AIBU to light a bonfire even though next doors left her washing out?

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Manshape knocked at hers earlier and told her that he was having a bonfire this evening. She pulled her face and said she'd take her washing in later.

It's still out, and tbh, i don't think she's any intention of taking it in at all.

Manshapes reluctant to light the fire, but i say go for it - she doesn't bother telling us when she's having a bonfire wether i've washing out or not, at least he gave her fair warning.

So AIBU to go ahead and light it?

YABU, both in your bonfire lighting and your use of the word manshape.

I had a small bonfire the other night. I have a mountain of garden clippings to get rid of, do not drive and seeing as they are branches will not compost in friend's composter. It is not illegal in my area (I rang and checked), it is hardly antisocial to do it at night and to be fair, it's none of anybody else's business.

As for manshape? What's the issue? You don't have to use it. It's a term of endearment. Who knew affection was also frowned upon these days?

YABU. Would have been nicer to give your neighbour more choice of time (is there a time in the next day or two when your washing won't be out, as we'd like to have a bonfire?), or at least ask if she minded. Just telling her what you'll be doing doesn't seem like a considerate compromise between good neighbours.

Blimey - who'd have thought bonfires could be so contentious! What do you all do with your garden prunings then, which are too big for the compost, but too small/green/messy for the fire?! I would have though 8-9pm on a dry, still summer evening was the perfect time for a bonfire ?

I eat my ladygarden prunings.

Yabu we have neighbours who think nothing of lighting fires even on a lovely saturday afternoon, leaving my garden full of smoke and ash and my house stinking for hours. Why on earth you can't just get rid of it like everyone else would do then I don't know. Or is it just laziness?!

bramshot the council have a fortnightly collection of garden waste where we live

Bonfires in gardens in summer is one of my real pet hates. I don't see why anyone within a half mile (ok, it may be less, but still a fair distance) should have their enjoyment of a warm summer evening ruined by someone else's selfishness in lighting a bonfire. Everyone else disposes of their waste or recycles in a way that doesn't impinge on anyone else's enjoyment of their own garden space. Take it to the tip/recycling centre like everyone else, I say. Its so anti social. Just like I wouldn't play loud music in my garden - it should be the norm to think of the wishes of others as well as your own needs.

littlemissflustered I disagree. If your smoke and ash is coming into my garden and making my house stink of smoke then I'm afraid it is my business. What you chose to do in your garden is your business but when it affects others then you make it their business too. I do absolutely think it's antisocial behaviour.

How strange. I'm not being passive-agressive, I'm just genuinely perplexed! Round here having bonfires is just a normal garden-maintenance activity. Everyone does it a few times a year, and no-one minds bit.

So what do you all think about firepits, chimneas and bbq's?

Are they unnacceptable in your own back garden too?

happydoll I have no problem with bbqs etc as they are usually out pretty quickly and don't leave your garden full of smoke with ash flying all over the place. Our neighbours were having fires that literally lasted from first thing in the morning to last thing at night. Now a builder who is building on an empty plot just 3 doors down from us is having them. Clearly he is trying to save money by burning all of the waste but it goes on for hours and our garden is literally full of smoke. We decided to have a polite word with him but he got very aggressive unfortunately.

Bloody stupid to have big fires in this weather when folk have their windows open. BBQs are OK.

Well, the fire is out. It was over and done with by half two this morning. Manshape stayed up with it til it was properly out. No plans for another for at least a month.

So all the people asleep with their windows open are going to wake up to a house stinking of smoke. Lovely!

And no more for a month you say? How very considerate.

"Manshape" (boak) needs to get his arse in gear and shift the stuff down to the dump.

Oh wind your neck in. It was hardly the great fire of bloody London.

Yanbu at all, you told her in advance and she sounds like a rude cow.

As for the deleted comment, well that was showing real class wasn't it?

deemented why ask the question if you don't like the answers?

Dee didnt ask whether she was unreasonable to have the bonfire she asked if she was unreasonable to have it while her neighbour still had washing out even though she had pre-warned her.

I hate garden fires Dee, however at least you have the grace to warn the neighbours.

My neighbours never do, and quite often burn plastics , its such cuntish unreasonable behaviour (burning plastics that is).Get thee to the tip.

Bonfires are antisocial, they stop your neighbours enjoying their gardens, having their windows open etc. This is particularly relevant in summer.
Put up with the inconvenience of going to the dump fgs, that is what the rest of us do.
DH & I were outside with a glass of wine until 10.30 last night. I would have been cross if any of my neighbours had thought a bonfire was appropriate.

We light our chimnea late at night for the pleasure of it. Does this count!

I think it's one of the nicer things in life. And I wish that people were as considerate as you. It's not illegal or anti-social if you follow the guidelines for it, and since you have a proper incinerator then she can't exactly have a go at you!

I love a good bonfire/campfire/barbeque. One of the smells of summer in my opinion!