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AIBU to light a bonfire even though next doors left her washing out?

128 replies

deemented · 03/07/2011 20:03

Manshape knocked at hers earlier and told her that he was having a bonfire this evening. She pulled her face and said she'd take her washing in later.

It's still out, and tbh, i don't think she's any intention of taking it in at all.

Manshapes reluctant to light the fire, but i say go for it - she doesn't bother telling us when she's having a bonfire wether i've washing out or not, at least he gave her fair warning.

So AIBU to go ahead and light it?

OP posts:
Tigerbomb · 03/07/2011 22:33

Go for it Dee.

She was warned which is more than a lot of people get

In my neighbourhood we all have occasional fires, usually garden rubbish, except the arsehole next door who burns household waste as well

Council confirms there is nothing they can do unless it is a regular nuisance

I would also prefer a bonfire over a garden full of screaming kids, pissed up neighbours and loud music

itsastrawpoll · 03/07/2011 22:36

So bonfires signal the great social divide.

Who'd have thought it.

Clearly there are areas where people 'do' bonfires, and areas where people most certainly do not.

The responses to your thread are going to be polarised by that!

BimboNo5 · 03/07/2011 22:38

I think the fact the OP is a moldie is colouring some of the responses more than anything else...think it would be rather different if a newbie rocked up and posted the same OP...

joric · 03/07/2011 22:40

If you've got a big garden and neighbours do bonfires too YANBU at all- you've been polite and warned her.

Garden Stuff, whatever- yes ok you could send it off to be recycled but we've always had bonfires in the summer and late autumn.

I think it's unsociable to have a fire without letting neighbours know but after 6 or 7 most washing would be in.

It's more unsociable to have a BBQ at lunch time on a hot day when washing is likely to have just been put out. Even more U to have one on hot evening which goes on until 1 am.....

BeerTricksPotter · 03/07/2011 22:40

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AgentZigzag · 03/07/2011 22:41

'I think the fact the OP is a moldie is colouring some of the responses more than anything else'

hahahahaha Grin

What's a moldie then?

Original poster
deemented · 03/07/2011 22:41

Moldie?? WTF? That boat of MN sailed way before i joined here Confused

And BTW, what i decide to call manshape has nowt to do with anyone.

OP posts:
AgentZigzag · 03/07/2011 22:41

Maybe I should just start a thread and ask? Grin

itsastrawpoll · 03/07/2011 22:41

Maybe she does know what it means but still doesn't like it beertrickspotter? She's allowed to say so.

AgentZigzag · 03/07/2011 22:43

I'm not too keen on people using the term 'fella'...

MrsRhettButler · 03/07/2011 22:44

I don't think bbq's are any different actually, we have a built in BBQ and it smells just the same as a bonfire until the smell of chicken takes over so we always tell our neighbours if we are having one and their washing is out.

YANBU even before you got told to f off!

itsastrawpoll · 03/07/2011 22:45

You're allowed to say that too agentzigzag. That's the power of MN - people can say what they like regardless of the clique

BeerTricksPotter · 03/07/2011 22:47

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AgentZigzag · 03/07/2011 22:47

That's very kind of you itsastrawpoll.

It's ironic bimbo saying she didn't like manshape but didn't mind using fella in her post.

ggdh · 03/07/2011 22:48

So you're the neighbour who always manages to light a fire when OH and I decide to sit in the sun and share a bottle of wine.

queenebay · 03/07/2011 22:49

cool summer night, friends round for a beer and the chimnea going-nothing like it!! You go for it girl. Youve informed them so stuff them

cat64 · 03/07/2011 23:05

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BimboNo5 · 03/07/2011 23:13

Blah blah Agent so sorry I dont happen to be saying what you like but hey thats the beauty of people- we can all do/say things to piss others off- much like making a stinking bonfire to piss all your neighbours off!

AgentZigzag · 03/07/2011 23:16

'Blah blah Agent'

That's a sophisticated and persuasive argument you've put forward bimbo, but I'm just not sure...

SposeIOughtToNameChange · 04/07/2011 00:54

Eh? I don't get this. But now I think I am realising why ny neighbour hates me so much.

We light our chimenea often on warm evenings...we make fire 'bricks' out of old newspapers and we are burning our way through a fence we've just knocked down.

It's sociable, we eat outside, light the fire, sit, laugh, drink around the fire until it's time to come in and MN go to bed.

Our neighbours have kids of a similar age (one in DDs class) and I was honestly expecting her to crop up on here.

Whenever we go outside, they go in. We often BBQ as well, but mostly we just sort of live in the garden when it's warm.

I've never understood their behaviour and always thought they were antisocial, but now I think it must be us :( and we are 'gypos'?!?!

TartyMcFarty · 04/07/2011 08:12

I think calling the OP a 'gypo' is one of the most shockingly bigoted things I have ever read on here.

My lovely neighbours had a small bonfire the other night. I realised that I hadn't yet got my washing in but considered that to be my fault rather than theirs.

As long as you're not running a scrapyard from your back garden, wtf had it got to do with your neighbours?

AmazingBouncingFerret · 04/07/2011 08:18

WTF? Burning excess wood makes you a gypo?? And gypo being used as an insult?
I think half the people on this thread need to go howl at the moon and calm down.

It just goes to show the evolution of gardens. Gardens used to be a workroom, you grew your food etc. You disposed of things by way of compost, recycling and fire. But nowadays they are an extension to your dining and living room. There's nothing wrong with that but again there's nothing wrong with people still wanting to use their garden in the traditional way...

And it is more economical to burn it, most, if not all refuse places wont take wood if there's metal in it so they would chuck it in the landfill, plus there's the fuel consumption driving there...

Punkatheart · 04/07/2011 08:28

Yes, I think the 'gypo' accusations are rather silly - to me it is more a health issue. Our neighbours built a wood burner and the smell was incredible. I have lymphoma and I also needed my inhaler more when they lit it. We had to talk to them. They built it up higher and had a turning filter installed - which disperses the smoke.

Woodsmoke is gorgeous in rural settings and yes, bonfires did used to be part and parcel of how we lived. But:

  1. We now have information on how burning creates carcogens and pollution.

www.merton.gov.uk/environment/pollution/bonfires.htm

  1. We mostly live in densely populated areas. There MUST be a sense of thinking of others, not just what we want to do at the time on impulse.

My neighbours were lovely - we hated complaining.

I already have lymphoma. To have breathing problems as well - why should I?

Punkatheart · 04/07/2011 08:29

Yes, I think the 'gypo' accusations are rather silly - to me it is more a health issue. Our neighbours built a wood burner and the smell was incredible. I have lymphoma and I also needed my inhaler more when they lit it. We had to talk to them. They built it up higher and had a turning filter installed - which disperses the smoke.

Woodsmoke is gorgeous in rural settings and yes, bonfires did used to be part and parcel of how we lived. But:

  1. We now have information on how burning creates carcogens and pollution.

www.merton.gov.uk/environment/pollution/bonfires.htm

  1. We mostly live in densely populated areas. There MUST be a sense of thinking of others, not just what we want to do at the time on impulse.

My neighbours were lovely - we hated complaining.

I already have lymphoma. To have breathing problems as well - why should I?

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