AIBU?
. YANBU. My little ditavonteesed · 03/06/2011 16:20
they are perfectly cared for, they have drinks and plenty to do and are perfectly safe, i am watching them through the window (cant go out in heat else burn instantly) they are bickering like mad, my intervention will do little except get me annoyed and make them and me shout more.
worraliberty · 03/06/2011 16:24
Shouting at them isn't caring for them is it?
Why not go out and play with them..or tell them if they don't behave, they'll have to come indoors. You can always cover up from the sun by the way.
It would drive me mad living nextdoor to a noise like that...and then a sreaming mother on top of it all.
TheLadyEvenstar · 03/06/2011 16:34
I am forever apologising to my neighbours about DS1's tantrums - at first they were sort of 
looking at the size of him, until I explained when he wasn't around that he has "meltdowns" due to him have aspergers.
But still it is my responsibility to deal with things as they arise and would not leave them in the garden to bicker - Can't play nicely? - go to your bedrooms and play alone.
ditavonteesed · 03/06/2011 16:36
paddling pool burst last hols (mind you they would make noise in that as well) garden is completly south facing so absolutly boiling, have called just about everyone I know this afternoon but noone around, cant think of anywhere to take them (bit late now anyway) they get really grumpy if stuck in the house, they seem a lot better now are reading on the trampoline which appears to be in the only bit of shade.
I meant to get another paddling pool and then I thinkk it cooled down a b it and I forgot.
CoffeeIsMyFriend · 03/06/2011 16:38
There are 2 children who live a few doors from me. 1 is about 3 and the other approx 9months- a year old and the baby never seems to stop crying.
It drives me insane when I am out in the garden, I really struggle with continual baby crying and have to come inside. 
ditavonteesed · 03/06/2011 16:47
they have not actually been outside for that long as I wouldnt letr them earlier because of the heat. and they will be in shortly for bath and dinner so not really all day, they have been arguing all day though mainly because they were bored being stuck in. they ahve not actually argued again since I posted the op.
worraliberty · 03/06/2011 16:51
I love happy noises floating across the gardens..even the ear piercing screetches of delight from the little girl in the next road 
But but squabbling/bickering is like a bloody car alarm that doesn't stop. My kids are always warned and sent to their rooms to calm down...then given another chance to play nicely back outside.
ditavonteesed · 03/06/2011 16:52
goblin child I am, the same, the problem is my input will onyl make it louder, they will scream their side of the argument at me and whoever ends up being inb the wrong will have a paddy, if I leave them to it they will sort it out very quickly and go back to playing nicely or as they were actually doing reading. I am trying to teach myself not to intervene so much.
ditavonteesed · 03/06/2011 17:11
I know that as a family we make far too much noise, dd1 has real anger management problems and tbh I am at my wits end as to what to do about it. she gives vey little warning and just loses her temper for nothing (obviously not to her and I am trying to get her to explain to me more why she is so upset/angry all the time) and will then scream and shout for what seems like hours, she will calm down on her own (usually probably about 10/15 mins) but if I try to talk to her or intervene in any way it will take twice as long again. dd2 spends a lot of the time screaming or in tears because dd1 can be horrible to her when she is like this.
I actually need to get to the b ottom of it, but she has been like it on and off since being a toddler.
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