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AIBU?

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Original poster

to want to have my DS in the shower with me?

61 replies

dolldaggabuzzbuzz · 22/06/2011 15:20

Each morning DS has a shower with either myself or DH. Dh says it is time he had a shower on his own as he is now 2 years old. I think he is just a baby and we should still be washing him. AIBU?

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MumblingRagDoll · 22/06/2011 15:23

Ah jesus! He's two! Of course YANBU. Tell DH that you feel DS needs help still...they fall over too often at 2!

LolaRennt · 22/06/2011 15:28

do some 2 year olds actually shower by themselves Hmm

NinjaChipmunk · 22/06/2011 15:29

what does ds want to do?

cheesesarnie · 22/06/2011 15:29

ofcourse yanbu!hes a baby!

backwardpossom · 22/06/2011 15:30

He's 2 FFS... My DS is 2 and there's NO WAY he could be left to shower himself. Good grief, what planet is you DH on?

Binfullofmaggotsonthe45 · 22/06/2011 15:30

Is it making your dh feel uncomfortable op? What reason has he given? My ds enjoyed a shower with dad for a few years longer than that. Especially those big walk in ones where you can splash around and i don't have to clean it up have more fun

MumblingRagDoll · 22/06/2011 15:31

Nina at 2 most toddlers when asked "what do you want to do?" will reply "Eat snot" or "Jump in the deep end at the pool"

They dont know what's safest.

Binfullofmaggotsonthe45 · 22/06/2011 15:31

I'd be worried about the water in our house too, you know when the showere goes hot/cold? If i am there then i can turn the shower head to the wall or quickly switch it off.

BitOfFun · 22/06/2011 15:32

I'm with Sarah Silverman on this one.

MumblingRagDoll · 22/06/2011 15:32

My kids still sometimes jump in with me and they're 3 and 6! It's fine!

MumblingRagDoll · 22/06/2011 15:32

What does Sarah Silverman say BOF? Grin

WhoAteMySnickers · 22/06/2011 15:34

Skimmed your post and thought you said DS was 12 Grin

Arf at "what does ds want to do?", he's 2 FFS.

nokissymum · 22/06/2011 15:34

When you say"has a shower with" do you mean you or dh give him a shower /wash him whilst you are clothed or "shower together" as in both of you naked under the shower. Either way i dont see the problem with a 2yr old.

But maybe your dh feels you shouldnt be naked with ds. Like i said he is 2 so dont see what the big deal is but maybe you dh does.

Up to age 6, i still used to wash ds, but with me fully clothed, once they are done, they come out and i get in to have my shower in private, maybe ths is what he means as opposed to not helping your ds to wash at all.

BitOfFun · 22/06/2011 15:35

It's such a happy memory for her, but she realized that she was bathing in the runoff water that had traveled through her mom's "giant Bohemian bush."

cheesesarnie · 22/06/2011 15:36
Grin
ShowOfHands · 22/06/2011 15:41

YABcompletelyU.

I suppose you insist on keeping him away from the knife drawer and bleach bottle too?

I've never bothered supervising dd in the shower. You're dampening their creative spirits. What if they want to turn it up and scald themselves? Fall over and concuss themselves on a tap? Drown? Jeez, children aren't allowed to do anything these days.

AMumInScotland · 22/06/2011 15:45

I'm pretty sure most 2 yo wouldn't be able to reach the shower controls anyway.... so you have to get soaked through switching the shower on for them (and off at the end), in which case you might as well start off nekkid and get on with your own shower at the same time.

Most 2 yo I've ever heard of have baths....

Insomnia11 · 22/06/2011 15:46

I once read a (US) book, quite recently written, with lots of good information on parenting, but then (to me) a bonkers, creepy section which said you should not be nude in front of your children from the age of 3 onwards unless they or you become unintentionally aroused - WTF? Shock

Also it referred to having hurt themselves as a "Boo boo". "Oh, have you done a boo boo?" At that point I put it down and stepped well away from the book...

MumblingRagDoll · 22/06/2011 15:46

nokiss but for many people that is what makes YOU comfortable...if the OPS DH is uncomfortable with a perfectly natural thing then that's HIS problem.

Grin BOF! Mine are taller than that luckily!

Quenelle · 22/06/2011 15:47

Agree with ShowOfHands. If DS didn't eat his body weight in mandarin and ginger shower gel every morning he'd never get all of his 5 a day.

MumblingRagDoll · 22/06/2011 15:48

insomnia BooBoo is a common US phrase for a bump or cut...also an "Owie"

AARGH! How annoying are they?

Original poster
dolldaggabuzzbuzz · 22/06/2011 15:49

We shower him while having a shower ourselves. I think it's convenient and saves time. DS enjoys playing with his frogs while we wash him. He loves having a bath with me too.

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Insomnia11 · 22/06/2011 15:50

MRD I thought that might be the case. I wonder if in the pilot show it was Yogi Bear and his friend Wounded Knee?

NinjaChipmunk · 22/06/2011 15:52

mumblingragdoll I'm not totally stupid! I would assume that there would be someone in the bathroom at the same time, just not in the shower.

MumblingRagDoll · 22/06/2011 15:54

YEs Nina the point is that when it comes to something like this...his opinion isn't really important. Mst 2 year old don't care either way and even with someone standing outside the cubicle he could slip.