To want to slap this woman into next Tuesday??

[Rosierubies]

I'm furious, mum at school when observing the father of a child in our childrens class parking up (in a very nice car) to collect 'oh look at his car,' glance away 'i'll just say it shall I, drug dealer' (exaggerated whisper) WTF!!! Incidently this guy is also the father of one of the few black children in our school, he also favours a casual clothing style...he is also really nice and my dh's barber. I can only think that this is stereotyping on racial grounds and I'm furious, it's alright for her to own a 600k house but not for him to have a 30k car. I want to report it as a racist incident at school and chuck something at her would that bu?

[FreudianSlipper]

of course this comment was driven by racism

if you are a young black man who happens to be successful many treat you with suspicion, sadly many are still not given the same chances and are having to still prove themselves against many who beleive in the stereotypical crap that areas of the media has happily portrays

i have a friend who is a very succesful lawyer, gets remarks made everyday at work all in the name boys humour and has been searched by the police numberous times, my white friends never have strange that

[ApocalypseCheeseToastie]

But a white chav/ hip hop dripping in bling type driving a 30k car would I inagine get the same comment. He wasn't wearing a suit, had he been the woman may not have commented.

[springboksaplenty]

An Audi A3 is hardly a 'drug dealer car'. If it had been a range rover/BMW etc with spinning hubcaps and blacked out windows, I'd have said that it wasn't a racist comment.

But no, she made a snidey prejudiced comment on a black man in a white neighbourhood driving the same car as everyone else. Because everyone knows the only way a black man can get an expensive car is by dealing

This is part of the prejudice that is still part and parcel of British culture to a large degree.

[Mumbrane]

What a horrible woman. I would have looked her up and down and said 'Do you buy your drugs from him, then?'

[springboksaplenty]

ACT I see what you mean but unless the OP has failed to mention the bling bling attire in her post, the only reason he was singled out was because of his colour. A white man would have to change his clothes to fit a stereotype in order to be called that. But a black man in normal clothes in a similar car to what everyone else is driving can fit into a drug dealer stereotype merely by the fact he's black. That's not right.

[breatheslowly]

Leaving aside whether this was racist or not, who would you report it to? I don't like to hear racist comments, but I didn't realise they were reportable.

[ApocalypseCheeseToastie]

I agree tho, if she makes that comment again, ask her if it's her dealer.

Or do what I do when people make ignorant comments, turn my back and say 'i'm not interested, find someone who is'

[berylmuspratt]

She sounds jealous to me.

[hairfullofsnakes]

sounds like something out of a film! what a ridiculous woman - her not you!

[Goblinchild]

Anyone remember the acronym D.W.B.?

www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/driving-while-black.html

[Thingumy]

drug dealers get around by foot here.

She sounds a racist daily mail reading twat

[smartyparts]

She sounds vile, and racist.

I'd give her a wide berth in future, but reporting her? Bit much imo.

[LynetteScavo]

But really, how hard can it be to be a barber? I bet if I tried I could do lines and everything.

[Serendipity30]

catgirl1976 there's a difference from a car being naff tacky etc to referring to someone as a drug dealer, there are a lot of wealthy parents at my dd's school(me not being one of them) who have very nice cars( I cant even drive) does this mean they are all drugdealers. Rosierubies people like that are not worth getting upset over you know otherwise about the guy

[Sossiges]

YANBU for wanting to slap this female, she sounds like a silly tart but I'm thinking something along the lines of the Vulcan nerve pinch would be more discreet.

[CupcakesandTwunting]

She wouldn't have said the drug dealer remark if a White man had got out of the car, I bet.

I wouldn't go as far as to say she is racist, I'd say she just makes lazy racial stereotypes. And is a bit thick. You really should have said something though, if you think that this type of behaviour needs challenging. I would gave said "what on EARTH makes you think that?!"

[fedupofnamechanging]

You can't report her to the school. She is not a pupil and the school has no authority over her. It isn't a crime to be a nasty bitch. I took her comment to be a bitchy, possibly jealous remark about the cost/type of the car, not a racist remark.

I also think that if someone says something to offend you, then you ought to take it up with them at the time.

[Sossiges]

Cupcakes did you change your name?? After I specifically told asked you not to?

[CupcakesandTwunting]

[MrsBonkers]

I'd better go report myself to someone. I tell my other half all the time that he drives a drug dealers car... and ...shock, horror, he's a different race to me.

I tend to be pretty touchy about racism myself, but based on the OP alone, I think people are over-reacting.
However, OP, you were there and if based on her facial expression, tone etc. you believed she was being racist, you should have pulled her up on it at the time. Even something like "What do you mean by that?" would have made her think twice.

[spiderpig8]

TBH that's probably what i'd think...

[worraliberty]

The Barbers down the road to me sells 'clubbing drugs' but that's beside the point.

OP, you could have just said "Why? Because he's black?" And then waited for her reply.

[Missingfriendsandsad]

a) DEFINITELY a racist comment
b) PERHAPS a semi-knowing one
c) YOU should still say 'you RACIST!' then 'laugh' to suggest it is 'banter' OR
d) Tell her to shush up, her cokehead city boy husband should know to keep his bitch in line

[honeyandsalt]

Why turn it into a fight?

Make sure you're nearish her some time soon, and when he pulls up wave and say loudly and cheerily "Oh look, it's Bruce! You know, he owns the salon which does my husbands hair, works crazy hours! Hiiiii Bruce!"

Should tighten her.