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Aibu to be fucking fucked off with dh??

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Lollyheart · 14/07/2011 18:26

I'm raging inside I'm so fucking angry Angry

We have just had our dog brought back by the police because he left the fucking front door open again!!!!!!

And now a poor little boy has had to go to the hospital for a tb jab, the police man said our dog walked over to the pub garden where some kids were playing football, a witness said the kids were all stroking him and playing but one of the boys got a bit rough and started hitting him with a stick, the witness said the boy climbed on his back by this time our dog must of got pissed of and nipped the boy.

I have told dh soooo many times to shut the front door after him when he goes into the garage for something incase our dog gets out as he is over friendly and will go up to people!!

I'm now scared someone will want to come and take our dog away and put him down because of his breed! If I was the boys parent I would report this to the dog warden so I'm guessing they will do that.

Would they bring him back if they thought he was a dangerous dog?? They did say they could tell his was friendly because the landlord at the pub was feeding him and playing with him.

I'm sooo Angry about this I can't even look at dh, ahhhhh I've told him so many time about the fucking front door!!!

OP posts:
scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 20:29

correct the dog shouldn't be out unsupervised.irresponsible owners

TheCrackFox · 14/07/2011 20:29

The child shouldn't have been unsupervised but neither should the dog. The Op, however, can only be in charge of the ever so complicated scenario of ensuring her or her DH shut the bloody door.

Original poster
Lollyheart · 14/07/2011 20:30

So you have never made a mistake scottishmummy ? It's not like we let him roam the streets.

OP posts:
squeakytoy · 14/07/2011 20:31

SM, it wasnt waved off at the door and told to be home for its tea!

It was an oversight, an accident ffs.

The OP is upset about the dog getting out, not happy about it.

alew · 14/07/2011 20:32

It wasn't as though the dog randomly mauled a child. Which would be a different situation entirely.
Dh didn't close door properly. Dog went out. Dog went to where people are. (these are the actions of a domesticated animal). Dog went to people because it see people as safe. 7yrold child sits on child and hits it with a stick. (not normal behaviour) dog is scared (he hasn't been hit before, it lives with children, and they don't do this, it's all new to him) dog panics, and does the only thing a creature that cannot talk does. It snaps. A rabbit, or horse, or cat would do something similar.

ratspeaker · 14/07/2011 20:32

Would a kiddy gate at the front door help? or would your DH leave that open too.
And what if it had been a child that wandered out?
Or a burglar wndering in?

scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 20:32

leaving my purse at home is mistake
you unable to supervise dog is irresponsible
my forgotten purse doesn't result in a kid being bitten
and as you said its not a one off is it "ahhhhh I've told him so many time about the fucking front door!!!"

irresponsible

DogsBestFriend · 14/07/2011 20:33

The owners irresponsible???

The child didn't just hit the poor dog with a stick, he climbed on the dog's back as well. Angry That, even if we assume the dog was hit just once (although the wording of the OP suggests more than once to me) takes time to carry out.

Where the fuck were the child's "owners" and how fucking responsible were they?

alew · 14/07/2011 20:33

In that case Scottishmummy maybe she should get rid of the husband and keep the dog?

squeakytoy · 14/07/2011 20:34

Oh to be so perfect eh SM. Hmm

Original poster
Lollyheart · 14/07/2011 20:36

It's the first time our dog went out, but no not the first time dh had left the door open that's why I'm so angry with him.

If the boy didn't hit him there would of been no need for all of this.

OP posts:
scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 20:36

well she does say she told him so many time about the fucking front door!!!
this isnt a one off aberration
lack of attention.so much so op has spoken to her dh
irresponsible

DogsBestFriend · 14/07/2011 20:36

Sorry, the excessiv fucks were knee-jerk, in incredulity, not designed to be deliberately aggressive to you scottishmummy. Apologies that it sounded otherwise.

scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 20:38

no actually if your dh was vigilant,then dog wouldn't have gotten out
dont sidestep this.you know you have to tell him previously.take responsibility.dont pin it on a child

Yama · 14/07/2011 20:39

There are clearly two separate issues here.

The 'evil' child thing is confusing matters.

The dog should not be allowed out to roam freely. Either ensure it doesn't happen again or re-home.

RalphGnu · 14/07/2011 20:39

scottishmummy I think you're being deliberately provocative. From the details the OP has given the dog sounds like a friendly family pet that got the chance to wander off somewhere interesting where it was riled to snapping point; hardly uncontrollable. Mistakes happen. The OP's DH was an idiot to let the dog out unsupervised, yes, but why make them out to be irresponsible owners of a dangerous dog? And why further rile people who happen to disagree with your point of view by calling them dog apologists?

scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 20:40

no offence taken at your post composition dbf.none whatsoever

DogsBestFriend · 14/07/2011 20:41

Ralph I take pride in being called a "dog apologist"!

DogsBestFriend · 14/07/2011 20:41

Thank you scottishmummy. :)

scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 20:41

ralph you forgot to include namecalling of child in your skewed summation.was that provocative or forgetful

DogsBestFriend · 14/07/2011 20:45

Lolly, I'v seen the county in which you live on your profile. I personally don't know the dog wardens in that area but probably know some animal welfare/rescue contacts who do so if you need any info on the county's policies and likely behaviours please give me a shout and I'll do my best to put you in touch with someone who can give you advice.

DragonAlley · 14/07/2011 20:46

Scottishmummy, do you think it acceptable for the boy's parents to have let him climb on a dog and start whacking it with a stick?

A dog escaping through a front door is a mistake.
Allowing a child to climb on a dog and whack it with a stick is fucking irresponsible.

The police would not have returned the dog like they did if they did not agree with that.

RalphGnu · 14/07/2011 20:50

Sorry DBF, but the term was being used as a bit of a sneery insult. I don't think my summation is skewed, nor do I think the name-calling of an anonymous child has anything to do with the issue. You're entitled to your opinion so I'm not going to argue further.

scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 20:50

issues

  1. unsupervised dog- irresponsible esp since her dp has left door open before,be responsible adequately supervise your dog
  2. yes parents should supervise children behaviour.ensure safety
but in no way does 2 equate to kid asked for it
DogsBestFriend · 14/07/2011 20:52

Dragon, that's my immediate thought too and I hope we're both right but it's not been unknown for a dog to have been impounded at a later date, perhaps on foot of an official complaint by the aggreived party so without meaning to scare Lolly it's wise not to take that for granted and be too complacent. Hence all the more reason to have a plan of how to prevent a recurrance and visible evidence of it, such as stairgates on the downstairs rooms and bottom of the stairs so that the owners can be seen to be being responsible and pro-active.

I'd start asking on Freecycle etc for some old stairgates now if I were the OP and buy some of those thingies which make doors swing shut (WTF are they called?!).

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