to start a Friday night drunk thread?

[TheFlyingOnion]

Haven't seen one for a couple of weeks, although I admit I haven't really been looking...

but tonight I am tired, cold-ey, and have half an open bottle of rose, and half a bottle of red to see me through...

anyone with me?

prost (in Germany )

I only just saw it told you I'm thick

ahhhh much better!

Actually I'm going to put that in Soulmates.

well its a good thing he is friendly with long term means....likely to mean he is not a complete nutter

If you really are the one for him , then he will wait

are you hesitant becasue you arent sure about him or becasue you are wary of getting hurt?

I have said this. Doesn't seem to be able to help himself, although texts have calmed down very slightly in the last couple of days.

He's just a heart on his sleeve kind of guy, and I'm emotionally repressed. But all this outpouring and examining of feelings isn't helpful now, iykwim as the feelings are bound to not be there (too early), then i worry they will never come and I'll fuck him over like his ex - not through being a cow, but just by not reciprocating...

scared of what, spuddy?

Linerunner - also i always wonder about how i would describe myself. It's all so coded. i am genuinely curvy (12/14 and 5ft 10) but if i said that does that mean bumptious with boobs to spare. And gsoh!! i think i have that but anyone who says that doesn't really do they!!

TFO does he mean it when he says he loves you, or is it something he blurts out, if you know what I mean?

You don't owe him anything

You havent made him any promises. He is responsible for throwing himself in to this....not you

Line runner I dare you to put it in..its fab.

wary of getting hurt I think

Trying to trust instinct, in that I have NO patience whatsoever and am one of these people where if I'm not feeling it I don't want the person anywhere near me. Very black and white. I think the fact I'm happy to spend time with him, want to see him and get excited when he texts means the feelings will come, eventually

TFO. dP told me loved me madly after one night....what can I say? Of course he would. I am fucking great.

We are still madly passionately together after nearly 7 years....

Go with the flow and enjoy the ride, if it feels good to you ...

he seems to really mean it, LineRunner

He cried the other night

whilst very drunk, admittedly...

TFO - i mean scared of someone cheating on him again so he is 'staking a love claim' a bit early.

i fall in love quickly tho so i cant judge!

Crying would freak me out

Why was he crying?

we met as friends in the feb, moved in together in march, got engaged in the april and fell pregnaant in the august. Eight years later and i love him more than ever

I agree with k999, life is too short. Shut your eyes and jump

I thought I knew it was right, right at the beginning.

But now I suppose that has worn off a bit.

Its fear, I know that. Fear of being hurt and fear of it working and losing some of the independence and control I have over my life...

ooooohhhh crying drunkenly! that sounds gorgeous! a bit like me after too many ribenas listening to elkie brooks!!

all together 'weeee dooonnntttt cryyyyyyy outttttt looooouuuuud'!!

yeah it totally freaked me out. I'm not a crier.

Umm he said because he was happy. I've no fucking idea, really. And we were extremely pissed....

Wow floosie, impressive. How did you know?? I could do that, with DP, I know I could. I could be married and up the duff by Christmas, and being 33 there's a certain amount of attraction in that... but its so fucking scarey!!!

You will still have independence and control it will just be a bit different. You will also get things that are nicer than control and independence

floosie did your friends think you were mental??

I was 33 when it happened. I have just never felt so comfortable with someone. he works away. I picked him up from the airport after his first trip away since we were together. he came to my flat fr a while that night and basically just never moved ut.

it was the last thing i was looking for, but i just did'nt want to be without him

everyone thought i was mental

TFO

My meagre thoughts:

He seems a bit OTT with the emotions. And you are not feeling the same level of need or passion, it appears.

You might be afraid of being hurt but it would require some serious shitload of repression for you to seem to feel so little for him right now.

Love is the bizarre situation where you feel enough about the other person to stop putting your own interets ahead of theirs.

Whis is precisely why passionate love is so fucking dangerous!

Don't over think it. Enjoy the beginning, early days, great sex, feeling like number UNO ....

Whatever happens, indulge yourself. It may last.....

I was married to someone (with them for 11 years). He told me he didn't want kids, altho that's what we had planned. We separated. i met DP at work that week. We moved in within a month. been together 2 years next sunday. ttc. i'm 34.

So i can't comment on quick! and it did feel weird. Maybe just tell him your fears - he sounds sensitive enough to get it.