to expect DH to leave London when he says he will?

[Enorelbot]

DH went out for drinks with some colleagues he hasn't seen since Christmas. I asked him if he could leave by 9 (they have been out since 5) so he would be home around 10.
DS has an important hospital appt first thing in the morning and I wanted to go over what questions we need to ask the consultant.

It's also been a very long day with a teething baby who does not sleep well at the best of times, so have been up and downstairs all eve.

He phoned at 9.25 to say he was leaving, he got distracted chatting and was very apologetic. I accept his apology, but just feel like what I ask isn't that important to him.

If it was reversed I would be keeping an eye on the time and say my goodbyes in preparation to leave at the right time.
But then I HATE being late for anything and 'letting people down' (people pleaser)

Am I being unreasonable to expect him to leave when he says he will?

[Dozer]

Yabu. My dh is like this and it can be annoying, but still think yabu.

[TheLadyEvenstar]

I really think YABU OP.

Appts are worrying but you cannot restrict your DH's socializing hours because of an appt. especially as you have said that due to work commitments he works late.


Many women manage to come through appts, and the preperation for them without having a man with them.

[StanHouseMuir]

YABU - He has form for being late. You wanted to discuss something important. The time for doing so could have been earlier, not after he has been out drinking with his mates for 4 hours.

[verytellytubby]

I don't think your DH has been unreasonable. He rang. It's only 25 minutes.

As a mother of a child with health issues (typing this from Great Ormond Street) I completely understand your anxiety and stress before a big appointment. Having the chat late after he's been drinking is never going to work. Get up 20 minutes earlier.

Hope appointment went well.

[bibbitybobbityhat]

I do hope your ds's hospital appointment goes well this morning.

[Malificence]

A decent husband and father wouldn't have gone out drinking in the first place in that situation.
In any case, I would be utterly furious at him calling 5 minutes later than he should have left, never mind 25, it's about a little thing called respect.

[mumblechum1]

Seriously, Mal? 5 minutes?

We respect each other and let each other know if we're going to be significantly later than we said.

And I speak as someone whose ds1 had major health problems when I say that neither of us would have been bothered if the other had been out for a drink before one of his dozens of consultant appointments - life goes on whatever problems your dc may have, imvho.

[differentnameforthis]

But it ALWAYS happens. (99.99% anyway)

Then realistically, you should have known it would happen. It makes no difference to him what the appointment means, as far s he is concerned, you can go over the questions in the morning!