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to think this is a request too far?

94 replies

Helenagrace · 18/05/2011 20:10

My brother is getting married in September. My dd is a bridesmaid. I've had an email from the bride stating that all close family members are to wear red for the wedding as that is her chosen colour scheme. I thought she wanted us to wear a bit of red, maybe as an accent colour, but no she actually wants us all to wear red outifts. All the men have to wear a tie supplied by her.

I look hideous in red and have point blank refused. I am now coming under pressure from my mother to cave in.

Am I being unreasonable or is this normal bride behaviour (if it is I was waaaaay too laid back!).

I'm guessing I would be unreasonable to go all out to find the colour that clashes most with red (coral? turquoise?)?

OP posts:
shakey1500 · 18/05/2011 20:40

YANBU. What a bizarre request Confused

Friend of mine got married and insisted every female wear a hat. I am not a hat person, just don't suit them. Told her this many many times before the day NOT to expect me to wear one. I went sans hat :)

GastonTheLadybird · 18/05/2011 20:41

YANBU

What a bridezilla! I reckon you could get away with a nice dress that has red accessories.

If you want to subtly piss her off why don't you wear this lovely red leather number?

MadamDeathstare · 18/05/2011 20:43

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heleninahandcart · 18/05/2011 20:46

Hilarious! the red, her dress, love the ketchup and sausages. Go for the red, complete with Princess Beatrice style 'fascinator' made from paper chains... tempting Grin

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Helenagrace · 18/05/2011 20:48

I forgot to add that she's making dd wear a completely hideous gold coloured dress.

I now have a partner in crime - my aunt just sent me a suitably rebellious text suggesting we go shopping together. Thanks to my Mumsnet personal shoppers I know exactly what to look for...

mwahhahahahaha

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allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 18/05/2011 20:51

dont forget the shoes

manicbmc · 18/05/2011 20:52

My dd would love some of those shoes. Grin

cuttingpicassostoenails · 18/05/2011 20:53

Helena, please,please post some wedding pics.
Even my batty SiL didn't go that far.

twooter · 18/05/2011 20:55

Allsquareknickers - you are right. That definitely wins Grin

cerealqueen · 18/05/2011 20:55

Jedward have some spare outfits that they probably need to sell.

www.jedwardgenius.com/apps/blog/show/6976359-check-out-jedward-s-eurovision-outfits-

WobblyWidgetOnTheScooper · 18/05/2011 20:55

YANBU, what a weird request. Understandable to choose the clothes for bridesmaids (though I didn't - I let my DSDs choose their own clothes, one of whom wore trousers - stepmum of the year award for me please :o) - but the guests? Twatty McTwatterson.

dixiechick1975 · 18/05/2011 20:57

Isn't red the colour traditionally worn by the groom's mistress to the wedding? Very bizarre choice of colour.

I've heard of the black and white one in real life - thought it very odd.

LetThereBeRock · 18/05/2011 21:01

'that is possibly the worst bridezilla idea I have ever heard on here!'

You obviously haven't seen the thread where a bride to be complained because a relative,didn't want to wear a the huge,hot pink,Jordan style,dresses she'd chosen for the bridesmaids.

She also wanted her bridesmaids,grown women,to carry sparkly wands,and wanted the groom and best man in white suits and pink ties. That was a classic thread.Grin

OP.YANBU btw.

WinePig · 18/05/2011 21:09

ROFL!! She is going to look back one day and feel very silly.

Wear whatever you like. Dictating to your guests what to wear!! Whatever next?

Takeresponsibility · 18/05/2011 21:20

IF I ever get married again I will wear red.

Everyone else can wear what they like - or nothing at all for all I care.

sue52 · 18/05/2011 21:24

As a wedding guest I have been asked to wear clothes that tone with a colour scheme (bad enough), never have I been ordered to wear one particular colour. I think your future SIL wins the award for mad Bridezilla of the month.

psiloveyou · 18/05/2011 21:34

My SiL insisted everyone wear gold to her wedding. She even sent me details if the dress she thought I should wear, cheeky cow.

Please please go for the turquoise and make sure you report back Grin

Bohica · 18/05/2011 21:43

I'd wear this

purplepidjin · 18/05/2011 21:56

"When I am an old woman, I shall wear purple

with a red hat that doesn't go, and doesn't suit me."

Something like this?

Sqee · 18/05/2011 21:59

This would look rather snappy!

hester · 18/05/2011 22:13

At my grandad's last wedding, we were all asked to wear peach or coral. The bride was an ex-nun and all her old mates from the convent pitched up, dutifully attired. Can you imagine two dozen middle-aged nuns all dressed like marie rose sauce? The photos looked like a prawn orgy.

(I wore navy.)

Sqee · 18/05/2011 22:16

I would of wore a full habit and tutted the whole time.

elphabadefiesgravity · 18/05/2011 22:18

YANBU. Unless the bride is going to pay for everyone o buy new outfits it is ureasonable.

I have a two or three outfilts that I wear to weddings according to the time of year. I buy clothes that will last several years. There is no way I could afford to go out and buy a special outfit for a wedding.

And I was always told red was an unluky colour at a wedding.

troisgarcons · 18/05/2011 22:19

If she's paying for co-ordinating outfits I'd waer anything !!!!! - persoanlly I'd fuck up her colour scheme and wear something totally contrasting