to ask when you started to want baby number 2?

[SharkSkinThing]

DS is 11 months old. Happy, healthy, sunny little boy.

But it's been bloody hard work, as he was never a great sleeper, and it's taken up until now to get him to sleep longer than 3 hours at night/not wake up at 4am/nap for more than 20 minutes. Birth was gruesome (who's isn't?), and relationship with DP shot to pieces for most of the last 11 months.

So why, after a week of normal sleep, am I now yearning for another? Because my baby is slipping away? Because I have to go back to work next month?

So. Did you, didn't you, have another? Pros, cons? Am asking, really, as 39 this year, so don't have the luxury of leaving it a few years...

Didnt plan DD2. Missed my depo by 2 weeks so had to do a pg test and it was positive. DD3 i had split with the kids dad but wanted another one so i got jiggy with him and voila.

Just go for it, i dont think going from 1 to 2 is as bad as going from 0 to 1

When dd was about 2.4, probably because she obviously wasn't a baby anymore/wanted a sibling for her and I felt I could cope with another.

Ds is 18 months and I always wanted two but now I'm beginning to worry if I can really handle it.

my DD1 was (and still is 4 years on) a terrible sleeper but always knew I didn't want an only child. My brother and I are 17 months apart and I enjoyed a great childhood always having a friend. So we didn't try not to conceive IYKWIM after DD1. DD2 born 16 months after DD1, I was over the moon.

It has worked really well for us - they are best friends (mostly) all nappies done :) all bf done :( they like the same games, same toys and similar activities. I don't want any more and the thought of starting all the work of a little one again would be too much for me. [goes and remembers to take pill]

There was a 3 year gap between the 3 dc's, never fancied the teeny gap route, I'm so done now though.

When dd1 was 9mths. But didn't happen quicky. DD1 was 3.5yrs when dd2 was born. On the other hand didn't want a 3rd but DS arrived when dd2 was 18mths old.

Yep to the 18mo-ish.

DS is 20mo, very chilled out and the best sleeper ever - and I am 7wks along with DC2. Fingers crossed this next one is as easy.....

DS1 was about 6 months old when I started wanting another. WE started trying when he was 10 months, I fell pregnant with DS2 when he was 11 months. There are 20 months between them.

I then had DD 20 months later. 3 under 3.5 was enough to stop me wanting another straight away... but now she is 5 and I do wonder what having a 4th would be like.

Sleep has loads to do with it. I am sue again in October when DD will be exactly 2 years old. I'm not sure I could have handled it if she still wasnt sleeping through. (she started sleeping properly at about 12 months) Everything is so much nicer! :)

I think around DS's first birthday. We've had a fairly easy ride with him in sleeping terms/weaning etc. Pregnancy was failry easy - although towards the end was a bit shit with diagnosed OC and pre-eclampsia.

So we started trying a few months after and I'm now 9 weeks pregnant with DC2.

Quite scared actually, but also very happy :)

.........and sick!

When my first was about 3yo, I felt ready to attempt a second one. Taking account of time to make no. 2 child, I ended up with a 4 year gap, which is perfect for me. My first was a poor sleeper, didn't nap, breast fed through the night for years, it took me a long while to get over all that before daring to have a second one. There were times that I was certain that one was enough, if I'd had two like her with a short gap it would have destroyed me, the only reason I had a second is that I thought DD1 would benefit from having a sibling (she's lovely btw, she just didn't sleep much, ever).

My second DC is such a chilled out little poppet, he breast fed for 5 mins or so, once per 5 hours, then slept peacefully til the next feed. If they had arrived the other way round I probably would have had a 2 year gap, and perhaps even 3 dc. I don't feel brave enough to have a third DC, as I'm not the best of people when sleep deprived, I feel that I'm coping with things the way they are.

before i got pregnant with ds1 i knew i wanted 2 close together...and ended up with 3 under 3's. got a bit carried away!

I always knew I was going to try for 2 as I'm an only child and didn't want my DS to be an 'only' also. We started trying when DS was 1 year

When DD started walking, at 16 months. We have planned the second - have had it planned for ages, but it's only very recently (she is 18 months now) that I could contemplate a second.

I've been feeling broody since DS was 3m, am still not ready in my head though, if that makes any sense, he is nearly 22m now.

I never felt broody for a second baby. I knew I wanted more than one child, and I knew I wanted a similar gap as there is between my sister and me.

That and impending redundancy prompted ttc no 2. I was totally dreading having a second baby as I found it so hard first time round, things had inky just seemed to be under control when DC1 was 18 months and we started trying again.

BTW I found it much easier second time around.

I didn't really get broody but when DS1 was about 23 months thought we should start trying, thinking that would give us a 3-4 year gap, I have a 2.8 year gap.

when ds1 was one i wanted another baby took meawhile to convince dh sostarted trying when ds1was twenty months i have pcos so it took approx twelve months to conceive ds2 was born when ds1 was three and a half and is now13 monthsthey are lovely together and play together but thatsenough for me i think iam very lucky to have two beautiful kids incidentally my friend deceided at the grand oldage of 37 to try and get pregnant[ with her first] fell pregnant immediatly and when her dd was one in view of her age shewas 39 by then deceided to try again and again got pregnant immediatley she hadahealthy baby boy last week

About 2 days after ds1 was born. I was on a hormonal, dh was horrified. We did wait 18 mo before doing anything about it, though.

When my DS had been saying "I'm not an only child, I'm a lonely child" for about 2 years and we realised that due to our career ambitions and the age of us/DS it was a bit of a now or never.

So we did.

She's great!

Well I didn't really. But DP and I had said from the start that we didn't want a big age gap.
So despite ds being a terrible sleeper etc, we ditched the contraception when he was 9 months. It took a further 9 months before I conceived again, so DS was 2yrs 3months when DD was born. She's nearly 6 months old now and obviously adores her big brother.
In the meantime (between deciding to try for another and DD arriving) DS's sleep sorted and he became much easier to deal with. After all 18 months is a very long time in the life of a young child!

Day DD was born. Conceived DC2 8 months later.

In theory we wanted two reasonably close together, but no.1 was such a shock to the system that I'm still slowly coming round to the idea of no. 2. No.1 is now 15 months. I don't have years of fertility left so should probably get a move on.

DH is v. broody though, so much so that he keeps saying things like "oh, wouldn't it be great if we had twins" .