warning *a bf thread*.... AIBU to think people go way over the top?

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I've just read on another forum and i quote "if you have no intention of Bf'ing then you just shouldn't get pregnant"

AIBU to think this is a little extreme? or not?

sorry in advance to the BF/FF bunfight haters,i won't do it again..

But surely all you need to say is:

breastmilk = human milk for raising humans

formula = cows milk for raising cows

PonceyMcPonce @ plethora of parenting cock ups

Me too!

Countess- feck off

I suppose someimes i come off as a bit of a show off about bf, but its not intentional.

Its because having been sexually abused as a child, it took a lot to fight my fears to bf. Not to mention the many barriers i faced. One of which was a midwife on the ward who took my son off to cup feed him formula without telling me where she was taking him.

Scariest moment of my life, thinking he'd gone down hill or something.

I wonder how old Tango lady's oldest dc is?

I find it hard to believe that anyone with a child older than 3 - who has reached the stage where really there is more to parenting than feeding, arse cleaning and snot wiping - could believe that crap.

Like a few posters here, I find it hard to understand those who decide from the off that they aren't going to bf, simply because they don't want to.

However, constantly telling ffers what they already know, i.e. that formula is inferior to breastmilk doesn't seem to me to be achieving anything.

I agree too, never had, never would. I find it a gross thought. It is my opinion. Everyone is entitled to their opinion for their own lives but no right to tell others what to do.

People that get excited over breastfeeding are complete and utter wierdos to be honest. I woman I know is desperate to become a midwife and is volunteering for some pregnant woman charity and she gets so excited about the stupidest things. Facebook update:

"OMG BreastFeeding awareness today!!! can't wait!!!"

"Breast Feeding awareness course was amazing, learnt so much, I loved every minute of it!"

BORING!!

Thing is I thought it was just her, then she introduced me to her friend and we're sat in starbucks and the conversation turned to fooking breastfeeding again and they were so into it - I wouldn't mind but the youngest child either of them have is 6 years old.

Saddos

TBH I couldn't actually give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks. I didn't BF, in fact I didn't even try. Why on earth should I have to justify that choice to anyone else is beyond me.

Nixea - im the same didnt want to so didnt try. Ive got 3 dd's all FF and have had no health problems. I couldnt give a shit if somone BF's or doesnt. As far as im concerned its non of my business. Your kid, feed it what u want and dont tell me what to feed mine..simples

God, it seems to me that the smuggest people on this thread are the formula feeders with the organically fed, perfectly parented children.

It's not about the health/nutrition aspects of breastfeeding for me - but to not want to put your own child to your breast is something that I cannot understand.

I know some people can't breastfeed but not to want to try it is very odd. But I'm sure it makes Mr. Cow and Gate very happy!

LeQueen - with all due respect, I think if they look up 'smug' in the dictionary, they'll find you.

You dont have to understand it Countess- you do whats good for you and yours and everyone else can exercise their FREE WILL (yes shocking that in 2011 mothers still have this) to feed their kids how they see fit.

Oh for god's sake - IT'S NOBODY ELSE'S BUSINESS HOW YOU FEED YOUR CHILD - END OF, END OF, END OF.

hahahaha what you people like, breastfeed your baby, dont breastfeed your baby. so what, doesnt mean there has to be waring factions of smugness and defence.

I take medication which meant that I couldnt BF my daughter. I knew this before I got pregnant, so never had any intention, although I still found it really difficult when friends were BF and I had to get out the formula. Now she is eating I do try and give her organic food (although no claim to be a perfect parent here)

I am really quite shocked that some people here think that I shouldnt have got pregnant - in my position would they really have said that they wouldnt have a baby. Ridiculous.

Errrr - Lambzig, no one has said you shouldn't have had a baby . . .

It's obvious that the original point was about people who have no intention of breast feeding because they just plain don't like the idea of it.

If you found it difficult to see friends bf and you ff - presumably you would have given it a go if you could?

And so breastfeeding alone makes someone worthy of a child is what you are thinking Countess? Well newsflash, some mothers who breastfeed neglect and abuse their children. Some women who have never even intended to breastfeed give their kids a better life than they could ask for.

Countess The OP quoted someone as saying "if you have no intention of Bf'ing then you just shouldn't get pregnant" I couldnt have the intention of breastfeeding, but very few people know why and if I was asked then I said that I didnt intend to as it wasnt really anyone's business.

I dont know what I would have done if I had been able to try as it was never on the cards.

My comment was because some people seemed to be agreeing with the idea in the original OP and I wanted to point out that some people dont get a choice in BF and to take such an entrached view is ridiculous.

sorry entrenched of course