AIBU to be astounded a 20 year old friend is having IVF?

[Billygean]

Hi all

First ever thread!

I'm 26, but in my SO's 'group' there is a girl of 20 who's married my SO's friend who's about 27. They got married when she was 18. Generally they're quite a difficult couple, they argue a lot in public, put passive-aggressive updates on facebook etc and we don't have too much to do with them within the group. Neither has a very good job (they're both quite unhappy work wise, that much is clear), neither drive, no money, etc.

Anyway they have been trying to have children since they got married and apparently he has a low sperm count. AFAIK they haven't addressed other factors (stress, diet, alcohol etc) first.

I know I should just think "each to their own" and so on, but I'm astounded that they're choosing to have their only NHS go on IVF now! I just think she's only (just) 20, and they have so much TIME.

AIBU?

Blondes am sooo sorry to hear about your sad situation with your infertility issues and the awful death of your DH :(

I am sending you an un-Mumsnetty hug!

If I had known at 20 that I was going to have trouble then I would have started then and not left it for another 8 years.

This exactly. This is why I only have one child when I would have liked lots.

thank you :)

i spent years trying not to get pregnant ie on pill/condoms etc and now when i want to , it doesnt happen

but hey,thats life x

My sister has just found out she will not conceive naturally and will have to have IVF is she ever wants to try and have a family. She is 23. I would hate to think of someone on MN judging her if she decided to do so now. I don't see what relevance her age is anyway. Plenty of people have much wanted children at 20.

blondes. Another hug here.

YABU

YABVVVU. Its absolutely none of your business! You don't know anything about their private life and should keep your judgy opinions to yourself.

Blondes :(

Birds, my sister was diagnosed at 15, she had IVF last year (egg donation) at 27 and is due next week! :o

Living- that fantastic news