To want to let her tyres down?!.........

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.....or something equally childish.

I realised a couple of days ago that I've been 'dumped' by a friend. A couple of days before that she came along for a drink with half a dozen other friends, that I'd arranged. She's been a bit frosty with me lately but I invited her along, sent her a couple of texts saying 'came you come?' and then to let her know which night seemed to suit everyone. She had plenty of time/chance to say "no, actually I can't stand you anymore and don't want to come." Evening was all very civilised, although she was a bit cool with me still.

Day or two after that I noticed she's removed me as a friend on facebook. (don't you just love facebook?). I use it very rarely, but is a good way to keep in touch with a friend abroad, and I'd been on it on and off over last week or so, talking to him. That's how I noticed she'd gone from my friends list, and knew when she'd removed herself.

I'm as sure as I can be that it's because she found out, six months ago, that I'm gay. We were very good friends, texting/speaking most days and seeing each other at least one a week. She swore at the time that she was ok with it, I was her friend and that was that. But since then she's been cold on and off, although she's not wanted to talk about it further (I did offer early on, but she refused unless another friend came along to "support" her. I said I'd rather not discuss it with anyone else for the time being, so we reached stalemate there.)

I suppose I've really got the hump because she's not spoken to me, or even sent me a text saying 'actually, i don't like this and I'd rather we didn't see each other anymore.' I didn't say anything about it when we went out few days ago, was on my best behaviour because I thought maybe she was thawing and we might be able to get back to being friendly. She was a good laugh and I miss her company. But she's decided to 'unfriend' me now without a word or given me the chance to answer back. Am about that.

So wise MNetters, please can i let her tyres down?!

(apologies for going on a bit)

hester thanks, might catch the thread tomorrow, I'm just off to bed with my cocoa

Not sure what exactly her concerns are - she's very black and white about things and obviously thinks there is only one ideal way of living (her way). I'm not "dissing" that, to each their own, but it does mean she doesn't seem to understand that there are different ways of living, and they can be good, happy, successful too. I did mention that she'd bought up the children to my dd's dad, who's supportive, and he give blew a rapsberry and said "oh for crying out loud." Just about sums it up really!

Actually Kew, i think her bringing the children into it was the first thing that did really piss me off. I was narked before, and upset, but that was the first time i got really grrrrr and had to stop myself emailing something very rude back.

he give blew what? He blew.

"I did mention that she'd bought up the children to my dd's dad, who's supportive, and he give blew a rapsberry and said "oh for crying out loud."" Oh hurrah for DD's Dad.

At least looking on the bright side you can now genuinely think "good riddance"!