AIBU to not understand how a baby can be "unplanned"

[sansae]

I can understand if contraceptive methods failed - condom broke - etc

but when you're actively having unprotected sex with no contraceptive method.. how is it unplanned?

One of my acquaintances recently told me she got pregnant, i'm chuffed for her but she said it was unplanned but she's very happy. so i asked, oh you mean your contraceptive method failed? She said oh, no, we weren't using anything!

aibu to not get this? perhaps it's just me being thick..

Never understood it myself. You can plan NOT to have a baby, and failing to take care of contraception IS planning a baby, as you didn't plan NOT to (did I say that right?)
You can get carried away in the throes of passion, but know that the morning after pill is available, so I don't get how it could be.

By using the withdrawal method?

failing to take care of contraception IS planning a baby ... I'm not remotely sensitive about my difficulty to conceive and serial miscarriages (I have no DCs), but the frequency with which this has been said here is starting to piss me off.

God knows how it must feel to women who are seriously upset about it.

of course it's not planning a baby (careless, risky - yes) IMO anyway.