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to wear my wedding dress as a guest at a friends wedding?

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DaisyHayes · 05/06/2011 13:35

I don't want to look like a lunatic Miss Havisham type, but I haven't the time or money to buy a new dress for an upcoming wedding, so was thinking maybe I could just wear the dress I wore to mine.

My wedding dress was not white. It's dark gold, and in fact an evening dress, not a bridal dress.

However. The said friend did come to my wedding and therefore might recognise it (especially as my FB profile picture is a wedding one). If she does will she think me a crazy person or be offended?

Yay or nay?

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DoMeDon · 05/06/2011 14:15

YANBU as long as it's not inappropraite for venue. Sure everyone will be focussing on bride and bride will be too busy to notice.

katvond · 05/06/2011 14:16

Phew I was worried then OP

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DaisyHayes · 05/06/2011 14:17

Meh. Ah, I'll just wear the tracksuit bottoms I've got on now. It'll be fine, no-one will be looking at me, anyway.

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DoMeDon · 05/06/2011 14:18

They will if you wear trackies Grin

TheFlyingOnion · 05/06/2011 14:18

oooh thats nice Balloon!!

It sounds like you'll be way overdressed for a registry office.

Have you got a sundress you can put some nice accessories with?

TheFlyingOnion · 05/06/2011 14:19

definitely better to be under- rather than over- dressed

hmm maybe not trackies though - are they diamante? Grin

KateMiddletonsEyebrows · 05/06/2011 14:21

My friend wore her mother's (white, but shortened) vintage wedding dress to my wedding. She looked great but I did think it was a bit odd.

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DaisyHayes · 05/06/2011 14:22

They've got a bit of egg spilled on them which has dried into a sort of diamond shape, TheFlyingOnion.

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DaisyHayes · 05/06/2011 14:24

Oh God. Right then. Can I wear a black dress if I put a pink jaket over the top and wear pink sandals?

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cat64 · 05/06/2011 14:24

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Icelollycraving · 05/06/2011 14:24

I'd say the fact it's full length is too much for a registry office. You may look like you are being a bit up stagey when she realises it's your wedding dress.
Don't have to go to Oxford street,are there any local shops?

TheFlyingOnion · 05/06/2011 14:27

wear the black and pink outfit. Perfect.

katvond · 05/06/2011 14:28

OP have you a piccie of your dress then we can tell if it's suitable or not

cerealqueen · 05/06/2011 14:30

A tad gullible me. Could you shorten it, as you might get more wear out of it anyway being a bit shorter?

happygilmore · 05/06/2011 14:32

black and pink fine

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DaisyHayes · 05/06/2011 14:33

My dress is quite similar to this one katvond.

But I think perhaps you're right about not wearing it. I'm just going to wear the black dress and mutter a lot.

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TheFlyingOnion · 05/06/2011 14:37

thats a really nice dress, but possibly save it for another occasion...

DoMeDon · 05/06/2011 14:38

Beautiful dress - wear it.

katvond · 05/06/2011 14:40

That's a nice dress daisy. I'd wear it to your friends wedding.

SpringFollows · 05/06/2011 14:41

Gorgeous wedding dress IMO.

But wear the pink and black. Yiou may well upstage the bride.

But, what a GORGEOUS dress. Wish i'd had something like that. I had a strange thing in pale pink and lime. Have no idea what i was thinking.

diddl · 05/06/2011 14:54

Oh that is such a lovely dress.

I can see why you want to wear it.

Is it really evening looking when on or a bit maxi?

If it looks formal & evening I´d say no, but otherwise-go for it!

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 05/06/2011 15:42

It's like a maxi-dress then... wear it, OP, it will look very nice I'm sure.

YellowDinosaur · 05/06/2011 15:44

I'd wear it with sparkly flats and a cropped cardi so as not to look too dressy in heels.

I don't see an issue with this at all

ChaoticAngelbitchfromhell · 05/06/2011 15:56

Now if it was me, I wouldn't have a problem with you wearing a dress similar to the one in your link :) Then again I'm not your friend. If yours looks more maxi dress than evening dress then it should be fine for a register office wedding. If you don't want to wear flats then maybe wedges?