's drinking at 14/15.

Not in huge excess but i'm pretty sure they did it at DDs friends house at the weekends.

Oh,and i let them have a glass of wine at dinner on Sunday/christmas.(if there was enough)