To think my DS should have been the "Shining Star" once by now

[justonemorethen]

My DS is in year 2. The school does a "Shining star" every week for one member of class that's done well. It appears to be for both behaviour and achievements in their work.
So far my son has not been the Shining Star once despite only having 22 in the class.
In addition they have a take a bear home thing where one child gets to take the bear for the weekend and record what they did. I asked in Feb why we hadn't had it. It appears that whoever wrote the class list in September for the recording book had left my son off and no one had noticed!
I went into school a few weeks ago and asked how they did "Shining star" awards. His teacher said they have a list and everyone would have a turn so not to worry.I mentioned my concern with their lists. I have just checked and he still isn't SS this week with only 5 weeks left to go.
I am flipping furious that he has been left out.He gets so excited on Fridays and is getting really upset that he never gets the star and thinks that it's because he is rubbish at school
Surely the point is to motivate children. Therefore the chance that you could get it twice would be better served if everyone had had got it at least once before the summer term?

In my experience it get get tricky you become this elusive " trouble maker", word is quickly spread among the teaching staff and other parents, just for wanting to do good by your child, I still think thread carefully. To question I do advocate, something along these lines; He has worked, very hard, loved it being in the reception, loved having you as teacher, we feel he came leaps and bounds while in your class. Make it soft and nice, but do make the point that he would soooooo love to have on of those stars, so he can frame it and have it on his bedroom wall.

I had the same problem with my well behaved quiet, well behaved but able 7 year old son. The school didn't keep a log and so only the 'in your face' show off girls and the badly behaved boys got the rewards. I mentioned it twice to his class teachers but in the end the head sorted it out for us. He was upset that the teachers didn't keep a log of who got rewards and was glad we have approached him. He changed the system as a result.

This thing about PTA members' and teachers' (or TAs') children getting it all the time has never been true in my experience. I am both on the PTA AND a class teacher, and I think my son has been "Worker of the Week" twice. He is in year 6. And has been at three different schools (every time I have changed job, he has changed school).

I think it sounds silly having a prize that is rotated so everyone gets it.

Wouldn't it be better to have a variety of prizes for different achievements eg coming top in a test, most improved behaviour, good effort in class, good sharing, helping other children ?

That way you could give rewards to children who have earned them, for whatever reason

Any more news, OP? I want to hear that your DS has been shining star now...