To be really p***ed off that this is held over my head every time we argue??

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Apparantly, according to 'D'H on our wedding night 3 years ago I said:

'I want a divorce'

DH's hearing isn't the best, I was a very wee bit drunk - doesn't happen often, but I had just got married - which I have explained to him.

It's much more likely that I said:

'I want to buy a horse' (which I do)

Anyway, everytime we argue he throws it at me, he accuses me of arguing because I want a divorce. I have explained I can't remember saying it (if I did) & have apologised. But am now getting really p'ed off with it.

Would appreciate witty comebacks please. I did have one - relating to what he had said once, but he got completely ott angry.

In fact ffs. Not in face.

He called your mum during sex?

I'm assuming if was afterwards.

Thanks madonna & totally - I see the connection with gaslighting now.

I was so at the time, hence the 'horse' comment.

How do you usually react when he accuses you of having said you want a divorce?

OP the more I read the more I think you didn't actually say what he said you said but made that up to get the upper hand in arguments. I think those posters who are mentioning gaslighting have a very good point.

Tell him you said I wish you were hung like a horse.

Sound a right prick bringing it up every time you argue. I thought it was the old chestnut that only women did that!

Are you sure he isn't actually deaf in one ear? That he perhaps has a problem like dyslexia which screws up how you process what you hear or understand? That it confuses him and he becomes aggressive or clingy to hide what he dosen't comprehend? Get his ears properly tested and his audiology processing ie what he hears may not reach his brain in the correct manner.

If it isn't any of those, then go with the MNetter's diagnosis.

Rather than random bizarre examples of your DH's behaviour - and it's entertainingly bizarre - what do you reckon is the problem in your relationship? Because you've got problems.

I can't believe he called your Mum to tell her about what he said to you during sex. How old are you people??