Need to vent about my arsehole brother

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I have posted reams about my brother before, some of you might remember. Brief outline for those of you who don't know about what a spectacular idiot he is... He is now 22. He dropped out of school/college basically because he is a lazy moron, he has never had a job for the same reason. He has had three serious girlfriends but has cheated on all of them in pretty poor fashion i.e arranging to meet girls from the internet for sex/trying to arrange for him and his girlfriend to have a threesome without her knowledge. He then (miraculously) got offered a place on a course at a music college in Brighton which he accepted. His dad (my ex-stepdad) funded the course for the first year and off he went. He has been sponging off mum/his dad ever since. He goes for weeks without ringing mum/answering his 'phone to her and only ever calls her when he needs bailing out with cash.

Cue today. He has been off to the Benicassim festival in Barcelona for a week. Got back today. Rang mum from London Victoria to say he was stranded in London as he had "lost" his train ticket (he has pulled this stunt before). My mum went into hysterics, thinking of her boy stuck in London on his own and she had a massive panic attack. I found this out because her counsellor rang me (she managed to get my number off mum) to say that mum was in a terrible state in her office and she could do with someone to be with her. I rushed about, got ready to go to her then got a call off my aunty to say that she was now with her and not to bother going over. My uncle had taken mum's car home as she was too upset to drive it.

I just called her to make sure she was OK and just about resisted the urge to tell her to get a grip. FFS, he has pulled this stunt so many times in the past. He reckons he bought his ticket before he went and has lost it. I reckon he did no such thing, thought he'd spend his cash on beer and mummy/daddy would get him out the shit when he returned. AIBU to want to punch my own brother squarely between the eyes? I expect I am but I am starting to hate him. I know that sounds harsh but a lot has gone on and it's been a slow build-up to this. I think I do actually hate him. He causes so much upset. When will he ever grow up?

Your brother is still young enough that he might still grow up and take responsibility for himself. Mine did as his 30th birthday approached. Sadly, my poor martyred mother found that her own health declined around the same time.

We are convinced it is all hypochondria. She has developed coeliacs' disease (despite all tests being negative). She had polyps removed from her colon that "they said would definitely have become cancerous"

When I told her that I was pregnant and that the foetus was about 5cm, she pulled a stricken face and announced that she had been told that she might have a cyst on her ovary of about that size.

You have my heartfelt sympathies :( -

I have one of these too, so feel your frustration, my Mum (& Dad too for that matter as he doe's as he's told by my Mum still bail him out continuously now - though these days its not train tickets, but his mortgage, bills, new motorbike as he ran his last into the ground etc etc - thats despite him supposedly having a good, well paid job

basically they pay for his drugs

I'm a lot further down the line than you though my brother is in his mid 40s

AND I have stood up & spoken out as far as my Mums attitude over him goes - he can never do any wrong & she believes EVERYTHING he tells her - so she told him what I had said & he did a lot of shit stirring & now I'm excommunicated from my family, DD too :( & he carries on taking from them.

He has an incredible sense of entitlement, but I have come to realise over the years, that in fact he is what my Mother made him - he actually thinks he does her a favour by letting her give him food, buy his shopping & keep on bailing him out because - his words "it makes her feel needed" & to be honest he's right, in reality she can't let go & let him grow up & he milks it for all he can, because she brought him up to believe that is his right

No answers I'm afraid, other than save yourself the stress, duck out & leave them to it :)

Rockinhouse, that's my brother. Maybe they're doppelgangers?