Alpha Male

[suetheslut]

to ask what this means, exactly? What is an Alpha Male?

Anyone who has the 'wow' factor will get on in life - and any boss with half a brain will promote the good workers irrespective of gender.
who is Alan Sugars right-hand man? - a woman. And he's about as politically correct as the Nuremberg rally.

Lying you seem to be taking about charisma in your earlier post, which is a different thing.

The alpha thing is based on dominance - alpha male means dominant male - as people have pointed out it comes from the animal kingdom (whether it can be applied to humans or not is a different question I think).

5s there a touch of Mills and Boonery going on on this thread?

I suspect so seeker

5s there a touch of Mills and Boonery going on on this thread?

No ... but some fairly bogstandard MN sneering though.

Correction - I'm not married to an emotionally abusive man who doesn't give a shit about me - I'm married to a man who knows his own mind.
Maybe I should be married to a wimp who goes off to India for 6 months to 'find himself'

Who's going to India?

Have I missed something?

SGM; This thread is about Alpha males, I gave my opinion on what I think an Alpha male is - I may not be right.
I said there were Alpha females too.
& There really isn't anything wrong in being a successful man - do you think Barack Obama got where he is today by hiding behind the photo-copier?

Agree with SGM that loads of successful people aren't "alpha" types.

Yes there are plenty of people who are successful, but to rise to the top, especially in politics or anything significant, you have to be a certain type of person.
This really is quite simple - just look in your garden and see who's eating who.

Why should the biggest most aggressive predator be admired though? Using brute force and aggression to get what you want aren't qualities that I admire.

People at the top in politics are often right bastards/bullies, again I don't know what there is to admire there.

That's the way it is - if we didn't admire strenght we wouldn't give out gold medals to people who could run fast would we?

Well, we give gold medals to people who run fast if they win a race...but generally speaking we don't care whether our artists, musicians or doctors are 4 minute milers!

Funny how I write brute force and aggression and you interpret that as strength!

Maybe the suffragettes only got somewhere because of brute force and aggression.

Fighting when you need to - when your family is under attack, when your locality is at war, when you need to in order to get your basic human rights met, is not a good thing, it is sometimes a necessary thing.

I cannot understand how anyone could think that brute force and aggression in and of themselves are desirable traits for people to have.

Saddam Hussein got to the top by ruthlessly killing his opponents.

That got his to the top of his hierarchical dominance tree.

Didn't make him an admirable person though.

It's a very hyper-masculine view, to idolise the violent and aggressive.

I prefer my men and my women to have traits like empathy, fairness, kindness, in addition to confidence and a healthy dose of competitivity. Being a thug or a bully is not something to aspire to IMO.

Quite, pigletjohn.

I love Wuthering Heights,but Heathcliff was a complete arse.

He's everything I'd avoid in a partner.