warning *a bf thread*.... AIBU to think people go way over the top?

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I've just read on another forum and i quote "if you have no intention of Bf'ing then you just shouldn't get pregnant"

AIBU to think this is a little extreme? or not?

sorry in advance to the BF/FF bunfight haters,i won't do it again..

Bunfight? Where?

yabu. its in the wording 'intention' of course you should intend to give bf a try - why wouldn't you? if it doesn't work out it doesn't work out but yes i find people who are ttc who have no intention whatsoever very odd.

but obviously its not the golden ticket of motherhood - in my bf community i humour some right loons!

PFB DD had minced up burger and chips for her very first meal..

Just could not be arsed with all the BFing and formula crap.

YANBU some people seem to make breastfeeding into a hobby and go all evangelical about it.

What an annoying OP!

I don't think there is an answer to my OP int he 4 million other threads...correct me if i'm wrong though

All that boring steriliser stuff...

Getting bleach spots on my lovely clothes from the bloody Miltons fluid.

Some BF some don't why such the fucking divide? It's up to you as a mother how you choose to feed your baby. If breast is so best why was formula invented? Give me FF anyway.

of course you should intend to give bf a try - why wouldn't you?

Because I didnt want to, never, not once with any of my 3 boys. Simple.

I think some people are forgetting the op and the fact the quote was "if you have no intention of Bfing you just shouldn't get pregnant"-really!!!!

Given all the 100s of other ideals in parenting which lets face it most of us will never achieve how can anybody think the op wasn't unreasonable in thinking said poster was extreme.

I'm staggered any poster can defend such a quote it's ludicrous.

YANBU. End of.

I cannot stand extreme views on this subject.

Well said duck

YANBU, that is extreme.

I think it's quite odd to mind quite so much about the choice someone else makes as to how to feed their baby. I care how I feed MY babies and I'm not really interested in what other people do.

However, I DO care that some people aren't getting the support they need to bf if that's what they want. That does bother me.

If you want to know peoples views, why not just read the thread on the 'other site' ? Perhaps you could do a link to the 'other site' for anyone else here who gives a toss. Then they can go and give a toss on the 'other site' ?

I think its odd to not want to try and do what's best from the start but I don't think someone shouldn't get pregnant if they don't plan on BF either.

I ff my daughter due to bf issues from day one, there is no guarentee that wanting to breast feed will actually lead to breast feeding so not fair to make that the be all end all of parenting.

leQueen you make me giggle

i was on one the other day about somone smoking weed and bf. I said my 3 were ff and the response was ffs weeds not crack ff is far worse

YANBU as to the extremeness of the comment.

YABU for starting yet another thread on this tired old tired old.

Have a lovely pair of for your trouble.

Hmm, I think bfing is special, it's an amazing feeling in my experience - a really intense emotional/physical combo. And you are doing a special thing for your child when you do it; you're giving them stuff that non-breast-milk can't give them.

That said, obviously if you're an average parent in other ways then being a bf-er won't turn you into an A-Grade mother, if anyone is measuring these things.

If someone told me, pre-birth, that she had 'no intention' of bf-ing, I'd think that I had no right to judge her because I wouldn't know her reasons. If I got the impression that someone's reasons basically came down to 'my breasts belong to my husband/partner and I can't bear that yucky feeding nonsense' then I'd probably decide that she was a bit silly. But god knows silly people have babies all the time, it's not a hanging offence.

'When I decided to start a family I fully intended to never bake with my children or allow glitter or felt tips into the house...and I never have.'

yes because home economics and art are exactly on a level with natural/artifical feeding methods.

rolls eyes.......thats all im gona say lol