AIBU to think the foul language and vulgar tone of these threads is just too much

[onceamai]

During the last few days the foul language, just a quick skim through the AIBU headings reveals such awful words, has been such that I don't think I will be coming back again too often. Mumsnet - Middle Class - Parenting orientated - really, is it really? Vulgar, nasty, ill mannered, spring more easily to mind. What a shame.

"Slubber, MN has always been this way."

Er, no it hasn't actually. Not by a long way.

FWIW, I have no problem with swearing on a thread. I do have a problem with swearing in titles and in poster names. A lot of this thread is rather pathetic going by the number of "message deleted" posts. Assuming they were attacks and not just people typing "message deleted by Mumsnet".

The irony of S&M claiming that people are using MN as a replacement for jobs/relationships, but doing it at 7.30 in the morning. Surely any decent mother is preparing a healthy and substantial breakfast for her littlies at that time. I blame people who post at 7.30 am for the breakdown of society...

It's a pity some of the posts have been deleted, they were scurrilously funny ( what did OP expect to happen as a response the obvious 1 st one was going to be expletive laden - that it was funny as well set the tone for the thread).

As for those all tutting about the bad words, can't you see it was done for humorous effect in the main? Can't you also see that it was the prudes who made the worst allegations, accusing the participants of being ( among others)

• like people at a gypsy wedding
• the rotten underbelly of society, in fact responsible for the collapse of Britain
• needing a good glassing ( look it up )

The response was in the main not to flame but to take the piss, albeit with lots of cuss words, but the point is that it's not swearing per se that is the problem, but intolerance.

God protect us from the pious......

"but the point is that it's not swearing per se that is the problem, but intolerance. "

And yet you are intolerant of those who do not like swearing, thinking it is funny to subject them to labels such as "prude" and "pious" and a torrent of obscenities. Interesting.

Piss up a rope, fucksticks.

I think Peope are trying to imitate malcolm tucker - I don't know, must be something like that. Even he stopped being funny when he started swearing too much ( we stopped watching the thick of it for that reason )
When you start doing something just because you can, or for the sake of it - you become a bit annoying.

Out of interest, people that don't like swearing, what is it you don't like? Genuine question.

SD - good posts....

I don't mind swearing, I just don't like it shoved in my face in names and thread titles. I do find excessive swearing unnecessary and rather childish (I remember at school when every other word I uttered was a swear word).

HullyGully - trying to consider your question. I do swear in RL but not generally, I swear occasionally when I'm angry or you know those kinds of situation but it's just not something I am habituated to.
I do find some swear words offensive and I dislike the way they sounds, and what they signify, I do also find it quite aggressive as swear words are used aggressively are they not?
I don't know why I am like this, I don't know why but I wince when i hear some words and I do find it vulgar. I just do, and it's not something I would do. I don't like it when people swear every other word, it's not that I don't like them, I don't like the sound and the tone.
I am far from being 'pious', 'self-righteous', 'judgemental' or any of the other words that have been levelled on this thread. It's just something that i find a bit unpleasant, that's all

Oh and I just don't find it as funny as some people clearly do

Yes SD, but what is it you don't like when it's in titles etc? I'm interested because i don't mind it, and I wonder what makes that difference.

Is your main thing then, Joni, that it seems aggressive to you? The words themselves, or the context/tone in which they are used?

I have reached some conclusions about people who get huffy about the swearing, after this last week of hand-wringing:

People who do not like swearing are most probably people who say "pardon" instead of "what"

They like "catchphrase" comedy such as Little Britain/Catherine Tate/Harry Enfield n Chums.

They think having one glass of wine on a saturday in front of Casualty is risque.

They harp on about their steam mop from Lakeland.

They use one of those splatter guards on their frying pans.

OP whenever I see headings like yours I think oh no here we go again, out will come all the bad language/abuse etc. Usually I don't bother to open them anymore to glance over. Have to say it is a shame but that's humans for you.

@Soup you are welcome to not swear all you like, I am totally tolerant of that and will defend your right to do so.

But I will do the same for those who do like to swear, maily for the principle of free speech, but also because the are usually funnier :)

fucksticks, fucksticks,fucksticks>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>runs around front room with child like abandon, there is one thing you are all forgetting swearing is just fun.

I don't mind if people swear/don't sear

HullyGully - Yes it is the sound of it and the way those words are used. NOt necessarily on this forum as mainly used for banter, but in RL

Bupcakes
I say 'what' and not 'pardon'
I don't watch Little Britain (not funny and a bit creepy), Catherine tate or Harry Enfield
I don't drink or watch Casualty
Never been to Lakeland
Never seen a splatter guard

Why is swearing fun?

Hullygully - what IS swearing all about then?

It's all so false - People trying too hard to be something

"Never seen a splatter guard"

It's your lucky day.

Any idiot can type 'wanker' -

As a regular lurker and occasional poster, I like the sweariness and general tone of MN. Much of my life as a parent is about talking naicely and saying everything is lovely, it's refreshing to realise that lots of other parents are still sweary, funny, normal people!

What I do find a bit irritating are the 'in jokes' that bang on and on and on.... And the occasional topic in which posters must agree with the MN status quo or be told to fuck off. Not that these threads aren't funny, they are - but they are very exclusive and a bit dull.