Loudlass, your post is a bit brash, but you've basically distilled it down to a tee, for me:
You DO realise that minimum wage doesn't give you enough to live on without tax credits? £6.08 a hour, multiplied by 40hrs (ft hrs), take away 20% for tax & NI. Comes to the princely sum of £194.56 a week. Or £389.12 if both of you work, but then you lose MORE than the £194.56 through childcare. A living wage? Like fuck. You slog your guts out, end up worse off, and miss out on seeing your dc grow up to boot. And every day you are resentful because you can't afford to retrain to get yourself out of this crappy job, because every penny goes on food and heat. And all your hard work is making some bastard fat cat big boss richer, not you. Why the hell would ANYONE choose that life without tax credits?
... because (apart from the segment that might find the job fulfilling, see potential for better long term prospects, setting examples to kids) that's basically the choice we give people when we say "work for NMW and be glad of it, there's a good boy/girl, see how much self-respect you have now?"
In fact, the more I read posts on here proclaiming the value of work as morally enriching (which I have no doubt it is, it is in my case) and about how the country would be fucked if everyone was like the OP... the more I see this as a class issue.
How is it reasonable for me to sit here, in my professionally salaried job but from a very disadvantaged family/area originally, and claim that someone on NMW in a dead-end, boring, stressful job should be fucking grateful? Because work isn't fun for the majority of NMWers - I've seen it! Especially when a lot of the people I've met in NMW jobs aren't there through lack of ability - just lack of opportunity or bad timing or wanting to put the needs of others first (caring duties, brining up kids, whatever).
I've said it before: to get people off benefits and choosing to work, we need to make work significantly better. A good, living NMW would be a start.
Note this suggestion isn't the same as saying "push those on benefits to the breadline and make em suffer" - but that working should make people significantly better off. In too many cases, it just doesn't. Not enough to make up for the disavantages to working:
Missing kids school plays
Stressful home environment
Commuting "wasted" time
etc
... if we have someone £20 or £30 a month better off working than on benefits, are you telling me that they should be happy that they're getting more in relation to the things they miss out on?
Does it fuck.
Let's put a price on raising our kids.
My price is a few grand.
If I was told: sit home on benefits and we'll pay you £10k a year, I'd probably want to be earning about £15k or £16k a year to justify missing out on raising them.
My job allows me to make that choice.
If you're in a dead end NMW job with no potential, and you get no pleasure from it, it is human nature to make the benefits choice.
All this middle class cooing that the working classes are short sighted, ungrateful, etc makes my blood boil.