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Original poster

I'm not talking to my 3 yr old

82 replies

HystericalMe · 03/06/2011 20:31

AIBU? I can't talk to my nearly 4 yr old. About half an hour ago he threw a toy out of the window. One my parents bought for me when, and where, I was born.

I literally feel so sad and angry if I talk to him I'll start shouting. So I feel like I can't be bothered to do his normal story.

I've left him in his bed.

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squeakytoy · 03/06/2011 20:32

Why are you letting a 3yr old play with something that is so precious to you?. Of course you are being unreasonable, a child that age would not understand the sentimental value of anything.

usualsuspect · 03/06/2011 20:33

YABU

and a bit of a loon

Hes 3

begonyabampot · 03/06/2011 20:33

seriously? mine are older but no matter how much they have annoyed me, i still have to kiss them goodnight and tell them I love them - so YABU I guess.

TrinityIsAShreddingFatRhino · 03/06/2011 20:34

he shouldn't have had it in the first place

please stop being so mean

Original poster
HystericalMe · 03/06/2011 20:34

Ok i'll go put him to bed. I know, I wouldn't feel the same if it was anything else.

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Georgimama · 03/06/2011 20:34

Your username says it all really. You know you are being unreasonable. He's 3 for Christ's sake. You must have allowed him with the toy, near an open window. It's your fault he's broken it and you're angry with yourself.

pigletmania · 03/06/2011 20:35

YABU, if it was that sentimental to you, would make sure it was out of sight. My dd has destroyed toys that I used to play with, but I was fine as I rescued them from my mums loft as they were gathering dust. I would rather she had fun with them, then they sitting there doing nothing. Get a grips woman, your ds is only 3 he does not know its the toy you used to play with when you were 1.

Squitten · 03/06/2011 20:36

I'd be mad at myself for leaving something so precious where he can get at it! He's only 3...

Happymm · 03/06/2011 20:36

YABVVVVVU. He's 3, you're a grownup. If it was that precious put it away somewhere safer. And to not tell his bedtime story, give cuddles, tel him you love him...over an object? Shock

SunshineisSorry · 03/06/2011 20:41

Oh, im sorry that you have lost your toy, bit silly to let him have it, but i understand why you would have wanted him to play wiht it, i also get why you were upset enough to not want to talk to him for fear of shouting, better than screaming at him. Go and give him a cuddle and a story - then go pour yourself a big glass of Wine

Mutt · 03/06/2011 20:42

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SmethwickBelle · 03/06/2011 20:42

I do understand why you are upset. My DS, also nearly four recently smashed a teapot that my dearly departed granny gave me when I was 10. He badly wanted to play tea parties with it, (was in the shape of a cat) I'd asked him to be careful. It was hard to be reasonable, or controlled when it was swept onto the floor as part of a bit of a insta-tantrum and it was shattered. I was reasonable and controlled but I was cross and no I didn't want to talk to him.

Yes it did prompt me to move everything precious totally out of reach (not just higher).

Go and give him a cuddle when you've calmed down. I hope the toy is salvageable.

YummyHoney · 03/06/2011 20:45

This is a wind up.

usualsuspect · 03/06/2011 20:45

There seems to be a lot of wind ups about atm

Pissing me right off

sleepingsowell · 03/06/2011 20:46

I am really hoping this thread is a wind up and that no grown adult would think that way

If not...what Mutt said.

Mutt · 03/06/2011 20:47

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Original poster
HystericalMe · 03/06/2011 20:49

Look I'm on my own and I haven't shouted at him, I came here to get some perspective. So thanks.

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HystericalMe · 03/06/2011 20:50

No someone must have grabbed it at soon as it fell on the street, was a soft cuddly toy.

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nzshar · 03/06/2011 20:51

Look you have perspective now. The thing that was so precious to you should not have been in reach of a 3 year old and if it was it is your fault

SunshineisSorry · 03/06/2011 20:53

blimey, dont you lot ever make a parenting mistake - OP, perspective is, you were upset, rather than scream and shout at your child you did what is recommended, you removed yourself from the situation to calm down, then felt shitty about it, which of course you would. Go give him a cuddle and dont beat yourself up about it.

nzshar · 03/06/2011 20:54

Yes make plenty of parenting mistakes but blame myself not a 3 year old!

chicletteeth · 03/06/2011 20:56

It's your fault, but I understand your sadness.
Go kiss him and tell him you love him and put him to bed.

pinkstarlight · 03/06/2011 21:01

sounds like your having a rough day,little kids can be hard work but you know what you should count your blessings that it wasnt your child that fell out of the window.

ChippingIn · 03/06/2011 21:01

I'm sorry :( Can you go and have another look for it, maybe someone has put it on a window sill or something?

I would be livid too and would have done what you did, it's far preferable than shouting really isn't it.

He's almost 4, irrespective of whether it was yours or his he should not be throwing things out of the window, so he would be in trouble for that anyway.

SunshineisSorry · 03/06/2011 21:04

I dont believe the OP blamed her child at all, she was angry and rather than shouting at him she left him in his room. I think she behaved totally reasonably and cannot believe she has been framed.