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to have not realised unprotected sex with Dh would get me pregnant?

91 replies

LolaRennt · 04/06/2011 16:18

3 years ttc my dd1.. loads of ttc sex, unprescribed clomid, everything before I was lucky enough to get pregnant.

So why is it now that she is 4 months old, and we've done it like twice, and I have only had 2 periods and she only finished BF last month do I suddenly find myself up the duff. I mean honestly. What the actual fuck.

DD was 2 weeks late, this baby they could end up with the same birthday.. I am a moron. Yes, I ABU

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OmniaParatus · 04/06/2011 17:57

Congratulations!
The same thing happened to me, I remember sitting with a pg test in my hand, watching 10 month DS crawl round the floor, thinking, 'I can't have a baby, I already have a baby!'
It took 3 years to get DS, and 1 month of not bf to get DD!

A note of caution, be VERY careful after this- I went on the implant when DD was 16 months old. She is now 28 months, and DS2 is 2 months, it just didn't work for me at all.
Still, after 3 years of thinking I'd never be a mum, I'd much rather have 3 under 4, hard as it is, than have no children at all.
Good luck OP, it is hard having 2 close together, but as other people have said when they are older they tend to be really close Smile.

alistron1 · 04/06/2011 18:34

Congratulations!! There is 11 months between my DD's 1 + 2 and 18 months after DD2 I had DS1. It was hard work, but so lovely having 'em all so close.

Mind you after DS2, I got myself the mirena...just to be on the safe side!!

MilaMae · 04/06/2011 18:47

Same happened to me.

7 years IVF/ICSI-every fertility problem known to man(tubes,ovaries, slow sperm,endo,pcos the whole repro system actually).

DP and I stayed in a Travel Lodge to clean out a house we had rented when our IVF twin boys were 6 months old,did it the one and only time since said 6 month old twins had been born and Bobs your bloody uncle dd came into being!!!!!!

My mum was a bit Hmm when I wailed "I don't know how it happened".

I love stories like this-congratulations!!!!!!!Grin

fluffygal · 04/06/2011 18:49

My two nearly had the same birthday a year apart- 06 Jan 2006, then 01 Jan 2007!

The first year was the hardest (difficult 2nd baby) but it got a lot easier. Congratulations!

dolldaggabuzzbuzz · 04/06/2011 19:20

The same happened to me when DD1 was a few months old! I was so upset when I got the positive result tears poured down my face. I felt trapped in an unhappy relationship to boot and initially considered ending the pregnancy (I shudder to think of that). I couldn't imagine loving this baby like my DD1 and I didn't enjoy the pregnancy or look forward to the birth until close to the due date.

DD2 was born when DD1 was 13 months old and is the apple of my eye, she has never been one bit of trouble. The girls have been great playmates growing up together and they have filled my life with complete and utter joy and laughter.

It has been hard bringing them up alone (and skint) from ages 2 and 3 and I have sometimes felt like not a good enough mum and that they deserve better than me, but I am immensely proud of the 2 lovely young ladies (age 18 and 19) I have raised and feel incredibly lucky and blessed.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

piratecat · 04/06/2011 19:26

cos your body now knows what to do.

it happened to me too once in similar situation. i was in complete shock. We only had sex once.

snowmummy · 04/06/2011 19:35

We had several rounds of IVF; it didn't work. Fast forward a good few years and we were shocked to conceive DC1 - assumed he was a bit of a miracle, and was equally as shocked when we found out about DC2. Then DC3 happened. We're beginning to get the picture now Grin

confuddledDOTcom · 04/06/2011 20:09

Ok I'm mobile so can't check back who said it but I'm shocked! I didn't realise how easy it was to diagnose infertility, I thought most women still had periods when infertile but I guess you learn something new everyday.

You're not a moron, it's "obvious" if you've had fertility issues that you're still going to have them. Of course the real world is different but do we ever think the real world applies to us? In the unit my children were in there is pictures of quads all over the wall, the same set going through hospital and growing up. They were IVF after many years of heartache for those parents but I'm told before they were home Mum was pregnant!

Congratulations anyway and don't kick yourself Grin

DoraJo · 04/06/2011 20:26

The same happened to us! 8 years ttc, 3 x failed IUI and DC1 eventually conceived on Clomid. DC2 was conceived naturally 6 weeks after stopping contraception - I was in total shock for ages! But so delighted, and I really hope you will be too, massive Congratulations to you!! Please don't feel too daft, of course after all those years of ttc you can't begin to imagine a natural conception will ever happen to you, and it sounds like lots of us have been equally surprised this way!

ipredicttrouble · 04/06/2011 20:27

Yep happened to me too. DD is 11 months old and I'm 37 wks pregnant! Just praying that they don't have the same birthday.

I'll let you know how it goes Wink. Help! Grin

LorettaMasonPotts · 04/06/2011 20:34

Congratulations! Similar thing happened to me too. Two years to conceive DS and two minutes to conceive DD Grin

MilaMae - I didn't know how it happened either!

JenniL1977 · 04/06/2011 20:51

Congratulations Lola :) I'm 29wks pg with my first after nearly 4 years of ttc, fertility treatment, etc. I had a dream the other night that I got of again when this one is 3 months old, which tbh I would love :) but DH looked a bit scared when I told him!
I think (hope!) your body just starts to know how to work; same thing happened to my stepsister after 2 mc's; 2 dc in the space of 14 months.

JenniL1977 · 04/06/2011 20:51

*got pg again. Stupid iPhone :)

bringmesunshine2009 · 04/06/2011 21:04

LOL you numpty. Congrats. PS am a BIG fan of phrase 'up the duff' Wink

deste · 04/06/2011 21:39

I fell pregnant after 7 years and had a miscarriage. I fell pregnant 6 weeks later. I then had a gap of 9 years before I had my DD.

Luminary · 04/06/2011 22:37

Well, congratulations to you, missus. Despite the shock, you must be chuffed after all you've been through.

Hoping some of your luck rubs off on me. 3 yrs +ivf to conceive number one. Onto month 12ish of ttc number two, and hoping for a little of your good luck. Sadly, think I've passed the window of a lucky second freebie.

Wow, that's a lot of luckies for one sentence. Guess it just sums up this whole ttc shenannigans. Pure, dumb luck (not that I'm calling you dumb, or anything....I should just go...)

Congrats, and YASNBU to think that you'd get up pregnant from, you know, sex - infertility does a number on your head. I mean, really, sex leads to pregnancy??! Only for other people.

Luminary · 04/06/2011 22:40

not get pregnant, from sex....what the hell is 'up pregnant'?

babbi · 04/06/2011 23:04

Congratulations... you are not a moron, the moron is my friend who after 8 years had a DD , then 3 months later was PG and went on to have a DS and then 4 months after that was PG again with another DS..... You have been warned !!!

Neither of you are morons incidentally, just lucky mummies !

Look after yourself x

Original poster
LolaRennt · 05/06/2011 00:42

Congrats, and YASNBU to think that you'd get up pregnant from, you know, sex - infertility does a number on your head. I mean, really, sex leads to pregnancy??! Only for other people.

ha ha that is exactly it Grin

these stories are brilliant- it almost seems common not that any of us are common of course

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Morloth · 05/06/2011 01:24

LOL, congratulations.

My friend can beat you though. 10 years of IVF and all the associated horror, they finally get their little girl.

Less than 5 months later, she gets knocked up, with twins.

Now they have three most excellent little girls and she is losing her mind...

It never rains but it pours.

Original poster
LolaRennt · 05/06/2011 02:31

morloth Shock

no one mention twins again...please

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Morloth · 05/06/2011 02:36

We get together now and sit there and wonder where all these children came from.

I never did IVF but have PCOS and we worked through a lot of the infertility stuff together (took me 2 years with DS1 but then only 8 months of trying with DS2), things worked out good. Grin

MummyDoIt · 05/06/2011 06:29

Same thing happened to me. Took three years of ttc, one year on Clomid and two IUIs to conceive DS1. DS2 was conceived while I was still bfing plus I hadn't even had a period so it must have been the very first time I ovulated. DS1 was only five months old when I found out. We did want two children and had made a conscious decision not to use contraception, knowing there was an outside chance I could get pg, but the speed did take us by surprise.

Once we got over the shock, we were delighted and I love the 14 month age gap now. Wouldn't have it any other way.

Congratulations!

Buddhastic · 05/06/2011 06:33

Congrats, my two are eleven months apart. Born in the same year. One in Jan and one in Dec and no second one wasn't premature. Best thing that ever happened to me just didn't feel like it at the time.

verytellytubby · 05/06/2011 09:55

Congratulations!

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