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Original poster

to have not realised unprotected sex with Dh would get me pregnant?

91 replies

LolaRennt · 04/06/2011 16:18

3 years ttc my dd1.. loads of ttc sex, unprescribed clomid, everything before I was lucky enough to get pregnant.

So why is it now that she is 4 months old, and we've done it like twice, and I have only had 2 periods and she only finished BF last month do I suddenly find myself up the duff. I mean honestly. What the actual fuck.

DD was 2 weeks late, this baby they could end up with the same birthday.. I am a moron. Yes, I ABU

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LolaRennt · 04/06/2011 16:34

well good luckyou then chunkypickle! I actually gave up BF because dd just would not play the game, maybe if the next one does I can express a bit for dd1.

10 months!? [yikes]

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nancydrewfoundaclue · 04/06/2011 16:35

lola took ages to conceive DC1, was on last round of clomid and had been referred for IVF when got pregnant Smile

And yes hugely confusing at the time. I had no periods and didn't find out until I was 14 weeks. Best thing that ever happened to us though (although there is 14 mths between my first two!)

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LolaRennt · 04/06/2011 16:37

Yeah we are pleased as it was such a struggle before and feel very lucky to have it happen again. I guess I am just scared as I don't know if there are more risks in having a baby so soon after? I mean a pregnancy does deplete you, and I haven't been taking prenatal vits etc. I may have even had a nice drink yesterday Blush

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LoopyLiz88 · 04/06/2011 16:46

my sister was 6weeks old at my 1st birthday party.

ChunkyPickle · 04/06/2011 16:47

Thanks Lola :) we just got on with BF - I'm finding it quite an adjustment actually having to remember to carry snacks with me now he eats real food!

I think kellymom said the average for AF return is about 15 months!

There probably are increased risks, but I'm sure they're minimal - especially with all the care/checks/vitamins etc. we take these days. Don't worry about it - my DP loved having 2 brothers so close in age.

TidyDancer · 04/06/2011 16:49

Congratulations, you moron! Grin

thefirstMrsDeVere · 04/06/2011 16:51

Congratulations! Grin

I was actually trying for a baby with DC5. I was still like Shock when it actually happened after a week of trying!

I walked around like a twit with my mouth open for weeks.

Hurray!!!! A baby Grin

Beckyitisthen · 04/06/2011 16:52

Ah congratulations. I have a 15 month, very unplanned, gap. Best thing that could of happened now they are 6 and 7 and are the best of friends (but also fight like cat and dog!) your body will be fine, tired, but fine. Congratulations :)

fifi25 · 04/06/2011 16:54

i know 2 friends who tried for years, had ivf, one had twins one a dd and then they both fell pregnant within a year.

Congratulations Grin

nethunsreject · 04/06/2011 16:56

COngratulations!

I have a few frineds who have found themselves pg very soon the second time, after no end of effort first time. So you aren't the only one!

Hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy. Smile

drivemecrazy63 · 04/06/2011 16:59

because its i thought common knowledge that whilst your already more fertile as hormone levels will still be high when youve recently just given birth you also ovulate just before your first period and after child birth your periods are sometimes off shedule so its obvious really that its actually even more likely to happen quite quickly if you have unprotected sex.. but hey congrats hopefully they will be very close as they grow up good luck

PacificDogwood · 04/06/2011 16:59

Congrats and Grin!

Took us 3 MCs and 5 years to 'make' DS1 - DS2 was born 1 year and 10 days later.
I was very relieved when DS1's 1st birthday came and went and I was still pregnant...

I also know somebody who had 2 DC within one calender year.

PacificDogwood · 04/06/2011 17:00

Oh, and I must have conceived the week after I stopped BFing DS1 and it took me to 16 weeks to realise I was pregnant and I am a dr Blush.

My name is PD and I am a fertility moron

Northernlurker · 04/06/2011 17:01

Congratulations Smile

Yes this happens a lot and there's no reason to be concerned about the health of the pregnancy. Just start taking folic acid now and eat normally. You're most likely fairly well nourished anyway - most people in this country are -so more than able to sustain a second pregnancy.

Northernlurker · 04/06/2011 17:02

PD - you muppet! Mind you my GP gave us a good contraception talk after dd1 and I strongly supect she was speaking from experience Grin

AlpinePony · 04/06/2011 17:04

Congratulations, I am greeeeeeen with envy!

BlooferLady · 04/06/2011 17:13

well, as someone mournfully trying to TTC their first for the last 18 months, I think that's fab news & it's cheered me right up - it means sometimes long TTC periods are just a one-off :)

Congratulations. I'm sure you're still in shock, but what a lovely shock to have!

mumnotmachine · 04/06/2011 17:27

My friend and her sister are 11 months apart, her sis is Sept and her the following August- they were both in the same school year!!

mumnotmachine · 04/06/2011 17:27

Oh, and congratulations OP- a lovely surprise!!

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LolaRennt · 04/06/2011 17:29

love these stories, nice to know I am not the only one Blush

lots of luck to those of you having trouble though, I know hard it is :(

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aldiwhore · 04/06/2011 17:32

Congratulations OP... and hahah!! Reminds me of me a little though we weren't trying to conceive, we were just in ce la vie mode, and it took five years... by which time I'd forgotten we were in that mode and I feinted in shock (my friend bought me a book with pictures and everything).

Fast forward 3 years, and I'd had trouble with the coil so had it removed, other contraception really has never agreed with me (sensitive soul that I am) and so we agreed the we'd do without but were open to the idea of the possibility of another child.... hmm. Within a few weeks I was pregnant again (and happy) and shocked again!

Its certainly made me less judgemental of others! Unless its of those who actively hated the idea of pregnancy and did nowt to avoid it....

Anyhoo, congratulations and erm... haha!!

HooverTheHamaBeads · 04/06/2011 17:33

congratulations to you xxx

aldiwhore · 04/06/2011 17:34

And yes, to those having trouble conceiving... that sucks, my sister is struggling and know that its bloody hard for her, so I am not trivialising the whole thing.

PhishFoodAddiction · 04/06/2011 17:39

Congratulations! Grin

Bet your jaw hit the floor when you saw the positive test!

There's a 12 months and 12 days gap between my DDs, not planned that way but it's worked out so well, and they have a lovely close relationship (though they obviously have their moments). They are 4 and 3 now, and I wouldn't want it any other way.

NieuweBuurvrouw · 04/06/2011 17:43

Congratulations! YABU/YANBU in equal measure.

It took us 18 months to conceive DD, when she was 8 1/2 months we started TTC DC2, I was still BF and we were assuming it'd take forever. We figured an 18 month gap was the smallest we could handle. DS was conceived straight away, BAM. There's 10 days short of 18 months between them.

OK, I was TTC, but it took me about 1/2 of the pregnancy to get over the shock.