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Original poster

To feel like I've been interviewed and rejected re. friendship

63 replies

sparklingchampagne · 09/06/2011 10:25

A new boy has started in DD's Year 1 class.
I got chatting to his Mum in theplayground, and she invited me and DD round for coffee as she wanted to 'get to know people and see if they were suited to being her friend.' I thought this an odd way to word things, but DD and I went for coffee the next week.
We went to the park together, and I had to pull DD up as she went to cross the road without holding my hand, she got a telling off (she's normally as good as gold - was just excited)
I invited them back to ours, and because her son doesn't eat a whole load of food, made a real effort to plan something he could eat for tea. She went through what I was planning to feed him and then told me not to bother as it wasn't organic and he wouldn't like anything I'd prepared.
Since this, the Mum has put her head down and practically run away when she's seen me. Her son, at DD's party, was chatting to me and said that DD was really really naughty - because his Mum said so.

Am not going to say anything, we're all different and sometimes friendships don't take off, but AIBU for feeling like this was an interview for friendship!

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virginiasmonalogue · 09/06/2011 10:26

Rude bitch!!

itisnearlysummer · 09/06/2011 10:27

Oh there are parents like that at my DDs school.

I think I've failed my interviews too!

I generally don't think I'm missing out on much.

ItsTime · 09/06/2011 10:27

I think it probably was and thankfully she saved you the task of telling her she was unsuccessful :)

squeakytoy · 09/06/2011 10:27

Would you actually want to be friends with such a twat? Grin

Fecklessdizzy · 09/06/2011 10:27

Christ, she sounds like a bloody nightmare ... You're well out of it, rude bitch!

JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 09/06/2011 10:27

what virginia said.

plantsitter · 09/06/2011 10:28

Feel sorry for her son. Wonder if he'll ever be allowed any friends?!

Pumpernickel10 · 09/06/2011 10:29

sparkling don't let the rudeness of others make you bad.
You did nothing wrong this lady clearly as a chip on her shoulder.

Original poster
sparklingchampagne · 09/06/2011 10:31

You've made me feel better about it - I had a inkling she was a bit odd! And no, I wouldn't want to be her friend I don't think - just wanted to be welcoming to a new family to school as it must be difficult.
Will stick my friends who didn't interview me for friendship!

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redwineformethanks · 09/06/2011 10:31

How rude!

Original poster
sparklingchampagne · 09/06/2011 10:31

Sorry - should say - will stick to my friends!!!

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ScroobiousPip · 09/06/2011 10:32

Shock at every bit of your post. Sounds like you're well rid!

allthefires · 09/06/2011 10:33

Dont feel rejected - feel delighted you had a lucky escape!

MangoTango · 09/06/2011 10:35

It sounds like her social skills are sorely lacking and you are well shot of her.

sue52 · 09/06/2011 10:36

Would you want to a "suitable" friend for this woman? She sounds like hard work.

madonnawhore · 09/06/2011 10:36

She sounds unhinged, no wonder she doesn't have many mates.

saidthespiderwithahorridsmile · 09/06/2011 10:39

I had one of these once

she told me firmly "I like my friends to be intelligent"

I'm afraid I sniggered

Conflugenglugen · 09/06/2011 10:40

Rejoice! Rid of that one, then.

takethisonehereforastart · 09/06/2011 10:40

She's not going to have a lot of friends is she?

And if by chance she does meet someone else from planet-rude-and-strange then they will no doubt be in too much competition with each other for the title of Best Behaved Organic Eating Child's Mother to be anything other than frenemies anyway.

Lucky escape for you OP.

GypsyMoth · 09/06/2011 10:41

Who has she ended up being friends with then?

LRDTheFeministDragon · 09/06/2011 10:43

Grin I think you're well out of it!

Also loving the idea her son would be able to taste the non-organic-ness of your food .... that's a new one!

SarahStratton · 09/06/2011 10:44

Nobody is my guess. She sounds jaw-droppingly weird.

saffy85 · 09/06/2011 10:46

Shock do people like this really exist?

Thank your lucky stars she avoids you to save you the bother of avoiding her. Who'd want to be friends with her?! Confused

Pagwatch · 09/06/2011 10:46

Yes. Who is she friends with?

Don't bother being rude about her, nor feel slighted by her.
It must be awful to feel so anxious about choosing the 'right' friend that you can't just be yourself and like who you like. Awful. Very insecure and sad tbh.

IntergalacticHussy · 09/06/2011 10:50

oh god, i failed an interview just after we moved here: had been chatting with this mum for a few weeks and she invited me round with dd1, she asked me loads of personal information which i naively gave and i thought we got on really well. I invited her back to ours a few times but she made her excuses and has now taken to blanking me in the street. quite common round here though that kind of behaviour: i usually don't get as far as being asked round, even!