2 sets of twins - all siblings - 1 invite = 4 children!

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There is are a set of twins my ds is at school with. Whilst only 1 is in his class, I know that my ds plays with both of the brothers at playtime. He wants to invite both to his party.

However, the boys have younger brothers - another set of twins less than 18 months younger than them. The mum will bring them all, she always does.

My ds is inviting practically everyone in the class - about 22 out of 27. Even this is a squeeze as I didn't want to invite more than 20 children.

I feel for their mother - can you imagine 4 boys under 2! However, I really don't want 4 places taken up by 1 invite. Is it unreasonable not to invite the twins at all?

Oh forgot to say:

1 mother turned up with a younger daughter (about 18 months old) and another mother turned up with a younger son (about 18 months old). Neither took part in the activities or got a party bag, but they both ate at the table!

I was going to put - but the sad thing is that I'm not surprised.

God I can't believe someone would take 4 kids along to a party and expect them all to be catered for, well done you for putting no siblings on the invite.

At dd1's birthday party last month, one mother asked it was OK for her to bring her younger dd. I was totally put on the spot, and said of course to bring her, but one two year old with nine six year olds really didn't work at all.
We invited 15 children, 6 rsvp'ed but 9 turned up on the day...
I had put 2-4 pm on the invitation and one little girl turned up at 2.50 and her father didnt collect her until 5.30!!!Like I was free childcare for his Saturday!
Parties are hell!

For my ds1's 5th birthday party a dad brought his baby in a bucket car seat along with his 5 year old daughter. Of course, this is fine... except he realised it was a drop and go party - so he dropped off both children!

After 20 mins he came back in a blind panic, after his wife had given him a massive flee in his ear for leaving the baby!

At the same party, another mum dropped off her 5 year old daughter (invited) and 2 year old daughter (not invited). She then left and went out to lunch with a bunch of the other mums. The toddler required massive amounts of looking after - taking to the loo - feeding etc. I was extremely pissed off.

Hasn't anyone got any manners?!

I would be livid, TBH. DS just had a birthday party on Saturday and I was worried about this very thing happening, but luckily no one brought siblings. I only made enough party bags for the invited kids and I would've felt terrible, so I'm really glad.

Hmm whilst I do agree that turning up with younger siblings isnt fair, I wouldnt ever tell people not to bring siblings as I've had to take dd to parties ds has been to when they were younger (there's nearly 8 years between them) and also taken ds to parties dd has been invited to. BUT I NEVER EVER EVER expect the sibling to be fed, or have a party bag or anything. The parties I mean are when its at a softplay area etc where I will pay for the extra one myself and buy food for them. I also have never had a problem with people bringing siblings - but they don't automatically get food/party bags (have done so if others havent turned up iyswim) and I would refuse to supervise - I would expect a parent to do that. Because my ds is so much older he tends to get used a lot as a supervisor in the soft play areas tbh (bless him!!!)

I have started doing party food in boxes for dd's last few parties. If anyone comes with another sibling in tow, the have to share the food from one box or wait for leftovers.

Luckily, ds' parties now only involve a few friends going to the cinema - so much easier!