To want to go and punch my DPs Ex?

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Tbf I am being UR, but today i really dont care.

Hes come home from the solicitors and is heartbroken, i just want to go and hit her round the head!!!

No-one can answer this one unless you tell us more.

yep need the details, but so far i am with you my dps ex is a crazy person delights in hurting him, making him feel like shit and generally making his life hell. two sides two every story and all but its hard to be objective when you love someone who is being beat down.

lol sorry, im just in such a rage.

DP has 2 DS 12, 7 and 3 - He doesnt see his eldest CAFCASS gave up trying to work that one out. They said he should however be seeing his younger 2. For the last 12 months his ex has systamatically drip fed negativey to the DC. They now wont see him. He hasnt seen them for 6 months. He is supposed to be attending mediation with a plan next week. He doesnt know what to suggest, so he went to see a sol. The sol has told him its possible court will order No direct contact.

He was in tears to his brother. He has received a text saying "i win" from his ex within 40 mins. She immediately send a text saying oops wrong person, but its doubtful. His brothers girlfriends roommate is exs mate and she was at the house at the same time DP was speaking to his brother.

I just want to go round and tell her what i think.....

Sorry that should be 2 DS 12 and 3 and 1 DD 7!!!

My dp ex takes an OD everytime she hears my name, we have been together 5 years now you would think with the practise shes had she would have perfected it by now

It's still a bit unclear. You say he doesn't see his eldest - is that from choice or because he's been stopped by his ex?

Unless he's done something very bad, I doubt very much a court would block contact.

I'm sure you feel justified in your situation but that's an ugly thing to say tallulah

A 12yo can make their own mind up about whether or not to see their absent parent - in this case it sounds like the eldest doesn't want to see him.

What is it that you want to say to her? Let your DP and the courts work it out, no need to get involved nor resort to violence - though I'm sure that'd help the situation.

maybe but its her who is hurting her kids everytime , its like a tantrum to her, shes in her 50's ffs she needs to grow up :shrugs

His eldest has chosen not to see DP.

He has been in court for 2 years fighting to see his youngest kids. Apparently the emotional toll this is taking on the DC might make the court decide that it is not in their interests. DSD wont come without her uncle/gran/grandad or someone. Exs tell her they will keep "her safe" DSD is having counselling. The counseller has reported that she has conflicted views towards her father, but that she is consistant in not wanting to see him, that sometimes a childs views make no sense, nor have a basis in fact, but still have to be respected!

I remember your other thread OP. Didn't your DP hit his ex's partner at a handover? It's very rare for the courts to suggest no contact, I think there must be more to this.

We havent been together 5 years. We have been together for 3. Dps ex kicked him out when she was pregnant with youngest.

you seem to know a lot about what the dc atre being told considering you never see them

He did hit Exs DP yes, but it was not at a handover.

Exs DP turned up and told him DC werent coming. Told DP it was his own fault, he was a crap father, that he deserved everything that was happening to him. DP told him to butt out, that it was none of his business. They shoved each other, DP lashed out hit exs DP in eye. He headbutted DP, fight got broken up.

Course it was still a stupid thing to go though

She was having an affair with her now DP.

This kind of behaviour from mothers disgusts me, I cannot stand my childrens father but that is what he is, I have given free access since we split 16 years ago, he can see them when he likes, I don't slag him to them either they make up their own minds.

We might not like our ex partners but they do have rights to see their children.

This woman you speak of is scum, all your partner can do is send birthday/christmas cards and put money away at xmas and birthdays for when they are 18 when he can make things right.

I dont know what they are being told now, i know what she was telling them then.

She sat here in our front room last year, and told her DD when she came downstairs crying because DP had told her off, "aww has nasty daddy scared you, you have to remember that he shouts and is mean because he doesnt know any better, not because there is anything wrong with you"

I nearly chucked her out then!!

well she was kind of right wasnt she!!

ILoveTIFFANY I suppose she was, but i think that kind of constant commenting on someone has influence. I dont think thats how she should be talking about DP to the DCs.

Maybe I am wrong. I dont have DCs so i accept i might be wrong.

Still am cross with her though!!!!!

He told her she couldnt take my diamond ring back to her house