to think my mum was just being a bitch

[biddysmama]

i have a 9 year old, 26 month old,a 9 month old and ive just found out i'm about 8 weeks pregnant .. i told my mum i was pregnant and all she said was "you'll probably lose it anyway with them being so close together and the breastfeeding " (i tandem both my little ones)

i already have an anxiety problem when pregnant and now im shitting it!

YANBU
Horrible thing to say!
Congrats on your pregnancy.

2 months pregnant with a 9 month old baby?

I didn't even know that was possible

YANBU btw, that's a real shocker to come out of anyone's mouth, never mind your own mum........

Yes, she was being a bitch. I hope she realises and apologises.

Congratulations btw, hope all goes really well

Oh wow! Congratulations!
Life is sure going to get busy for you!
Well done, and ignore your bitch mother mummy dearest :)

That's just nasty! YANBU!

i breastfeed both my littlies aswell, dont ever believe anyone that tellsyou bf stops pregnancy lol ive done it twice now... there is 17months between dd and ds2 and will be 18 months between ds2 and baby

Unforgivable imo. What did you say to her?

What a hurtful thing for her to say.
Is she worried about how you'll cope, or thinking this is an unplanned/unwanted pregnancy?
I don't think there is any proof that having babies close together, or breastfeeding during pregnancy, has any bearing on that pregnancy. Plenty of people on mn could testify to that, so I don't think you should worry about it.
As for your mother, ignore her!
Congratulations :)

i didnt know what to say and just started talking to ds2 instead

Fuck's sake.

I would have told her to go and swivel on a fat one.

Bloody hell, what a fucking shit thing to say!

Big congratulations from me! :)

YANBU, your Mum was being a cow!

Chen you didnt think it was possible to get pregnant when your baby is 7 months old? I have known women who found out they were pregnant again at their 6 week check up! As soon as one is out, it's possible for another one to go in!

i think the comment "2 months pregnant with a 9 month old baby" meant she was 2 months pregnant WITH a 9 month old baby inside her!

What a truly horrible thing to say! Oh and as for the 'too close together thing', there is 11+a half months exactly between my brother and sister so it is entirely possible. Congratulations by the way.

congratulations. That was a completely horrid thing to say

Yes she's being a bitch, is she always like that or do you think she's worried for you and it came out wrong?

I'm 17weeks pregnant (with twins) and have a 7 month old baby who I breastfeed and have never been warned that it might be dangerous, so please don't worry!

i bf dd when pregnant with ds2 and now i bf dd and ds2 while pg, she doesnt agree with extended bf so i think it was partly an attempt to scare me into weaning dd i dunno, shes not very nice sometimes :(

I had to read it twice, because I thought she meant lose control of juggling three kids or something. Then I re- read, I cannot believe anyone would say something like that to anyone, let alone your own mum. Ignore her.
Congratulations!! Your youngest 2 will be very close as they grow up, maybe even in the same year. I have friends that were 11 months apart, they behaved like twins and had a lovely relationship with each other.

Seriously nasty. I am SO sorry as it must have shaken you. Congratulations!

Just curious biddy, don't take offence, are you strongly against birth control, or are you deliberately trying to create a large family while your fertility is high?

How did you tell her about the new pregnancy, was it "Mum I've got great news" or "Mum WTF am I going to do?" Is it possible, she was (very clumsily) trying to make you feel better?

YANBU

Awful comment from her. She should be ashamed of herself :(

Chen I think you're thinking of the (im)possibility of having a 9mo and a 2mo. Of course it's possible to get pregnant when you have a 7mo baby. The maths confused me too at first though, when you pointed it out!