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AIBU?

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Original poster

Aibu to be fucking fucked off with dh??

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Lollyheart · 14/07/2011 18:26

I'm raging inside I'm so fucking angry Angry

We have just had our dog brought back by the police because he left the fucking front door open again!!!!!!

And now a poor little boy has had to go to the hospital for a tb jab, the police man said our dog walked over to the pub garden where some kids were playing football, a witness said the kids were all stroking him and playing but one of the boys got a bit rough and started hitting him with a stick, the witness said the boy climbed on his back by this time our dog must of got pissed of and nipped the boy.

I have told dh soooo many times to shut the front door after him when he goes into the garage for something incase our dog gets out as he is over friendly and will go up to people!!

I'm now scared someone will want to come and take our dog away and put him down because of his breed! If I was the boys parent I would report this to the dog warden so I'm guessing they will do that.

Would they bring him back if they thought he was a dangerous dog?? They did say they could tell his was friendly because the landlord at the pub was feeding him and playing with him.

I'm sooo Angry about this I can't even look at dh, ahhhhh I've told him so many time about the fucking front door!!!

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Original poster
Lollyheart · 14/07/2011 20:10

Yes I would say that because it's the truth Hmm

If I thought he was a dangerous dog and didn't trust him I wouldn't have him in my house with my 3 children!

Saying he should be go to a nice new home, this is a nice home, he is loved and cared for, it was one stupid mistake dh made, believe me dh won't forget this for a long time.

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DogsBestFriend · 14/07/2011 20:10

Yep... those of us who are rescuers, those of us with our PAT dogs, those of us with our Good Citizen Dog training awards, those of us trusted to foster dogs by rescues, those of us who take an active interest in animal welfare, those of us who have offered constructive advice... irresponsible dog owners each and all. Hmm

scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 20:11

and all your new best pals will support you and dog and hapily call a kid a brat et al. and of course you would give such a glowing account of dog,i wouldnt expect anything less

Original poster
Lollyheart · 14/07/2011 20:13

The boy was 7

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scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 20:14

what steps have you taken that this never happens again?
will your dh be more responsible

Kayzr · 14/07/2011 20:15

Well at 7 he should certainly have known better. So it was his own fault and I don't care what other people think. Personally I'd want the police to be having a word with his parents about how to behave.

catgirl1976 · 14/07/2011 20:15

Well in that case HE WAS ASKING FOR IT. No doubt about it. At 7 he is fully aware that is cruel.

DogsBestFriend · 14/07/2011 20:15

Glad to hear it, SM, I'd be very upset to think that my standards were slipping.

And actually, I was being polite when I called the child a brat.

HTH I beg to differ. The child would still be a brat if it were a toddler - there is NO WAY a child should be allowed to abuse a dog like that. My kids, for all their faults, simply wouldn't have dared do it, even as toddlers. There's just no excuse for it, particularly in a pub environment which, by very nature of what it is, suggests that the parent/s or other adults would have been within sight of the brat.

alew · 14/07/2011 20:16

A 7 year old know the difference between right and wrong. If he was sat on a dog and hitting it with a stick I would think that even a golden retriever would react to that.

Original poster
Lollyheart · 14/07/2011 20:17

To damn right he will be, he knows how upset and angry I am.

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justaminnit · 14/07/2011 20:17

Lollyheart, not many parents will feel happy about their child being bitten by a dog. It seems a bad idea to visit them. You could put a tenner behind the bar at the pub for them when you go to thank the landlord.

HalfTermHero · 14/07/2011 20:17

A 7yr old who hits a dog is a brat who has not been shown right from wrong. The dog should not have been out unsupervised but I can understand that it nipped someone if it was being attacked. Humans/animals none of us would take kindly to being beaten. Just make sure that you never let the dog get out again. Maybe build a swing shut gate or something that closes and locks on its own just to make douible sure that no-one forgets to shut dog in.

DogsBestFriend · 14/07/2011 20:17

Seven??? Shock

If I were his mother he'd get a bloody good smack from me to go with his dog-nip.

scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 20:18

yes how v measured and great representation for dog owners some of you have been.

catgirl1976 · 14/07/2011 20:19

Is very confused.......

Child hits dog with stick

Dog does not bite child

Child is not in the wrong?

squeakytoy · 14/07/2011 20:20

If I were that child, my parents would have given me a good hiding, never mind told me I deserved to get bitten.

Luckily I was brought up to be kind to animals, and would have probably just took the dog home and pleaded to be allowed to keep it! (it worked ok with the kitten, and the budgie... but the snake and the ferret got refused... )

scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 20:20

no you got it all wrong.the kid asked for it.so say the dog apologists

squeakytoy · 14/07/2011 20:21

SM, what would you do if your child came home with a dog nip, and told you he had been tormenting a dog?

HalfTermHero · 14/07/2011 20:22

Dogsbestfriend, toddlers cannot be held responsible for their actions! I would not judge a 2yr old who made a mistake.

TheCrackFox · 14/07/2011 20:23

This is all completely irrelevant that the dog bit a bratty child.

If her DH cannot do something as simple as ensuring a door is shut (this isn't rocket science) then they, as a family, really need to reconsider whether they should be keeping a dog.

Kayzr · 14/07/2011 20:23

The kid did ask for it!!! No so say about it.

squeakytoy · 14/07/2011 20:24

I would judge a 2yr olds parents if they let their child out alone, or witnessed him being cruel to a dog.

I have a friend with an 18mth old, who is completely aware of being gentle with animals and knows not to prod, poke, or hit.

TheCrackFox · 14/07/2011 20:26

For all we know (and the OP) the child might have special needs.

scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 20:27

"tormenting a dog" so not a loaded scenario then?
given age of my children,id know a young child grasp on actions and consequences is age limited and not extensive.
i wouldnt leave my children unsupervised to touch dogs they/we dont know. i love dogs,my children love dogs but i am responsible adult

if i was sufficiently alarmed id press for dog to be put down
and certainly if i thought owners were irresponsible id be angry.
and id expect some modicum of understanding that child cognition and consequences are different to adults.

squeakytoy · 14/07/2011 20:28

In which case, he should not be out unsupervised, because he is lucky that this dog only nipped him to warn him. :(