AIBU?
I'm not talking to my 3 yr old
HystericalMe · 03/06/2011 20:31
AIBU? I can't talk to my nearly 4 yr old. About half an hour ago he threw a toy out of the window. One my parents bought for me when, and where, I was born.
I literally feel so sad and angry if I talk to him I'll start shouting. So I feel like I can't be bothered to do his normal story.
I've left him in his bed.
pigletmania · 03/06/2011 20:35
YABU, if it was that sentimental to you, would make sure it was out of sight. My dd has destroyed toys that I used to play with, but I was fine as I rescued them from my mums loft as they were gathering dust. I would rather she had fun with them, then they sitting there doing nothing. Get a grips woman, your ds is only 3 he does not know its the toy you used to play with when you were 1.
SunshineisSorry · 03/06/2011 20:41
Oh, im sorry that you have lost your toy, bit silly to let him have it, but i understand why you would have wanted him to play wiht it, i also get why you were upset enough to not want to talk to him for fear of shouting, better than screaming at him. Go and give him a cuddle and a story - then go pour yourself a big glass of 
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SmethwickBelle · 03/06/2011 20:42
I do understand why you are upset. My DS, also nearly four recently smashed a teapot that my dearly departed granny gave me when I was 10. He badly wanted to play tea parties with it, (was in the shape of a cat) I'd asked him to be careful. It was hard to be reasonable, or controlled when it was swept onto the floor as part of a bit of a insta-tantrum and it was shattered. I was reasonable and controlled but I was cross and no I didn't want to talk to him.
Yes it did prompt me to move everything precious totally out of reach (not just higher).
Go and give him a cuddle when you've calmed down. I hope the toy is salvageable.
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SunshineisSorry · 03/06/2011 20:53
blimey, dont you lot ever make a parenting mistake - OP, perspective is, you were upset, rather than scream and shout at your child you did what is recommended, you removed yourself from the situation to calm down, then felt shitty about it, which of course you would. Go give him a cuddle and dont beat yourself up about it.
ChippingIn · 03/06/2011 21:01
I'm sorry :( Can you go and have another look for it, maybe someone has put it on a window sill or something?
I would be livid too and would have done what you did, it's far preferable than shouting really isn't it.
He's almost 4, irrespective of whether it was yours or his he should not be throwing things out of the window, so he would be in trouble for that anyway.
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