DD to go on holiday with new boy friend to Ibiza.

[EnglishRose11]

Ok, she is 17. Her new bf is same age and to be fair they are going with his parents. Its just, well, the mention of Ibiza, gave me images of drugs etc. DD went to Dubai last year and we always try to get to Tuscany each year. Am I a snob? Will she be safe? her bf parents seem ok, the father a bit 'limited' maybe, but friendly enough. Please tell me i'm being silly.

Yabu and very stuck up silly.

If they were going alone I'd be concerned, as they are going with adults i.e his parents I dont see any reason to be concerned.

I only went for the drugs, clubbing, booze and shagging so am not the best person to ask.

Arf at OK with the parents!

It all depends on what your DD is like, does she do drugs whilst at home? Just because she's in a different country why does that make it more likely that she'll take drugs? Think you're definitely over-reacting, they have drugs in Tuscany you know and even worse, Limoncello.

what can they do in ibiza that they cant do here if they have the mind to

'We always try to get to Tuscany each year.'

applauds.

V good.

WTF is 'limited' ?

YABU, if they were going alone yes I'd be concerned, but his parents are going. (I think you should be grateful they are willing to take her).

Ibiza's great but veeeery expensive, especially for clubbing. So unless she has unlimited spending money she won't be getting up in too much trouble - probably just the right amount

What happens in Ibiza stays in Ibiza

yabu

You think you've got probkems- my 18 year old is taking 6 of his friends to our place in Spain on his own.
You either trust your dd or you don't. She is nearly an adult. Do you trust her judgement?

In the very busy clubbing areas drugs are rife - more so than in any other club I've been to. ibiza is notorious for a reason.

MyLifeIsChaotic

Thanks, i'm guessing i'm over reacting.

If they were going to the algarve or another suitably pretentious destination would you still be concerned? Is your worry due to the destination or lack of faith in the limited abilities your DD's boyfriends parents?

DoMe, drugs are rife in the clubs in England too.

And if a person wants drugs they can get them in their local high street. Aged 16, 18, 20 ...blah blah blah you could have taken me on holiday to a frack den and I still wouldn't have been interested.
You could take my ds on holiday to a brewery and he still wouldn't get drunk.

Taking drugs is rarely about location is it?

Which part are they going to? I took DS (4 at the time) to Puerto San Miguel in the north and it was very quiet. I didn't see so much as a paracetamol change hands all week.

YABU. Let her go and wish her well. Oh, and tell her that a visit to Dalt Villa in Ibiza Town is a must .

SomethingProfound

A bit of both, tbh. Not sure why you refer to the 'Algarve' as being pretentious, though.

sorry I referred to the Algarve due to a joke amongst my friends and I that I now realise does not translate onto MN .

If you don't have faith in her bf's parents be competent guardians that is an issue regardless of location.

hmm, let her go show her you trust her. never know it could be a turning point in your relationship and she may not rebel in future situations.

Wouldn't have a problem. My DD went on hols with BF when she was 17; BF's mum looked after her well, laid down rules about what they would/ would not be allowed to do. Why not speak to the mum if you are concerned.

Ibiza is a fantastic place for all ages. YABVU

Agree with the others who say that Ibiza is not the only place where drugs are rife. I'd be more worried about contraception!