AIBU to think the foul language and vulgar tone of these threads is just too much

[onceamai]

During the last few days the foul language, just a quick skim through the AIBU headings reveals such awful words, has been such that I don't think I will be coming back again too often. Mumsnet - Middle Class - Parenting orientated - really, is it really? Vulgar, nasty, ill mannered, spring more easily to mind. What a shame.

I don't ever say the C-word. Can't bring myself too. Sorry. Does that make me nice?

@alleg I thought Vagabonds posts were as good as the most creative sweary ones, some of her phrases were briliant, the mix made for a gripping evening's entertainment :)

And I will defend her right to call me a sedimentary underbelly to the death :)

I'm actually mildly confused by the OP and those of her way of thinking.

MN has always been sweary. ALWAYS. I was here when the 'cunting sainsbo's!' thread title caused a similar stir a few years ago and nothing has changed since, so far as I can see.

Except, that is, for some posters, most of whom seem fairly new to the site, throwing their hands up in horror and declaring us 'vulgar' (another word I don't quite get, must be my denseness due to being a bit sweary) for using language that you can hear any day walking down the street (well, where I live, anyway....)

What do you actually want? Do you think that you can march onto a site and expect it to change just for you? That you can somehow 'shame' posters into moderating their language? All you're going to do is come over as quite pompous and rather patronising.

If you really don't like it, there are so many other parenting forums out there, it's not a stark choice between MN and the NetHuns. Or start one of your own, perhaps

I'm loving this thread for many reasons, but foremost among them is still the fact that I now have the phrases 'fuck me by the armpit' and 'excuse the fuck out of me' at my disposal.

@Ormirian I read it as a piss-take OP as well !

I've been asking for ages if you could do something about swearing in thread titles, thanks mnhq.

Some helpful Mumsnetters have suggested my children shouldn't come up and talk to me while I'm on Mumsnet as a means to avoid them reading sweary thread titles. Yep, that is advice that certainly makes my life easier .

Vagabond was by far the most entertaining poster on this thread - that must tell you something -

What do you actually want? Do you think that you can march onto a site and expect it to change just for you? That you can somehow 'shame' posters into moderating their language? All you're going to do is come over as quite pompous and rather patronising.

I think that maybe seasoned Mumsnet 'veterans' have maybe become de-sensitised...because of the daily exposure and level of swearing on here.
I wonder how many swear more now on here and in RL...because of what they are exposed to on here

New members have JUST as valid an opinion as older members and are entitled to their opinion as much as the next person.
Also - the 'if you don't like it go somewhere else comment' is getting really tired...
What are you saying...that if you don't conform to type then you're not welcome? Utter rubbish!

"I wonder how many swear more now on here and in RL...because of what they are exposed to on here" Nope - been here about 6 yrs (I think)

And I recognise many of the names who are anti-swearing as being longer standing members so not sure why you think it is an oldie vs newbie debate.

Was responding to Lovecat...who suggested that anti swearers were most likely to be newer members

"Vagabond was by far the most entertaining poster on this thread - that must tell you something -"

Dang, these kettles are awful black this morning :)

I could note that all it really tells me is that you probably prefer comments that compare people to despised minorities, the underclass, and incite extreme violence - but not comments that have sweary words in them.

But I won't :o

I also note with interest that this thread is one that did not have sweary words in the title.

And IMO names with sweary words in are silly if its just sweary, but if they are clever then I like them as its shows the owner has spunk a bohemian spirit.

Is wondering if bup got her post deleted as she's got cunt in her name ;)

Not welcome? I didn't say that at all - (to S&M) - but would you join a new club or class and immediately start saying what you did and didn't like and what the existing members should change? You must admit that that gets people's backs up. You wouldn't walk into someone's house and tell them that you found their taste in decor offensive and they must change it to suit you, would you? (I do hope not...)

What I am saying is that 'it is what it is' and why come on seeking to change it and demand that everyone else changes to suit you?

Plus there's the leetle matter of Free Speech. Which never gets tired imho.

You're entitled to an opinion, but to express it as the OP did is bound to raise hackles and they should be prepared to defend their position sensibly, not by throwing insults around, running off and coming back 17 pages later telling us how horrid we are.

I'm not suggesting it's necessarily a newbie thing, but there have been a large number of posters suddenly appearing saying 'how dreadful all this swearing is' , which led me to think it was largely the newer people who aren't used to the way that MN is.

The increase in these threads has seemed to go hand in hand with a sudden increase in people starting benefit/disabled bashing threads. I'm hoping the 2 aren't linked...

And please please make me laugh had a very bad morning so need to smile :)
Come on insult me vaga

Ha ha - actually, despite my arguments with Anyfucker over her name ( i don't like it because it's 'in your face attention seeking' ) I know she's a decent trustworthy person ( we have 'pm'd ) - if she tones down the swearing she'd be near perfect. I like posts that have a dark subtlety about them I suppose - i like being led slowly into the abyss - Iykwim.

Eh?

Why was my post deleted?

What I am saying is that 'it is what it is' and why come on seeking to change it and demand that everyone else changes to suit you?

Wow....massive assumptions.

I missed the post where someone "demanded" that everyone change to suit them...

You must have seen it or you wouldn't have said it. right?

I am a decent person ! (Primal's cream said so..)

I don't swear all the time. I mostly swear when somebody tells me I shouldn't.

Or when I am at work

Have we chatted under a different name (of yours) Primal's cream ?

Why would you think I was new just because I don't like sweary words in titles? I name-change about once a year, and am on my third name.

I don't mind it in threads, it's just the endless 'trying to shock' thing is not shocking, just tiresome, and means you end up having to read MN AIBU late at night or hiding away if you are home with small children.

What did cuntcakes say that was deleted?

Fucking hell Anyfucker . We pm'd about 3 weeks ago and you've forgotten me already? - I pm'd you under this name (( Hurt and rejected ))

I said that it was funny how the most offensive poster on here is the non-swearing OP. Underbelly/glassed faces indeed.