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To wonder why people let themselves get fat?

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Judgeywedgiepants · 17/05/2011 09:15

I am frequently amazed at the number of women at 15/17/20 stone who suddenly realise how fat they are and want to do something about it.
Why do people let themselves get so fat? It's unhealthy, unsightly and very life limiting.
Why not just keep an eye on your weight and keep it nice and steady?

OP posts:
BimboNo5 · 17/05/2011 14:32

Wow Nijinsky you may be perfectly thin but you are an utter clown! Have a medal

nijinsky · 17/05/2011 14:32

OK, off to the doctors to get medicated up. "Oh dear me, Mister Doctor. I have a personality. I cannot help expressing opinions on things which other people might disagree with. And I have a terrible urge to be sarcastic". Ooops! My bad!

Fat girl's club.

equinox · 17/05/2011 14:33

Some people look great in the face even when they are huge and they still maintain such a nice youthful appearance however I only have to be half a stone overweight and it seems to go all over my face only and I look ancient!

Perhaps they still look great? Some people look good no matter what their weight.

SoloIsAHotCougar · 17/05/2011 14:33

I have one thing to say to the OP.

Karma is a Bitch

wordfactory · 17/05/2011 14:33

You might also want to metion seeing things that aren't there pace DTG's abusive comments.

Because...whispers...you're the only one who has seen any.

philmassive · 17/05/2011 14:34

I am frequently amazed at the number of women who are massive twats who suddenly realise what massive twats they are and want to do something about it.
Why do people let themselves get turn into massive twats? It's unhealthy, unsightly and very life limiting.
Why not just stop being a massive twat or stay or off the internet?

dickie, that is class.

BlooferLady · 17/05/2011 14:35

Good god! Shock

Officially the most hilairiously unreasonable poster I've ever seen on MN!

Equinox, I am one of those very people. One of the reasons I've never been strongly motivated to get slim is that I have a terribly nice face that never gets fat. Sorry to call a spade a spade. But what the Lord giveth with my fine nose and blue eyes he taketh with the size of my bottom Grin

patindahat · 17/05/2011 14:37

vollman.blogspot.com/2006/11/reasons-to-envy-fat-people.html reasons to be cheerful.

yoshiLunk · 17/05/2011 14:41

I'm still waiting for nijinsky to direct us to where SDTG has hurled abuse Confused

wordfactory · 17/05/2011 14:42

Yup, me too...

ExitPursuedByAKitten · 17/05/2011 14:44

Oh boy does fat float! If trying to float on my stomach my huge arse is always bobbing up to the surface, and my tree trunk legs Grin

BlooferLady · 17/05/2011 14:45

We might be a while. Hope SDTG is ok

nijinsky · 17/05/2011 14:45

Serious point though. There are obviously a multitude of factors involved in being overweight, some of them interlinked. Eating more calories than you expend, sedentary lifestyle, medication, head in the sand. There also seems to be some kind of weird pyschology, where some fat people seem to see being fat as good and virtuous, and slim as nasty and deserving of harsh comments. Some fat people would also have you believe that men nearly always prefer fatter women, and that in order to get a man to stay with you, you have to be quite plump. (despite virtually all media images suggesting quite the opposite). In fact, in some ways, being fat seems to be a bit of a parallel universe involving kidding yourself that something is one way when it is another.

I find even the terminology used by some overweight people is rather disengenious. They talk about thin and curvy people. Not slim and fat people. Now no-one looking at me in real life has ever described me as anything other than slim but apparantly to fat people on here I am thin. Distortion of attitudes, anyone? To me, someone like Monica Bellucci or Kim Kardashian is curvy, but not Dawn French or Kathy Brand.

Again seriously, I am honestly shocked and horrified at the amount of weight state of some people. ie how overweight they are, how it affects their movement, how it distorts their features, how it affects what clothes they wear. Nearly all of my friends are slim and active too, so I always find it shocking when I go to the supermarket or round the shops. i would really hate to be unable to walk properly, but instead to waddle, due to carrying too much weight. Its also a British/American thing - people in Holland will generally be told they are too fat if they look like this. Sorry if this is offensive.

beesimo · 17/05/2011 14:45

NIJINSKY

You are making a holy show of yourself, you are the most aggresive po faced person when you get going. I was trying to inject a bit of humour into what has turned into a lot of spiteful ridiculous ranting-not just by you.

My DH is like myself a human being who may fancy others, but we don't step out on our marriage because we love and respect each other and when we made our vows we made them for life. No woman in this world fat or thin is a threat to me as I trust him implicity as he does me. I don't get upset if I see him looking at a attractive person because frankly I'm not insecure or jealous he wears my ring on his finger not through his bloody nose I even 'let' him have female friends!

You are not exactly a barrel of laughs now and if you don't get a hold of that sarcastic nastiness you won't have to worry about what size you are 'to keep a man' as you will end up sitting in a empty room arguing with the wallpaper!

yoshiLunk · 17/05/2011 14:47

O H . M Y . G O D

BlooferLady · 17/05/2011 14:47

'arguing with wallpaper!'

piprabbit · 17/05/2011 14:49

So it's OK for you to call me fat - but I'm not allowed to call you thin?

nijinsky · 17/05/2011 14:53

Its fine for you to call me thin if I am thin piprabbit. However I have said that I am not. If my bones stick out all over my body then I would agree I would be thin then. Likewise its fine for me to call you fat if you are indeed fat.

So why do the plumper posters on here think they are fat? Is it all down to medication? And why do they stay that way? Does being fat make people happier?

glassofwhiteanybody · 17/05/2011 14:55

I would think some people are overweight because they eat more than they should and don't exercise enough, but for many people it's far more complex than that

I feel quite moved by some of the personal stories people have shared here.

wordfactory · 17/05/2011 14:57

people have answered but you aren't listening.

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 17/05/2011 14:58

njinsky you've had it explained to you over and over and over again what can make some people fat, and some of the horrible emotional factors involved.
Surely 300 posts later even you can see it just isn't as simple as someone allowing themselves to get fat.
You've clearly seriously upset a vulnerable member of this forum and don't appear to give two fucks.
You show no ability to empathise with anyone at all and have no understanding of anyone that isn't exactly like you.

Despite all of this you show quite deep unhappiness in a lot of your posts and I wonder what your motivation is to keep this going when you've seen so many responses already.

Bennifer · 17/05/2011 15:01

This is never going to a popular thread. Assuming MN is representative of the general population, only 40% will be a healthy weight. 60% will be overweight or obese, and 25% will be obese

BulletWithAName · 17/05/2011 15:02

To me, someone like Monica Bellucci or Kim Kardashian is curvy, but not Dawn French or Kathy Brand.

I do have to agree with this tbh. "Curvy" seems to be the new word for overweight/obese/larger framed these days for some reason.

ShoutyHamster · 17/05/2011 15:02

All the fields have been tarmaced over so we can't toil in them anymore and, in the worst cases, have had a McDonalds built on them.

So 'tis a two-pronged attack so to speak

wordfactory · 17/05/2011 15:03

glassofwhite I too am moved by some of the things shared here which have only supported what I already knew - that people put on weight for a whole host of reasons many of them bound up in esteem...

I've never been fat myself but I can see how depression might strike any one of us, or tragedy and then our whole world view might recalibrate.

I also wonder how thos ehwo are deliberately hurting others would feel if their own DC were being hurt in that way.