to think DH shouldn't play 5 a side during Sunday bathtime

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Caveat - DH is a great, hands-on dad, does lots round the house etc so can't complain but he works long long hours. Rarely home for bathtime even bed time during the week. So Saturday/Sunday am so happy to have a bit of help. Now his 5 a side has moved to 6pm-7.30pm on a Sunday (right over the bedtime routine). I say I'm not happy and don't want him to go. He says I'm being unreasonable and he would never complain if it was me wanting to go out.

Am I being a witch?

Change the bathtime/bedtime routine a bit. How old are the kids?

Compromise is always the best solution if you can reach it. :)

yes you are!!

Quid pro quo - can you wrangle an extra lie in or some time out during the day out of it?
I think you are being a tad unreasonable, can see why but he is taking exercise which is good. How many DCs do you have - if it's 5 then you maybe have a case.

YABU.

you've listed all the stuff he does and now you moan he's going out to play football? cut the guy some slack, change yours and DC's routine

YAB a little bit U

i'd go as a family to watch

ask him to take them both to the park for a couple of hours Sunday morning after he has delivered an almond croissant and the Sunday papers to you in bed

trade for me is the answer

YABU

He deserves some down time to have a bit of fun.

YABU

upahill I know I am really! Just that he already is late one night suring the week for swimming, then Sat morning he goes off and does another sport. NOw this saga on a Sunday night too. Kids are young so have to get them in bed, read to etc for 7pm. I guess I just hate bathtimes

sorry YABU, if this is an established team and friends then it's not his fault the time has changed and you can't expect him to just drop his game.

if he was thinking of starting up a new hobby/club over bathtime that would be different.

make sure you get time 'off' for yourself some other time though. maybe saturday bed/bath if that is a particularly challenging task.

Compromise. He can't help it if his 5 a side is on at that time.

He takes sole charge on Saturday bath-n-bed while you mumsnet and drink wine?

Or - just don't wash them on a Sunday night. Do bath on Saturday, and let them get a bit grubby. Nobody will notice.

Agree YABU. Is it really that much of a palavar to bath children? It's quite a nice fun time, not exactly exhausting!

do they have to have a bath every night? can't it be daytime?

is swimming a club/training session? if not, and it's just something he does alone then ask him to move that.

Yabu

It depends on how old they are too
if there both little then it's different to if they're over 5 imo

Hmm, just read your latest post - he already has one evening, and Saturday morning, now Sunday night as well.

Tell me - how much time do you have off?

If it was just the Sunday night I might say YABU, but he does seem to have a fair amount of man-hobby time already.

Oh, I think he gets plenty of man time. Not to mention that work often takes him abroad.

What really annoys me is that all these men from the village had a choice to make football a.m. Sunday or p.m. Sunday. I wouldn't have objected to a.m. but why at that time. In fairness DH had voted for a.m.

Why don't you both take them swimming on a Sunday afternoon and shower them there, then no need for Sunday night bath.

Compromise is the key, and he sounds like a good guy.

YABU. Make sure you have time out too to do your own thing.

I'm sure his work abroad makes for money in the bank though, and does he get to see abroad, or just another hotel room?

bluddy - hmm outside interest????

work, kids, PTA, helping at school, cleaning, shopping, work, kids, PTA, helping at school, cleaning, shopping ..........and if I can cram it in once every two weeks a spot of swimming or piano!

(I'm not as bitter as I sound LOL - it is all my own fault ).