My DD (2) and a dog question please ...

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I think I might be being unreasonable here ?

We went to visit a very good friend of mine for coffee ,she has a gorgeous Dachshund and I have a gorgeous 2 year old

The visit kicked off with her dog barking and barking ,and BARKING !
DD was terrified and screamed ,and screamed and SCREAMED !

This went on for a while till my friend suggested that all her dog needed was for me to greet him properly and he would then settle on the sofa .

So ,I did a big hello ,rubbed his tummy, the whole works ... showed DD the LOVELY DOG and he continued to yap at us .

It was difficult ,DD kept clinging to my leg ,dog kept sniffing round her ~she started screaming again and so on ...

I think at this point her dog should have either been put in the garden or behind a closed door( for a bit) to cool down .

I think I might be being unreasonable because he is a treasured member of her family ,he is a lovely dog he lives there and as his owner she didn't see the need .

But,it was just for a short visit ,a quick coffee and a chance to have a quick catch up .

Nobody could hear themselves think ,let alone speak !

I promise I will take advice

I do not think the child should have been removed. I think the owner should have had enough control to tell it to stop sniffing and barking . Certainly if the dog is in a childs face when outside barking like that the parents wont be very polite about it.

Good morning from the US

Thanks for all the perspectives here .

Although the dog was sniffing ,barking and jumping up (he is allowed on the sofa) at my DD ,he was also doing it to me

This made for a very difficult situation ,as even on my lap she didn't feel safe !
When we arrived she was very much looking forward to the visit ,and is normally a very calm just 2 year old (not nearly 3 )

I know he was over-excited as he was wagging his tail and peeing too .

So,even when I tried to calm DD on my lap ,he would follow us there .

I would try again ,put her down ~he would try to jump up on her etc...they have quite big claws lol!

Anyway, I am going to wait for a bit and she will can have her coffees here for the moment -as to be honest, it was no treat for me !

I have two large dogs, who both get over-excited when visitors come. They're told to lie down until the visitor is settled and wants to say hello, and if they won't calm down they are removed.

I would think myself extremely rude if I invited someone over and reacted to their frightened, very young child by telling the friend to leave or remove her child! This little girl is only 2yrs old, and it's nigh on impossible to reason with a child that age when they're freaking out about something. Even if the child's reaction was what was fuelling the dog's over-excitement, I'd remove the dog simply to ensure it didn't get carried away and nip or bite.

Dog owners are entitled to behave however they like in their own homes, as are their dogs. They can lie on the sofa and eat from your plate and sleep in your bed and I really don't mind.
But if I felt uncomfortable in your house, or my child was afraid, I'd just leave. You can socialise your animal using someone else's children.
Neither of mine dislike dogs, and have been taught how to behave around them when encountered out and about.
But being in the same room as a yappy and over-excited animal? Why should I do something I don't want to, or inflict it on my child for the sake of a coffee?
Not worth the stress.

I haven't read all the thread, so forgive any repetition. I'm a dog owner, my dog is a treasured member of the family. He's a very calm sort, not that interested in outsiders who come into the house unless he knows them. I've just had a ging of DS's friends around for the afternoon and their mammies for a cuppa at the same time. Two of the mammies are afraid of dogs although one makes an exception for my very lovely mutt. The other has an irrational fear of dogs. So what do we do? The dog goes out in the garden. End of. People first, animals second no matter how much a part of the family the dog is.

When my DS was a toddler, we were visiting my ILs who had a very yappy Yorkie. She was barking aggressively at DS (who was minding his own business) and I asked MIL, grandmother of my DS!!, to put the dog in the utility room and she refused saying it was the dog's home. I have never forgiven or forgotten it.

It's not a big deal. She should have put the dog out. YADNBU.