to just want someone to say congratulation

[biddysmama]

i'm 9 weeks pregnant.. i have a 9 month old baby, a 27 month old toddler and a 9 year old with aspergers... so far ive had

"you'll probably lose it anyway with thm being so close together" that gem was from my mum
"how will you cope"
"you need to stop breastfeeding" (i tandem the 2 littlies)
"if you dont stop bf you will lose the baby"
"do you think you will cope"
"do you not think it would be better for you not to have a baby yet?"
"you better get toddler into nursery"

im pretty hormonal atm, just want someone to say something positive, im starting to dread telling people :(

Congratulations biddysmama. How lovely for your children to be so close in age. Wonderful news

Congratulations! That is lovely news. I am the same, on baby no.4 (unplanned) and nobody in my family said congrats, only how will you cope, you'll have to move, etc etc. You will be fine - a baby is lovely news.x

What wonderful news! Of course you'll cope, you're awesome.

I did it with 5 2 1 and a newborn people were not nice to me either. Sod em congratulations anyway it will be great ....... You may not think so at the time ! But looking back I wish 5 th baby had been closer in age to the others.

Congratulations!

I doubt if people realise their comments are so hurtful. Probably just suprised and failed to engage brain before speaking.

congratulaions, you will be too busy to notice what other people think, enjoy your new addition

rather you than me, but congratulations

if you can afford it, good luck to you

Congratulations

Many congratulations! It's lovely to have them close in age!

Congratulations!

No, you don't have to stop tandem nursing the little ones but you probably will have to look at something to replace/supplement your milk (but not necessarily the nursing) for the baby when your supply drops.

I'd like to have had mine closer together, but my body has this idea that I can't get pregnant until the last one is 2!

Gosh! Congratulations! I'm

Just another Congratulations :)

Congratulations!

When people make snide comments about "coping" try to react as if they have offered to help. Say, "Oh, it's so kind of you to offer -- actually, maybe you could take the two younger ones to the park for half an hour while I put my feet up."

CONGRATULATIONS!!!
I feel a bit jealous, so that might explain the responses. I may be a bit jealous but I am happy for you!!!

Congratulations

I say if you are happy then who cares what others say.

fantastic news!

and keep on with the feeding until YOU have had enough!

(when is the baby due?)

Congratualtions Boozilla the people who have said that are just thinking of how they would cope themselves and putting their own insecurities about it onto you.

You are not them and they were just plain rude.

Sorry - wrong name - I meant biddysmama

imagine me singing "Congratulations" loudly!

Just wait in a few years they will be playing together and all those who critisised will be confounded.

My Ds has four DC of the same sex and you can imagine the stupid and thoughtless remarks that were made to her when they were small.

Last night all her boys were out on the green playing football together, reunited after being separated by studying at different Unis. I was touched to see how pleased they all were to be back together.

Its a blessing to be part of a large family. Congratulations.

Ohhhhhhhhhhh you luckey thing

Congratulations!

Congratulations on your new pg. Frankly I think your friends/family are being monumentally unhelpful and just a little bit mean. You are already pg, what are you going to do get rid of it just because they aren't that enthusiastic?

I have tandem nursed through a pg and TBH it was a great way to have a sit down! Not much chance when I had a toddler and a pre-schooler (DD1 was 3.7 and DD2 was 22m when DD3 was born) so I took every chance I got.

There is a bfing & pg thread on the feeding board if you want some support from others in the same position.