to be narked that my birthday was so shit

[FurKnickersAndNoCoat]

30 today (woo fucking hoo). awesome day. school run, ironing, sainsburys, home, fried egg on toast (ok that bit was nice), painted skirting boards in dd bedroom, packed up dining room and most of bedroom (moving on may 30th), made tea, sat on sofa had a pre mixed margarita that was shit, he stayed in pub playing pool until ten, watched celebrity juice. end of. rocking huh.

Yes, that sounds like shit - poor you Happy birthday from Sydney for what it's worth, I guess it's a bit late to think that maybe your day will get better.

sposed to be going out for dinner tomorrow but i dont expect much more than kfc.

aw, that's a bit poor! You are being completely REASONABLE!

Can you celebrate on the weekend? Happy Birthday, albeit a bit late .

nah we have his lovely rude ungrateful unpleasant violent children this weekend and then me and dd are leaving the following weekend. awesome.

Aww sorry you had a crap day.

Happy birthday. Could you do anything nice
tomorrow to treat yourself?

i might go to the local wetherspoons tomorrow and knock back 9 pints before lunchtime. i dont drink beer but i could learn...couldn't i??

never to late to learn.
Tell us more about the charming children!

Now you know you are being unreasonable for expecting anything resembling a nice birthday when you've got kiddiewinkles.
At least 2 of my birthdays were spent watching DDs sportsday ( I wanted to be at S/Day but on my Birthday also wanted to be having a nice pub lunch!!).
Spent the morning of my 21st giving and receiving practice injections- you'd have thought I could've been excepmt but no.

oh there isn't enough time in the world. when they first started coming over and met my dd she was 2, she wanted to play lego on the floor, they wanted to lie on the floor with pillows playing video games (they seven and eight years older than her) so they grabbed her around the throat and threw her on a sofa. (i was in the kitchen making their lunch).

(i only have one, she is 8, he is not her bio father, he has nowt to do with her, or hasn't for last 2 years)

Sounds like a plan

Maybe [grasping at straws] your dp/dh has a surprise planned
for the weekend?

noooooo....and your partner is their father? How did he react?
Did he treat you with extra love and kindness on your birthday?

it was some years ago now i think he was angry but i really cant remember. they are allowed to (literally) do whatever they want at home, literally anything, and we have had them for around 1 or 2 days every 2/3 weeks.

no he went to the pub and played pool until ten pm :-)

he has nothing planned. as this is my last weekend here until i move away i had asked if he could put off having them so we could do things together, visit special places etc. but he said no.

do you mind me asking - are you moving away just you and your little girl?
How can you put up with him allowing them to do ANYTHING?

yes it is just us moving away.

Oh i haven't i have said and done a lot over the years but you can't change much in one/two days when every good bit is undone when they go home.

well ive ranted enough it's time for bed. yawn yawn. :-)

Celebrate your birthday with your daughter after the move. Good luck. Night night x

It's never too late to learn how to quaff a pint or 10, and Weatherspoons is as good a place as any to practise.

Look forward to your move and BELATED HAPPY BIRTHDAY

Happy Birthday FurKnickers. Yes it was a bit crap. I think we all expect something better but RL is a takeaway if we're lucky I think. Maybe fine 5 minutes to do something nice however small, just for you tomorrow. oh and YANBU