To ask what do you think of father's for justice

[AuntiePickleBottom]

www.fathers-4-justice.org/hunger4justice.php

having supported DH in his fight to see his DD, i can understand why some father's want to take action.

at the same time i can understand why some mother's refuse access

I am far from bitter LOL.Years ago yes,but now nope.I am deeply proud of DC1,I have too much going on in my life to waste time being bitter or angry.They are self destructive emotions.
You posted your friends situation.Yes we all make life choices but when we want to parent should not be one of them.If he wanted more access he would have asked for it.
Imagine if a poster started a thread AIBU to only want to parent for 12 days a year?
One of my very good friends drives from Dublin to Kerry every weekend,books into a hotel to see his children.He recognises that he made the choice to move.

Molivan: It's pointless him asking for more access, she doesn't allow him the small amount he has asked for.

There, BumWiper. Why would he ask for more? He's doing his best to be reasonable, he turns up on time every time, he pays all that he should. I'm betting that if she genuinely asked / offered more contact, he'd happily take it. OTOH, it would be no bad thing for him to ask for more, as it does show that he wants more and would be happy to do more. And if she constantly refuses without good reason, it makes her look bad. (I know I night not be supposed to say that, but what the hell).

I am a male RP / PWC. My back story covers quite a few things mentioned on this thread - possibility of DD being taken abroad, emotional abuse, lies in court, her (in retrospect) not really bonding with DD (despite BF - she left us when DD was 9 months and still BF - it was only for two weeks in the end, but it showed me that she would leave not just me, but DD too), SS involvement due to her accusations, and her pushing for residency in court. Mind, I don't think she can bond with anyone.

Currently, she hasn't had contact with DD for last three weeks. That's her choice. From 20th May to date I've had four texts from her saying contact ends. On Friday just gone she was in tears asking for contact. I told her that she didn't have to stick exactly to the court order, but consistency is needed by DD - followed it up with texts saying she doesn't have to have the weekly contact if it's too much for her (as she had said). I said she could do fortnightly or once a month, just so long as she could commit to it for DD. Even though I didn't really expect her to stick to it.

Result? Nothing. Still no response.

For my part, I will continue to have DD available for contact as per the court order, all she has to do is ask to have her.

Molivan - all your friend can do is to take the long view, which no doubt he is doing - keep going, keep doing what he can, and in time the DC will be able to see it for themselves. As they will in virtually all cases.

PS - what sunshine says.