Who would you save first, kids or DH?

[iMemoo]

I was having one of those random hypothetical conversations with my friend and she said if there was a fire she'd save her DH before her DC because she could always have more kids but there would only ever be one of her DH!!

I would, without doubt, save my kids first because I couldn't live without them and as much as I love DH and Id be gutted if he died, I'd get by ok without him.

Always kids first. And then the cat.

Tbh the way dh is behaving today I might just save the kids

Children.

And I wouldn't even need to think about it.

My husband, much as I love him, is an adult and can take care of himself.

My children - are my children. I don't know what else to say! I would never sacrifice them to save even my husband. And I would never forgive him if he saved me instead of them. I would expect him to step over my unconscious body with them in his arms!

We actually had a fire alarm go off in the middle of the night (false alarm thankfully). My husband had fallen asleep downstairs, I was upstairs in bed. We met racing to the children's room. Neither of us even considered going to find the other. We both rushed to our children. I can't imagine doing it any other way.

kids first, dh has more chance of saving himself. Also from a practical point of view as a 5 foot 2 weakling the chances of me dragging my 6 foot 2 15 stone dh anywhere fast are pretty small, i would have more chance of saving the kids.

JUst been thinking about the cat......I reckon I would chuck her in a pillow case and lower her down to the already lowered dcs. Do you think that would work?

Kids first without a doubt

Kids, though I think they'd be more likely to save me these days

Unless it was in water and then they'd have to save DH coz he can't swim!

Thmagnificent - exactly! That is parental instinct. Anything else is a bit odd (assuming you are in the house together). I remember there being some awful case where a whole family had died in a fire except for the dad who escaped. My (male) work colleague said immeditely that there was something up with that scenario as that was simply not a usual reaction. He was right. Afair the dad was convicted of multiple murder.

Memoo - that's what I mean though I am useless in a crisis and make bad decisions. I have always told DH he should ahve been in the police/firefighter or something as he is very practical and always knows what to do instantly. But he is a computer programmer :o
NL - yes, that sounds like an excellent solution (in fact couldn't you lower the DCs down in a duvet cover?). Write it into your plan and have a trial run next weekend :o

From experience if we had a fire I'd have to save:

-the DCs (already used to lugging them up and down the stairs together)
-DH (who would already be outdside anyway with the DCs, a suitcase full of clothes, our birth certificates and bank details and have called his parents to come and get us)
-a stuffed giraffe, winnie the pooh, buzz lightyear, the pink one from third and bird, a ben 10 costume, a minnie mouse costume...

Kids, pets then DH and he'd need a bloody good excuse for not having saved the dc before I got to them !

Well my kids are now adults, so it is every man for himself at Chez Tigerbomb

Seriously though when they were younger we had an escape plan and it was always kids first

I'd struggle to get the cat IN the pillowcase so think I'd have to just chuck her out and hope for the best.

How awful my god.

Yes, it is instinct. We met each other going to the children. tbh, I hadn't even thought about where he was. He hadn't even crossed my mind the only thought in my head was 'get my babies'. And since I met him going the same way, clearly he was the same

We've always said, I get dd hed get ds, he's stronger ds is bigger, never factored one another into it all...

is this a conversation most couples have then? We haven't - we don't have a fireplace and don't smoke and tbh haven't ever really considered it. Am thinking we should

My cat is very helpful - I reckon she'll tucker down in the pillowcase ok. SPB actually yes the duvet cover lowering has been in my plan for a long time. Only dd3 to fit in it now, other two are too big. Will be handy to keep them warm on the street too.

Buzz lightyear......DAMN....had forgot about him...and teddy...and Baby Tiger...and Woody and Jessie and Unicorn

The children, without a doubt!

...and having had the same conversation ourselves (we must be morbid too ) dh thinks exactly the same!

at rotten timing

Kids without any doubt. DH can take care of himself or I can get to him later, children would need more help no question.

Yes, stealth, you should. You should have your escape routes - plural! - planned, and do a test run of them every now and again.

Your microwave / tv / any other electrical thing could start a fire. A fire could spread from next door. etc etc.

We don't have a fire and nobody smokes in the house. But we've got planned escape routes, a fire blanket in the kitchen, smoke detectors in every room, a carbon monoxide alarm and fire extinguishers upstairs and downstairs.

DD. DP is replaceable (no offence to her).
But this thread HAS got me thinking about how to save the cats. I had never considered the pillow case lowering plan. But now I will.

Kids of course, they are the future ( and husbands are replaceable :) )

As a matter of interest who d'you think DH should save first if roles were reversed?

How can there ever be any question? Genuinely serious. Me and DH have had this conversation [dull lives]. We both agreed that DD would be our priority. He did say he doubted he'd be able to lift me up [heiffer]

Kids. And if choice between me and kids, kids again.