I need people to tell me all the reasons I am being unreasonable and to calm the hell down

[MyToysAreOutOfThePram]

Regular who has name changed as I'm having a toys out the pram moment. And need people to slap some sense into me.

Right, scenario is - I am about to apply for a degree course, total change of career direction recently took redundancy from a job Ive been working in for years that drained my very soul and I hated. Had a really bad few years luck, DH redundant repeatedly, IVF yadda yadda.

Been working towards this application to uni, doing voluntary work in the area, gaining a qualification I need (don't sit exam till december so any offer I get will be conditional on passing that).

A very good friend who knows my background has suddenly decided she quite fancies this career change too. She recently took a qualification which will get her into this degree no problems, however there are only 15 places for the intake I am going after.

So now she's asking questions and saying I hope you don't mind if I go for it too.

Well yes I bloody do mind! But I know I shouldn't. I cant stop her or anyone else from applying! its silly and selfish, and I cant help it but I'm RAGING!

Please come and talk sense into me - I think Ive put so much effort into this application process it feels so precious and Im acting like a spoiled brat.

I need sense talking in bucket loads...please!

Well, I took the advice of many on here and when she asked me how I was I said I was a bit stressed out about the course application and worried I would not get on and that worse than all that, Imight end up competing with her for place.

She was mortified and said she felt like kicking herself for not realising the position she was putting me in and that she was just kicking ideas about to get out of her job. She said she didnt think and was probably going to think about applying for next year

ljgibbs - the course she took is a career path in itself IYGWIM ...she was meant to be setting up a business slowly in that alongside her current job but for whatever reason its not happened so far. But it fits almost perfectly with the course I want to get on.

So all is well and I feel like a plonker for getting so upset but at least alls well that ends well!

Thanks for all the advice I really appreciated it

Glad you spoke to her and alls well

Ahhh I love a happy ending between friends (I've been following your thread), the very best of luck with your application. :)

Yay. Good luck too!

I'm glad that worked out, I hoped she was a good enough friend to see it like that!

I love it when this happens, I start reading a thread and by the time i get to the end the problem has been sorted.

Good luck with your application MyToys you obviously have a lovely friend

Thanks everyone. I feel a bit horrible now actually, that I didn't just say something straightaway but you live and lear. My faith has been restored in human nature and all that gubbins for everyone, huzzah!

Oh, all done - but may I just say what a brilliant namechange for this particular thread?

Thank you

So she will live a long and fruitful life! Good luck with your plans.

I would be raging myself

Oh I was going to say that I've been telling DH about this and that he was adamant that YWNBU. Glad it has all worked out

Result YAY!!!!!

What a fab ending - and have s

Fffffffing bloody phone.

Have some sparkly to celebrate and good luck with your application!

Another development in the saga is now another friend (who did the same counselling course original friend did) has got wind of my plans for this social work course and has said she may apply this time. Its not as much of an issue this time however as a) Ive kind of worked through a lot of the feelings etc already! b) this other friend not as close to me so doesn't feel the same IYSWIM. Ho Hum never mind! Thanks again to everyone who offered advice!

I can understand feeling frustrated with her. You mustn't do anything though, certainly not sabotage her application in any way. If she's asking for help though, I'd say "I've spent hours and hours on research and am sick of it, let's talk about something else".