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AIBU?

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Original poster

To get totally put off dinner because DH thinks it's ok to fart whilst I am cooking?

68 replies

MumblingRagDoll · 15/05/2011 18:30

I hae spent 2 hours prepping dinner and cooking it...it's 2 mins from being ready and he...knoiwng how digusting I fnd it....farted in the kitchen with all the food half on plates and sitting in dishes.

I know I may seem full on but I have OCD andhe KNOWS that this is a trigger for me. It stinks of shit in the room where I was laying out food.

AIBU to just sit here now and leave him and FIL and the kids to sort thrmselves out?

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MumblingRagDoll · 15/05/2011 18:30

Oh and it never just slipped out ether...he actually lifted his arse up from the seat.

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MumblingRagDoll · 15/05/2011 18:34

Come on....need opinions.

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peggotty · 15/05/2011 18:36

My DH would fart anytime anywhere and in front of anyone but I believe if I had OCD and he knew it could trigger it, then even he would hold it in. YANBU. What is his explanation?

abbierhodes · 15/05/2011 18:36

Would you have been so rude as to have made a fuss if it had been your FIL who farted? Or if one of your children was too young to control it? You're the one who is out of order here, sounds like you drew massive attention to a bodliy function.

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MumblingRagDoll · 15/05/2011 18:37

He just says sorry....and that he forgot or didnt think! He does seem contrite...but even without OCD isn't it pretty gross behavour anyway?

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DontCallMePeanut · 15/05/2011 18:37

YANBU! hugs he's been completely unreasonable.

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MumblingRagDoll · 15/05/2011 18:38

abbierhods......rude???? Me???? Are you effing kidding?

DH is no old or young....he can control it and of course I did not say anything in front of FIL!

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AppleyEverAfter · 15/05/2011 18:38

YANBU, it grosses me out too and even more so, belching. But since I'm pregnant, the boot's on the other foot now, oh yes! I can't help it. Blush

bushymcbush · 15/05/2011 18:38

Hmm .. well I don't get too worked up about this sort of thing myself, personally - the family who farts together stays together, as a wise mnetter once told me. Mind you, if they are stinky ones, I think the offender should try to control themselves around other members of the family / communal areas.

However ... if he KNOWS that you hate this, and he did it deliberately, then he was being extremely incondsiderate IMO, and you should indeed leave them to it if you really don't feel like eating.

DontCallMePeanut · 15/05/2011 18:39

Abbierhodes, would you not think it would have been possible for him to contain it until he was out of the kitchen?

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MumblingRagDoll · 15/05/2011 18:39

He seems to turn into some kind of man beast when he is with FIL. His awlays stink.

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Yama · 15/05/2011 18:40

YANBU.

He was disrespectful.

Abbierhodes - I don't get why you think op was rude.

BluddyMoFo · 15/05/2011 18:41

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CurrySpice · 15/05/2011 18:42

Personally it wouldn't bother me too much

But if he knows it upsets you, then he is being a bit of a knob

So so, YANBU

Andwhat is it with some blokes who seem to revert to school boys about poo and wee and farts Hmm

BingRugmole · 15/05/2011 18:42

It's just a fart. I wish a fart was all I had to get worked up about in life.

abbierhodes · 15/05/2011 19:03

To answer the questions aimed at me:

"AIBU to just sit here now and leave him and FIL and the kids to sort thrmselves out?"

This quote suggests that the OP made a huge fuss...although later she says she didn't say anything.

" MumblingRagDoll Sun 15-May-11 18:34:18

Come on....need opinions."

This quote suggests that the OP is rude in general.

EricNorthmansMistress · 15/05/2011 19:14

OP has OCD and cannot eat the food knowing that he has farted near it. I'd be pissed off if DH let a stinky one rip at the kitchen table but I'd get over it. Presumably OP's DH knows it's a bit harder for her. OP is there anything you can do to get past this?

whiteflame · 15/05/2011 19:15

well i think your DP was rude OP. OCD or not, who the hell wants to sit in a fart smell, especially when dinner is being served?

Would you all really deliberately do a loud, smelly fart when people are sitting down to dinner? You wouldn't go to the bathroom and do it???

beckibicker · 15/05/2011 19:16

stop making a big deal. Its air, it wont hurt you or your food

BingRugmole · 15/05/2011 19:17

Seeing as this post was made 45 minutes ago, I'm assuming the smell of the fart in question has now dispersed? So is there really any need to 'get past this'? It's a fart, for fuck's sake, not a bereavement.

whiteflame · 15/05/2011 19:18

I assume BingRugmole, that 'get past it' was in reference to farts in general being an OCD trigger, not this particular incident.

BimboNo5 · 15/05/2011 19:19

I think its disgusting bad manners in the kitchen, I keep telling DH this(repeatedly). YADNBU

BluddyMoFo · 15/05/2011 19:20

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ClarenceChudbukitThe3rd · 15/05/2011 19:31

He probably did it to mask the smell of the food

Ha ha ha ha ha ha

Sorry I think thats funny

lionheart · 15/05/2011 19:37

Yanbu or rude.