AIBU to tell SIL to stop 'bragging'

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I am SAHM to 3 kids..... 1 at school & twins 2 1/2.... SIL has 7 kids and is 6mths pregnant...plans on having 10 children
MY DH works full time - i dont mainly as if i did work full time after nursery & childminder for the 3 i would only take home around 30 a month... (my choice not to i know)
neither her or her DH works.....
She has just called me to brag that the littlest one has been given a free nursery place (he is 1) to give her a brake - one of her kids has sn .... my twins will be 3 before being offered a place she knows i struggle with the kids but her mum and mil often go down to 'help' out as she has sooo many, my family are unable/don't want to.
I am FED UP of having to listen to her 'brag' about all the things she has (free school dinners, 2 cars, caravan, big pool in the garden, holidays, pedigree pets etc....)

would it BU just to hang up on her next time she call's with 'news' I have asked her nicley to stop as in thats really nice for you but i dont need to know about everything you have etc... but she just dosn't!!!

How big is the big pool? Is it in ground or above ground? Is it heated? Is it a big swimming pool or a big paddling pool?

Why don't you burn the town down, MrSpoc, save us all the cash.

Isn't it funny how all the posters keen to agree with the scrounging twat line have the same posting style with the same errors.

What a coinky-dinky!

I just want to see if i was BU NOT to listen to her.....My dd has a close relationship with her cousins and SIL is known to stop 'contact' with family members if somone disagrees with her.... most of her family already bow down for her for fear of not being able to see the kids...

I will not - I love all my nieces and nephews they are all special I just wish me and SIL could have a chat which didn't involve what they have bought or what they are planning to get etc.... I really think we could be good friends if she just dropped all the - we have stuff..... I am planning to have a chat with her at the weekend, TBH i expect she will go into a mood (pregnancy does that ;) and not speak to or allow kids to speak to us for a couple of months.... at least it will improve DD writing with all the letters she can send to her cousins instead of seeing them ;)

Every cloud, coffeedog, every cloud

Coinky-dinky is my new favourite word.

you just state matter of fact

its great you get so much free - my dh wages pay for this all the time and then you rub my nose in it

Well yes, there is that.

The pool in the garden- Is it indoor or outdoor?

My eyes hurt from the Full Stop abuse in the OP.

Reality - I do know whereof you speak, but it's the tone of the post that makes one weary and wary.

I think young fit people getting state wong should work a few hours a day in an apprentice capacity or a community capapcity to feel connected and part of things, and to help their self-esteem and skills levels.

Hully maybe because we all come from the run down estates so we all have the RL experiance now jog on.

what does jog on mean?

its something called exercise

Why are you telling me to exercise, are you saying I'm fat?

That's a bit rude.

How comes everyone on MN seems to know people on benefits who live a life of luxury? I've been on benefits for the last couple of months (am starting a new job in September before I get flamed) and I'm barely making ends meet. After bills and food I have just about enough left over to treat DD to an ice cream at the end of the week if I'm lucky. I have two friends who are also on benefits at the moment, and they are in exactly the same position as me - no spare cash, no luxuries, nothing.

Oh....fattism now...

What's so wrong with being fat then?

"If you wanted to push a bit of a right wing agenda but knew the caring folk on MN would round on you if you openly talked about benefit scum, you might come up with an inflammatory, carefully crafted OP just like that.

Just saying."

My thoughts exactly when I saw the OP, however I also agree with everything Reality has said. Most people on benefits use them as a stop gap and it's not the easy ride its made out to be, but there are some massive piss takers too. Noone should have a large family with no intention of working.

Muminthecity, We are not bashing benefits. I have been on them breifly when times were bad. The whole point of benefits is to help people in need not to make it a career choice.

YADNBU to ignore her, just politely tell her that she is boring you want to change the subject. Both me and DH work full time and can't afford a holiday abroad this year it has been getting on my nerves for the last month all the people who I know don't work (for any good reason) and who have several children who are so excited about going on holiday somewhere warm next week etc however I do feel slightly better that (hopefully) in ten years I will be a millionaire

I know of no one who manages on benefits.

It's not possible.

Anyone i have ever known who has claimed has got work in the end.

I think the ones living a life of luxury usually have a few scams going on on the side - knock-off fags etc (well the ones I know anyway lol). Hard to live a life of luxury on 80 quid a week or whatever (even if housing benefit pays your rent).

I know someone with 8 children who is on benefits as is their partner, they have a big (yes it's a flipping flatscreen) tv and their children all get free school meals and yes she gets extra free hours at nursery/pre school for her younger dc because she 'can't cope'

She still wants more.

It's not a hard story to believe, these people exsist, they are not 'made up' I know lots actually but only one with 8 dc

My sister has a benefits advisor who comes to her house tells her what to claim for and also her grants. She gets grants for all sorts. She has moved house at last once a year and each time gets a moving in grant, last time was nearly 2k.

Ok she aint well off but she survives better then i was a few years ago. Used to piss me right off working full time both me and wife, paying mortgage (couldnt get council house and private was really expensive) plus all the other every day cost left us with hardly £200 for a month this included peterol and food.