To bring down the swinging knuckle of justice upon DH's shoulder?!

[ICouldDoWithAShandy]

Longtime lurker popping my MN cherry! Greetings one and all!

To set the scene: After a very long and trying day with DD2 3.7 (and the usual before & after school shenanigans of DD2 & DD1 5.6) and with many many long-standing frustrations about currently non-mobile car (flat battery) which is in imminent need of MoT and road tax to remain street-legal.

DH and I were having a discussion about the minutiae of our days and in response to a particularly patronising question from DH, I asked in exasperation, "Why do you feel that I'm incapable of thinking for myself?!" DH: (in usual 'deliberate winding-up for his sport' mode) "Because you're a woman!", so he felt the consequences of the swinging knuckle of justice upon his shoulder. WIBU?!

He is more than a touch sceptical that I will receive independent replies here as it's 'Mums'Net, so I told him that many men tread the boards here too and he 'explained' to me that they must be "under the thumb"... Sigh...

Have you got an article to write?

YABU, your response should have been "get to fuck you sexist prick and sort out your fucking car or I'm phoning the council to get it towed."

Literal or metaphorical "knuckle of justice" ?

Ask him if he still lives in a cave. Oh, and tell him that there are many on here who would verbally rip him to pieces for that remark!

I feel your pain....it must be: 'be a patronising dp day' and we missed the memo!don't let him wind you up, I find the calmer I stay the more wound up he gets and then I get to be all smug grown up :o

YANBU

If my husband had said that to me, I would be sporting a rather fetching pair of big hairy earrings by now.

I did actually e-mail DH today after a particularly patronising message regarding DS football " Do you fucking think I'm new around here you patronising twat?"

So yes, it must be "Patronising DH day"

Oddly enough, he didn't reply and came home kissing my arse.

ilove Article?! Goodness no! I've only just plucked up the courage to finally join in! :)
SarkyLady Literal!
KatieScarlett It's my lifeline car... He has his own...
TheVisitor He has full compulsory disclosure to the thread (over my shoulder). I insisted upon the transparency.
Bumfuzzle Loving your brilliant suggestion opinion

Sorry for the slow typing. The lower half of my laptop keyboard isn't functioning correctly, so I'm having to use the 'on-screen keyboard', sigh!

your dh is right... you are seemingly incapable of thinking for yourself..

tomorrow...ring the bloody local garage, get them to tow the car in and repair!!!! you take control...whats the big deal here...

now pour yourself a large glass of white and run a bath with candles... revenge is a dish best served cold.....

oh and dont hit dh.. i make it a policy not to... even when truly provoked... hit in wallet.. much more pain...

KatieScarlett That email reply did make me laugh heartily!

I've come across a lot of it with the male species.

the body Ahh, yes. That's exactly what I would have done when I was working FT and earning too, but he is the sole breadwinner now, while I am SAHM. I do love my 21 yr old antique classic car though, honestly I do. If only it were ever reliable...

Op where is my personal reply?? How ruuuuude, and I sympathised with you and everything +flounces off+

I am joking btw op :o

hope mrshandy has been suitably shamed into apologising for being so patronising

What a twat, I wouldn't hit though, just ignore him the rest of the evening while soaking in the bath with chocolate and wine after cooking a fantastic meal only for myself and the kids.

My DH does say things like that, but only ever in obvious jest. After a trying day like yours I am not surprised if you reacted like that, though of course serious aggression is never good.

Just tell him to do one back to the 50's.

Hark? Is that his dulcet tones reading the bedtime story to DD1 unasked!? (DD2 flaked a little while ago after their 5am start...)

Ought my begrudging forgiveness be in order?!

i beg your pardon!!! you dont work!!!! bollocks!!! .. i work ft now but as a sahm i bloody well worked as well... raising children IS work...

you need your car... end of.. if you cant afford 2 run 2 cars then you have dhs and let him get bus/tube/train... my dh does...

i never ever want to hear anyone say that they dont work because they are at home with the kids.... its the hardest job there is....

Hold out for chocolate and wine at the very least

honeybee007 Ohhh noo, I'm v v sorry! I didn't mean to leave you out! I think I was a bit too dizzy after nodding furiously in agreement with your comment as I'm usually the v calm one, but a long, frustrating day with DD's does skew my brain a little! I'm usually the calm one when DH & I are having a an argument discussion!

Curses to this keyboard. I'm usually a speedy typist, but the lack of fully functional keys is hampering my reply time!

Sorry, explain again why you can't get the car fixed?

Ignore "winding up for sport" t's only fun for him if he wins.

So in a nutshell he wound you up for sport and you punched him playfully on the shoulder and you want to know if YWBU?

KatieScarlett

Hope yopu don't mind me asking, but is this the usual way you speak to your husband?

Are you also doing an article on perjury?

thebody What sweet sweet music to my ears... I'll be sure to shove his nose to the screen inform him of all of these replies. But, I have a sneaky suspicion he may have already guessed that there's been a few, owing to the loud guffawing, wafting up the stairs, at some of them!

Yes Susan I do mind you asking. But since I'm feeling magnanimous, the answer is only if he is being a patronising fuckwit, like today.

your hit your husband??? am i reading that right???

KatieScarlett

Fair enough. I guess that DH and I are lucky in that we can speak to each other in an adult and mature way.