To feel like I've been interviewed and rejected re. friendship

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A new boy has started in DD's Year 1 class.
I got chatting to his Mum in theplayground, and she invited me and DD round for coffee as she wanted to 'get to know people and see if they were suited to being her friend.' I thought this an odd way to word things, but DD and I went for coffee the next week.
We went to the park together, and I had to pull DD up as she went to cross the road without holding my hand, she got a telling off (she's normally as good as gold - was just excited)
I invited them back to ours, and because her son doesn't eat a whole load of food, made a real effort to plan something he could eat for tea. She went through what I was planning to feed him and then told me not to bother as it wasn't organic and he wouldn't like anything I'd prepared.
Since this, the Mum has put her head down and practically run away when she's seen me. Her son, at DD's party, was chatting to me and said that DD was really really naughty - because his Mum said so.

Am not going to say anything, we're all different and sometimes friendships don't take off, but AIBU for feeling like this was an interview for friendship!

oh and wrt to point 2), she knows my ds has ASD! so it was doubly offensive.

She sounds like a prize knob, who wants friends like that. I feel sorry for her DS. The idea of interviewing potential friends is a new one on me, but now you mention it I realise I have failed a couple of interviews before, one because DD goes to the wrong preschool.

saidspider does not sound like the type of friend I would like either. I do admit to spanking dd in the past not proud of it though. Only in the last year she might have ASD ( awaiting a dx) and hav been on the Hanen course which improved the way I communicate with dd.

Did you notice Nick Hewer or Karren Brady hovering in the background at all?

Sounds like you've had a lucky escape OP. Do people like this not know what the word "friend" actually means?!

Ooh ooh - saidthespider, there's a well known Mum in our kids' school a bit like that, she said recently "to be fair (hate that expression anyway and knew she was going to be offensive so I listened in!) DD only really plays with top table kids, with the odd exception and she has a pool in the garden so we don't mind her either"

Well rid, OP. Probably joining school in Y1 because she felt there was nobody good enough in previous school, keep your distance even if you are offered a position!!

I failed before mine even start primary school, as we live out of catchment!!! one couple did invite us over for supper as we were the parents on the block, for us to later find out they were in to key swapping and thier jacuzzi partues were notorious! 6 years later we still havnt lived that one down!!

why would you want to be her friend??

She's the one who has moved and needs new friends - what makes her think she can be so choosy?

She sounds quite unsuitable OP :)

Ha yes, you should call her and thank her for her time but that you regret on this occasion she had been unsuccessful.

Yes, I will ask Alan Sugar to fire her I think :)

Think it all says more about her than you.

I wouldn't have gone round for coffee in the first place. She sounded like a cheeky mare when she said she was trying to find out who'd be suited to be her friend. Who the hell does she think she is, the bloody Queen? You should have just snubbed her and said that you have enough friends already thank you very much.