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To bring down the swinging knuckle of justice upon DH's shoulder?!

96 replies

ICouldDoWithAShandy · 25/05/2011 18:33

Longtime lurker popping my MN cherry! Greetings one and all!

To set the scene: After a very long and trying day with DD2 3.7 (and the usual before & after school shenanigans of DD2 & DD1 5.6) and with many many long-standing frustrations about currently non-mobile car (flat battery) which is in imminent need of MoT and road tax to remain street-legal.

DH and I were having a discussion about the minutiae of our days and in response to a particularly patronising question from DH, I asked in exasperation, "Why do you feel that I'm incapable of thinking for myself?!" DH: (in usual 'deliberate winding-up for his sport' mode) "Because you're a woman!", so he felt the consequences of the swinging knuckle of justice upon his shoulder. WIBU?!

He is more than a touch sceptical that I will receive independent replies here as it's 'Mums'Net, so I told him that many men tread the boards here too and he 'explained' to me that they must be "under the thumb"... Sigh...

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honeybee007 · 25/05/2011 19:15

Shandy it is quite alright I shall forgive you and send you e-cake :o

I'm also a SAHM and am often left with skewed brain....this week is my favourite week because of dp work shift I get evenings to myself (dd in bed at 6) it is utter heaven....suggest to mrshandy that he start working evenings too if he can't be nice OR leave him in charge of dc for a whole day so he knows how skewed brain feels

KatieScarlett2833 · 25/05/2011 19:16

Sounds fabulous Susan, one day I hope to be as adult and mature as you.

ICouldDoWithAShandy · 25/05/2011 19:18

GooGooMuck I am not earning my own money and we rely on just his income at the moment!

Hi Mrworraliberty Don't worry. It was more of a gentle, loving tap... No damage done!

BarbaraBar Eh?! I've read a lot of threads that query whether the OP is writing an article. I'm always a bit, Confused at that! Genuinely! Is stealth journalism rife on MN then?!

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worraliberty · 25/05/2011 19:20

'Mr' Worraliberty? Shock

BooyHoo · 25/05/2011 19:20

swinging knuckle of justice or gentle loving tap? which is it?

honeybee007 · 25/05/2011 19:21

I know there's an anti 'lol' thread at the moment so am very aware of saying it but really I am lol at susantheslut thinking katiescarlett is too mean to her her dh......he must like the arse kicking e,ails coz he came home grovelling

Also op....you didn't actually hit him did you?I took that to be a jokey bit....if you did hit him then skewed brain is no excuse and you should say sorry I think....you can still have your e-cake though because you had a frazzled day like me and chocolate banana crumble cake fixes all skewed brains :)

BarbaraBar · 25/05/2011 19:21

Stealth journalism on MN? I know, who would have thought it?

Hmm
ICouldDoWithAShandy · 25/05/2011 19:22

honeybee007 I have it on video ,very recently, of him volunteering that, "I always say that I wouldn't mind having DD's all the time, but after half an hour, I think I'd probably have a heart attack!" :)

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BooyHoo · 25/05/2011 19:23

so did you actually hit your husband OP?

Butterbur · 25/05/2011 19:24

Book car in for MOT and service. Jump start car from DH's car and drive it there on the day. Job done. Car functional.

ICouldDoWithAShandy · 25/05/2011 19:24

BarbaraBar I'm still learning the ways of MN. Which publications have sourced stories from here then?! Genuinely Confused!

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BarbaraBar · 25/05/2011 19:25

Were you the poster that asked about leaving your children for months to finish a book?

Are you from the US?

honeybee007 · 25/05/2011 19:25

Haha shandy my dp said almost the exact same and our second isn't even born yet....I don't have it on video though.......ponders how to get him to say it again and manage to film it so I can use it when needed in future

honeybee007 · 25/05/2011 19:27

Also shandy you need to answer booyhoo about if you hit your husband for real??

ICouldDoWithAShandy · 25/05/2011 19:32

worraliberty You're not?! Blush apologies!
BooyHoo Still catching up with my replies. Keyboard issues. See^ The SKOJ is my title for a 'loving' tap, when he's, willfully knowingly, spouting bullpoo... Grin

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BarbaraBar · 25/05/2011 19:32

Interesting terminology "knuckle of justice".

Surprised my abusive ex didn't use that description when he was battering me.

BooyHoo · 25/05/2011 19:34

so you tapped his shoulder for being sexist? Confused, really fucking Confused

ICouldDoWithAShandy · 25/05/2011 19:39

Butterbur Garage knows that car is due in . Only prob is, he starts v v early, so always gone by 6! Then school run with DD2 and then with DD1 for the day. Logistical nightmares all round...

BarbaraBar Very flattered that you think I'm a journo! What piqued your journo-dar?! I've always fancied doing a spot creative writing, ever since my school days! :)

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jbcbj · 25/05/2011 19:42

is anyone overreacting here? op, i don't mean you.....

i have laughed at this thread loads and think it might be a bit of a stretch to jump from playfighting to abuse....(while in no way wishing to brush aside anyone else's experiences - barbara Sad )

BooyHoo · 25/05/2011 19:44

really jbcbj? change it around so the OP is a man who brought down the 'swinging knuckle of justice' on his wife.

what would the response be here?

BooyHoo · 25/05/2011 19:45

i personally amd finding this whole thread incredibly fucked up fropm start to finish. i can't believe how blase OP is being about this.

ICouldDoWithAShandy · 25/05/2011 19:46

BooyHoo Shocker eh?! I though most male persons these days were in touch with their adult metrosexual side too!! A bit of sexism never did anyone any harm eh... Confused
BarbaraBar It's a running joke between us... It's never meant seriously. Don't worry, he has his own little foibles too, he just hasn't named his... Nothing whatsoever like 'battering'. Surprised that you're even trying to draw a comparison!

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BooyHoo · 25/05/2011 19:48

shandy i dont get your point at all with taht last post. are you actually drunk?

susantheslut · 25/05/2011 19:49

ooyHoo Wed 25-May-11 19:44:33
really jbcbj? change it around so the OP is a man who brought down the 'swinging knuckle of justice' on his wife.

what would the response be here?

Theres no argument there. Quite sick in my honest opinion.

jbcbj · 25/05/2011 19:50

on mn i reckon abuse would be cried. irl, i suspect in the context of a loving, fun, joking relationship such as the op has with her dh it would be considered playfighting. i also suspect that "swinging knuckle of justice" is a euphemism designed to make something nothing more than slight contact (a playful tap) sound like a dire punishment - again, in the context of a loving and healthy relationship. context is everything.

but this thread was (as i read it) meant in fun and jest and i have no wish to derail it. as i said, i also do not wish to trivialise anyone else's experiences but i really think here crying abuse may be a little strong. jmo. Confused